Physical Attractiveness is Vain

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VioletReigns

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Isaiah 53 reads regarding Jesus;
2. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him,
nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.
3. He was despised and rejected by mankind,
a man of suffering, and familiar with pain.
Like one from whom people hide their faces
he was despised, and we held him in low esteem
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Jesus was not a physically attractive man. He was unlike the people who are praised in high society, the executive business world or in the entertainment industry because he doesn't compare with them in appearance. People looked down on Jesus and some even avoided looking at him. Jesus was considered a reject.

Abram (Abraham) told his beautiful wife Sarai (Sarah) to tell a half-truth and tell the Egyptians she was Abram’s sister. Abram was afraid Pharaoh would lust after Sarai’s beauty and kill Abram so he could have his wife legally. Abram was so afraid, he would have allowed his wife to sleep with Pharaoh to keep from being murdered. Years later, Abraham’s son Isaac repeated his father’s same deception and had his beautiful wife Rebekah lie to Abimelech and say she was Isaac’s sister.

Beauty is vain and deceitful in every single example in the Bible. Take the story of Esther. Her cousin Mordecai had his beautiful young cousin Hadassah hide the fact she was a Jew and changed her name to Esther. Mordecai told her to appear before King Ahasuerus so her beauty would cause him to take her as a wife and make her queen to ensure safety for the Jews. This was not a fairytale marriage, as Esther became one wife of many to the lustful, boozing king. Thereafter, she needed royal permission to even approach her husband or she’d be killed.

Bathsheba’s beauty attracted King David and ultimately he committed adultery with her and murdered her husband when she became pregnant. Their baby died soon after birth. When David married her, Bathsheba joined the ranks of all his other wives. Like Queen Esther, Queen Bathsheba did not have the freedom to approach her husband without royal authorization.

Samson used his super strength and male ego to attract one seductive woman after another. As you know, his life story ended in tragedy. As did King David’s son Absalom. Absalom was known as the handsomest man in his father’s kingdom. His pride got the best of him as he went to war against his own father, made conquests with his father’s wives & concubines, and caused division in the kingdom. His life ended in a horrible, humiliating death.

King Solomon was blessed by God with the gift of great wisdom. Nevertheless, he became so overindulgent in everything he lusted after, that it drained him of strength of life. Realizing late in his life that the flesh could not satisfy, he sunk to rock bottom in manic depression and summed his life up with these words, “All is vanity.”

On the other hand, the followers of Jesus Christ were given access to the throne of God, communication with the Lord 24/7, friendship with the Lord, unfailing love, amazing grace, forgiveness of sins, abundant life, answered prayer, spiritual wisdom, perfect peace, unspeakable joy, unity in spirit, liberty, burdens lifted, needs met, there’s no end to the blessings we have in Jesus. And, neither Jesus nor His people gave any credence to the outward, to making themselves look physically attractive. In fact, we’re taught, “From now on we know no one according to the flesh.” The outward has no bearing on our worth in Christ Jesus. None. “Bodily exercise profits little,” as well. It’s ok to want to be healthy; it’s another story when your motive is to get the world to lust after you.

Anyhow, I wrote this in response to the many posts I read by people who think they are not attractive. No matter what the world tries to sell you about beauty, it’s all vanity. Beauty cannot guarantee happiness, fidelity, security, or satisfaction. In fact, it WILL guarantee disappointment, loss, humiliation, adultery, depression, loneliness, & emptiness if you make it your focus.
 
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purgedconscience

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I Samuel chapter 16 verse 7

But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
 
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I love how encouraging this is! And makes me think again about looking modesty versus looking showy
 
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BarlyGurl

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I Samuel chapter 16 verse 7

But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
Physical appearance being attractive is based on being created in the image of GOD... not what the culture, society, fashion industry deems attractive. Asserting that BEAUTY is vain (period) is false... as we do not KNOW what the culture, society or fashion dictates were for many historical times. WOMEN... should make an effort to accentuate femininity and physical attributes (be attractive) in a manner that is pleasing to the Lord and also their husband. Women was created FOR man... but the only man a woman needs to be attractive to is HER MAN.... no other.
 

