By modesty i mean not being worldly and unnecessarily flamboyant. Modesty also means modest dressing which means no earrings, no coloured make up,no lipsticks, no short dresses etc. Once you start giving your husband immodesty then you are no longer special in the eyes of husband. Why is this? This is because your husband if he wished could have not married you, instead he could have had 4 different women on his bed every night, but he gave that up for you because he wants a Christian marriage with a modest christian woman. But what do you do? Instead of giving him modesty, you pile on the earrings and make up so that you can look "attractive". Now let me ask you, which is more attractive to a man, one immodest christian woman with earrings and lipsticks every night or 4 immodest women with earrings and lipsticks every night? Of course it is the 4 immodest women, the only way you can beat those 4 women is by being a modest and conservative christian woman. Why should i commit myself to one immodest christian woman when i can 4 immodest women on my bed every night? But if i find that modest and conservative Christian woman then i will not approach those 4 women because i know i am marrying a modest woman who is as pure as eve on the day she was created to join Adam. The point here is that you cannot be lukewarm. You can either be a pagan woman and pile on the earrings or be a strict, modest and conservative christian. Once you are in the middle then you are no longer special.
But why are christian women immodest? I believe that the majority are just ignorant, they know deep down that it is wrong to be immodest but they are probably deceived by false pastors. For example these christian women see pastors wives and female preachers like Joyce Meyer wearing lipsticks and earrings and they are like "after all Joyce Meyer wears earrings, earrings cant be wrong". You stupid fool on your way to hell! Who told you that the female preacher you see on TV wearing earrings is a true christian, she could be a devil worshiper who pretends to be a Christian and who is only wearing those earrings so that you will copy her and join her in hell. Another reason christian women are immodest is because of the majority factor, they say to themselves "after all every one does it, it cant be wrong". You stupid fool on your way to hell! if you see everyone jumping to their deaths from a cliff will you also join in and say "after all everyone is doing it, i will jump as well"? You should note that many are called but few are chosen and there are enough pits in hell to accommodate everyone of you.
So what is the argument used by deceivers to justify immodest dressing? Here it is , they claim that immodesty like earrings don't make a woman immodest as long as she is not wearing it to attract attention to herself. You stupid fool on your way to hell! don't you know that some things are clearly wrong irrespective of whether it attracts attention or not? It is not only the attraction of attention that is wrong, it is the fact that you pierced your ears just so that you can wear earrings. You pierced the temple of the holy spirit just so that you can wear earrings.
As for me, earrings and lipsticks are an exclusion criteria, when it comes to asking a woman out, i don't and will not ask a woman with lipsticks or earrings out. This is because i don't want to commit adultery after marrying an immodest woman. I will rather marry the modest woman knowing that i am marrying pure eve just like Adam was with eve.You may say to your self "after all some christian men don't mind earrings, my former christian boyfriend was ok with earrings" but note that men are of varying qualities, may be the man that tolerates earrings is the man that will cheat on you whilst you are pregnant with his child and abandon you with the children after marriage. May be the man that does not want earrings is the one that will love and care for you from the day of your marriage till the end, so make your choices wisely.
I am trying to figure out networks and christian denominations where modest and conservative Christians gather and it will be great if anyone here makes a recommendation. i know of some denominations but i will like to now more so i will welcome recommendations.