Am i wrong? Help needed!

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NewWine

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Such a tough place to be. I am so sorry you're in such a situation. I really can't offer any other advice than what's been offered, so I will just pray for God's guidance and protection in your marriage, and peace as you endure all of this.

When my husband and I were first married, there was a lady at work who would come to the house sometimes with her friend, and we would go to her house sometimes as well. She was married, but I noticed a few out-of-the-way things about her manner. I just told him to watch her, that she was after him. He kinda laughed it off, thinking I was just being jealous. After all she was a lady machinist (he's an engineer), and well that's just something I can never be for him. A couple weeks later he tells me I was right, and she wouldn't be coming over to the house any more. I never asked for details, but she only worked there a few more days anyways. Sometimes men just don't see things as fast as we can. Just making him aware is great first step, and now, like you said, it's up to them to control. Perhaps praying together over this situation would being you two closeness and peace in the situation? I don't know really, but I will continue to pray for you.

Peace!!
 
secularhermit

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I´m sorry what you are seen there. :(

That´s normal! Feeling the possibility of being cheated on hurts (1) but
I don´t see it "normal" what you´re "witnessing" (2) considering another person "inferior" or "too poor" (with that disdain) because she surely had "something" he saw or touched those days you were not "there".

Once a person gives (3) whatever thing given, there´s no right to say "mine" or "our": "...eating the fish she bought with our money ..."
 
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Youth and sex appeal is stronger than this predicament: "...but he and my oldest son think I am NUTS for being jealous of someone over there who has nothing."
 
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Cindy12

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secularhermit said:
Youth and sex appeal is stronger than this predicament: "...but he and my oldest son think I am NUTS for being jealous of someone over there who has nothing."
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I guess I am not really good at reading into things. I don't know what this means.
 
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Cindy12

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secularhermit said:
I´m sorry what you are seen there. :(

That´s normal! Feeling the possibility of being cheated on hurts (1) but
I don´t see it "normal" what you´re "witnessing" (2) considering another person "inferior" or "too poor" (with that disdain) because she surely had "something" he saw or touched those days you were not "there".

Once a person gives (3) whatever thing given, there´s no right to say "mine" or "our": "...eating the fish she bought with our money ..."
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Again, I am not good at deciphering things, but the money was "ours" and it came out of "our joint bank account". Who knows if she even bought fish with that money, she could have bought shoes and shirts. No one really knows. I don't know if I consider her poor, but she does live in terribly poor conditions with no appliances, no running water in the house, no tables and chairs. But poor? I don't know. She may have a lot more than I do. She is 32 and my husband is 53. Either way, we all answer to God ... so I can't really judge. He will.
 
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pwrnJC

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UH..I have heard an audible voice in the past, directly from GOD...So has many of my fellow brothers and sisters. one of my CHRISTIANS friends, sitting with me in church, rushed out the door. She had heard a very clear voice saying "GO HOME, NOW!!!!!
Thank GOD she listened and obeyed, for she saved her house from burning down..as something on her stove had boiled over and was ready to ignite. Never ASSUME that GOD does as you think HE does....HE just may fool ya.
 
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Cindy12

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pwrnJC said:
UH..I have heard an audible voice in the past, directly from GOD...So has many of my fellow brothers and sisters. one of my CHRISTIANS friends, sitting with me in church, rushed out the door. She had heard a very clear voice saying "GO HOME, NOW!!!!!
Thank GOD she listened and obeyed, for she saved her house from burning down..as something on her stove had boiled over and was ready to ignite. Never ASSUME that GOD does as you think HE does....HE just may fool ya.
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Wait, wait, what??? Are you saying God isn't the final judge? Pardon me if I sound ignorant, but I don't get what you mean?? So today when the lady from Honduras messaged his facebook, (her typical God Bless you Joe, have a good day) .... he told me why not I message her back. So I did. Said this was his wife Cindy and i hoped she and the children were well. GET THIS ... she said, hello Cindy -- you and your husband have been a blessing to my family. Thank you. Then she sent ME a picture of her in some little dress and heels, smiling and on the bottom it said BLESS YOU Cindy. I guess I'm going to them too. That was the end of that conversation. But, my husband and I were riding through the small mall outlet this afternoon and on the way out, there stood a lady on the corner with 2 small children in a stroller. She held a sign that said "I lost my job and cannot feed my 2 children, please help". My heart WRENCHED seeing those two babies out in this blazing heat with her (its 93 here) and she was mouthing to cars as they went by ... "please" .... please ... we turned around and got out, gave her $50 and the phone number to our church (we have a food kitchen and clothing pantry we told her about) ... I may be assuming, but she could be illegal here; otherwise I figure she could get food stamps for her and the babies. She thanked us much and went into the Publix Supermarket with her children to buy food. My husband said to me as we left, that maybe we need to take care of the ones in our country right now instead of outside the country ... just an update.
 
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