Angela53510

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"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised"
Proverbs 31:30

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The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom;
all those who practice it have a good understanding.
His praise endures forever!" Psalm 111:10


Too often we focus on what we should NOT be. That we should not be vain. Instead, we need to focus on what we should be - and that includes both men and women. We should be people who fear the Lord. That means more than just awe and reverance. It means honouring God as holy, and just and righteous. Of course, we also are glad that God is also a God of love.


Here is a great song based on Proverbs 31:30

[video=youtube_share;6ZYV1t8zyws]http://youtu.be/6ZYV1t8zyws[/video]
 
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VioletReigns

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I love how encouraging this is! And makes me think again about looking modesty versus looking showy
And the other side of the coin is this, if someone believes we are not attractive enough, they are in effect doubting our real worth in Christ. And we would not want to be with someone who thinks like that anyway. So it's no loss at all. :)
 
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VioletReigns

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It's so strange to me that there are so many different paintings and drawings of Jesus. When I envision the Lord, I picture aspects of Him: His hands, eyes, lips, neck, shoulders, feet, back, hair, etc. But I can never really "see" Him in physical totality. And yet in my heart and spirit, I know how completely beautiful He is! \:D/

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Jeremiah 4:30
And you, O desolate one, what do you mean that you dress in scarlet, that you adorn yourself with ornaments of gold, that you enlarge your eyes with paint? In vain you beautify yourself. Your lovers despise you; they seek your life.

didnt this refer to the Egyptian women and all the eye makeup they were?
 
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VioletReigns

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Physical appearance being attractive is based on being created in the image of GOD... not what the culture, society, fashion industry deems attractive. Asserting that BEAUTY is vain (period) is false... as we do not KNOW what the culture, society or fashion dictates were for many historical times. WOMEN... should make an effort to accentuate femininity and physical attributes (be attractive) in a manner that is pleasing to the Lord and also their husband. Women was created FOR man... but the only man a woman needs to be attractive to is HER MAN.... no other.
None of what you said is truth. I don't have to accentuate anything about me. I'm very sorry you feel you have to. I am like Queen Esther spiritually, beautiful to Christ Jesus as I am. He calls me His Shining Star. ♥ And that's only because He made me in His own image for His own pleasure. I never had to flirt, act "more" feminine, increase my physical attractiveness, style my hair or buy fancy clothes or perfume to attract my husband. He's living face to face with God now but I know what he'd say if you asked him why he chose me, "She made me smile." :)
 
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Yeah..... but how many of us are going to remove the mirrors from our homes, and quit going to the beauty shop or barber shop, or clothes shopping?

None that I know of.

I am thankful that I don't have to match a standard of looks, or anything, to be accepted by Jesus...... BUT I DO like to be told I'm at least, not ugly, and in my younger days (only because it never happens anymore), I liked being noticed..... and I have never felt that was carnal.
 
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BarlyGurl

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None of what you said is truth. I don't have to accentuate anything about me. I'm very sorry you feel you have to. I am like Queen Esther spiritually, beautiful to Christ Jesus as I am. He calls me His Shining Star. ♥ And that's only because He made me in His own image for His own pleasure. I never had to flirt, act "more" feminine, increase my physical attractiveness, style my hair or buy fancy clothes or perfume to attract my husband. He's living face to face with God now but I know what he'd say if you asked him why he chose me, "She made me smile." :)
Do you have a reading comprehension problem? I did not say or allude to- FLIRT, ACTING, INCREASE (physical attractiveness, tho apparently you concede you DO possess some measure), STYLE/BUY/FANCY/PERFUME to attract. ALL those things are WORDLY interpretations of beauty.
So maybe you could re-read my post which specifically states a woman should accentuate for the LORD and FOR HER MAN alone... because we are created in the image of God.
So whatever you DO to accentuate your physical attractiveness it should be pleasing to GOD and your husband. IF you are just feeling contentious and want to argue some more... I suggest you stop showering, combing your hair, looking in a mirror ever, stop doing laundry and wear the same set of clothes, including undergarments for a week or two.... I suspect your husband will mention your declining physical appearance to you EVENTUALLY.
 
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VioletReigns

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Jeremiah 4:30
And you, O desolate one, what do you mean that you dress in scarlet, that you adorn yourself with ornaments of gold, that you enlarge your eyes with paint? In vain you beautify yourself. Your lovers despise you; they seek your life.

didnt this refer to the Egyptian women and all the eye makeup they were?
Yes, perhaps you're right. But my post wasn't blasting women for wearing make-up. It was a reminder that physical beauty isn't our standard. All we need do is look at Hollywood and realize make-up can make anyone (male or female) look like anything (male or female). :eek: If anyone likes wearing make-up, they're free to wear it. I'm just saying it doesn't increase our self-worth. Just remember: Whatever you have to do to gain someone's attention, you'll have to keep doing for the rest of your life to keep their attention. Do you see understand what I mean? :D
 
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VioletReigns

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Yeah..... but how many of us are going to remove the mirrors from our homes, and quit going to the beauty shop or barber shop, or clothes shopping?

None that I know of.

I am thankful that I don't have to match a standard of looks, or anything, to be accepted by Jesus...... BUT I DO like to be told I'm at least, not ugly, and in my younger days (only because it never happens anymore), I liked being noticed..... and I have never felt that was carnal.
I was addressing all the ones who feel they do not feel attractive enough because how world standards attempt to brainwash people into believing we have to look a certain way to be acceptable.

And anyway, I refuse to contradict you because I'm still amazed at the humongous fish your mother and you caught in that tournament years ago. I just can't quibble with a fisherman who I respect highly. :eek: hehe
 
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Do you have a reading comprehension problem? I did not say or allude to- FLIRT, ACTING, INCREASE (physical attractiveness, tho apparently you concede you DO possess some measure), STYLE/BUY/FANCY/PERFUME to attract. ALL those things are WORDLY interpretations of beauty.
So maybe you could re-read my post which specifically states a woman should accentuate for the LORD and FOR HER MAN alone... because we are created in the image of God.
So whatever you DO to accentuate your physical attractiveness it should be pleasing to GOD and your husband. IF you are just feeling contentious and want to argue some more... I suggest you stop showering, combing your hair, looking in a mirror ever, stop doing laundry and wear the same set of clothes, including undergarments for a week or two.... I suspect your husband will mention your declining physical appearance to you EVENTUALLY.
HEY! Ain't nuttin wrong with a week, or so. We shouldn't waste water.
 
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Please. A contradiction from you would feel like a compliment given in love.
 
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VioletReigns

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Do you have a reading comprehension problem? I did not say or allude to- FLIRT, ACTING, INCREASE (physical attractiveness, tho apparently you concede you DO possess some measure), STYLE/BUY/FANCY/PERFUME to attract. ALL those things are WORDLY interpretations of beauty.
So maybe you could re-read my post which specifically states a woman should accentuate for the LORD and FOR HER MAN alone... because we are created in the image of God.
So whatever you DO to accentuate your physical attractiveness it should be pleasing to GOD and your husband. IF you are just feeling contentious and want to argue some more... I suggest you stop showering, combing your hair, looking in a mirror ever, stop doing laundry and wear the same set of clothes, including undergarments for a week or two.... I suspect your husband will mention your declining physical appearance to you EVENTUALLY.
I'm laughing so hard right now!! Let me explain.... I've had you on ignore for weeks because of your constant dripping of rudeness and contention throughout the forums. Tonight I thought I'd remove you from the iggy list so I could read your contribution to this thread. I honestly thought you'd have something positive to add. I was wrong!

As for my declining physical appearance... :rolleyes: well, anything I say about that can and will be held against me. And it also would be diametrically opposing to my whole purpose for this thread. So back to iggy you go! "Babygurl" needs to grow up.

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jaybird88

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Yeah..... but how many of us are going to remove the mirrors from our homes, and quit going to the beauty shop or barber shop, or clothes shopping?

None that I know of.

I am thankful that I don't have to match a standard of looks, or anything, to be accepted by Jesus...... BUT I DO like to be told I'm at least, not ugly, and in my younger days (only because it never happens anymore), I liked being noticed..... and I have never felt that was carnal.
willy T your a very pretty man
 
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On c'mon. Just think of BabyGurl as a female version of me... obnoxious, but lovable.
 
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BarlyGurl

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I will conclude.... you DO have a reading comprehension problem... lovely attitude :rolleyes: