By modesty i mean not being worldly and unnecessarily flamboyant. Modesty also means modest dressing which means no earrings, no coloured make up,no lipsticks, no short dresses etc. Once you start giving your husband immodesty then you are no longer special in the eyes of husband. Why is this? This is because your husband if he wished could have not married you, instead he could have had 4 different women on his bed every night, but he gave that up for you because he wants a Christian marriage with a modest christian woman. But what do you do? Instead of giving him modesty, you pile on the earrings and make up so that you can look "attractive". Now let me ask you, which is more attractive to a man, one immodest christian woman with earrings and lipsticks every night or 4 immodest women with earrings and lipsticks every night? Of course it is the 4 immodest women, the only way you can beat those 4 women is by being a modest and conservative christian woman. Why should i commit myself to one immodest christian woman when i can 4 immodest women on my bed every night? But if i find that modest and conservative Christian woman then i will not approach those 4 women because i know i am marrying a modest woman who is as pure as eve on the day she was created to join Adam. The point here is that you cannot be lukewarm. You can either be a pagan woman and pile on the earrings or be a strict, modest and conservative christian. Once you are in the middle then you are no longer special.
But why are christian women immodest? I believe that the majority are just ignorant, they know deep down that it is wrong to be immodest but they are probably deceived by false pastors. For example these christian women see pastors wives and female preachers like Joyce Meyer wearing lipsticks and earrings and they are like "after all Joyce Meyer wears earrings, earrings cant be wrong". You stupid fool on your way to hell! Who told you that the female preacher you see on TV wearing earrings is a true christian, she could be a devil worshiper who pretends to be a Christian and who is only wearing those earrings so that you will copy her and join her in hell. Another reason christian women are immodest is because of the majority factor, they say to themselves "after all every one does it, it cant be wrong". You stupid fool on your way to hell! if you see everyone jumping to their deaths from a cliff will you also join in and say "after all everyone is doing it, i will jump as well"? You should note that many are called but few are chosen and there are enough pits in hell to accommodate everyone of you.
So what is the argument used by deceivers to justify immodest dressing? Here it is , they claim that immodesty like earrings don't make a woman immodest as long as she is not wearing it to attract attention to herself. You stupid fool on your way to hell! don't you know that some things are clearly wrong irrespective of whether it attracts attention or not? It is not only the attraction of attention that is wrong, it is the fact that you pierced your ears just so that you can wear earrings. You pierced the temple of the holy spirit just so that you can wear earrings.
As for me, earrings and lipsticks are an exclusion criteria, when it comes to asking a woman out, i don't and will not ask a woman with lipsticks or earrings out. This is because i don't want to commit adultery after marrying an immodest woman. I will rather marry the modest woman knowing that i am marrying pure eve just like Adam was with eve.You may say to your self "after all some christian men don't mind earrings, my former christian boyfriend was ok with earrings" but note that men are of varying qualities, may be the man that tolerates earrings is the man that will cheat on you whilst you are pregnant with his child and abandon you with the children after marriage. May be the man that does not want earrings is the one that will love and care for you from the day of your marriage till the end, so make your choices wisely.
I am trying to figure out networks and christian denominations where modest and conservative Christians gather and it will be great if anyone here makes a recommendation. i know of some denominations but i will like to now more so i will welcome recommendations.
Well it's not about the laundry list of things to do or not do. That was in the Old Testament. Now it's about fellowship with God and Holy Spirit's guidance.
Guidelines for not focusing on the outward apparel, not trying to be attention seeker and seduce, or dont be proud with your looks are already there in the Bible. They apply to both men and women. There's no need for anyone to add to what is being said and add new commandments to the Word of God. It's God's job to convict a person if they are doing something with the wrong heart, because God looks on the heart. Everything not done out of faith is sin (
Romans 14:23). If one believes earrings are sinful, they must make sure not to wear them. But for the person wearing earrings with honest faith, they are not committing sin according to the Bible. If they believe meat eating is sin, they must not eat it because they will be defiled... but if they truly believe it's clean, they are clean. I'm not inventing this from my head, just paraphrasing Romans chap. 14. Please reread it. It addresses things that are gray area and disputable because different people will have different convictions on them. It's not the same like convictions such as "lust is sin", "lying is sin", which are equal in all born again Christians. If the Bible does not call something out as sin or adds a rule, please be careful not to add your rules to the Word.
For some reason I was pretty sure you were not married - because this kind of posts typically comes from unmarried men - so I checked and I've indeed seen on your profile that you were not married, but you're speaking from a position of an overseer. Congregation leaders have always been "married to one wife". How anyone except an overseer, or a female elder, has the prerogative to instruct women in the church? It is unbiblical and unseemly for an unmarried young man, or anyone who is not a church overseer or elder, to instruct
wives of other men and breach their authority. This would be unseemly even if the women were unmarried, but you're speaking to the married. Even apostle Paul, being an overseer to many churches, was careful to instruct and reprove women
only when their husbands failed to do so and things got out of hand, and always respectfully left the guidance and teaching within the authority of their husbands. Please do not continue to make this kind of posts and you will do well redirect your energy in the church to where is proper and where your gifts are... teaching is not one of them.
I would also be very careful of addressing other believers as "stupid fools" for three reasons. First is that we do not know who goes up and who goes down, only God does (
Rom 10:6-7). Second is that fool is the one who has said in his heart "there is no God" -
Psalm 14 - so it's wrong to apply it to believers, and even that's the Spirit speaking and not man. Third, Jesus warned people who call a brother "you fool" to be in danger of hell fire (
Matthew 5:22). Why, because of contempt for another creature of God that God might have already bought out with His blood and is sanctifying them, which is a process of growth and Jesus increasing in them.
Then, you seem to remove all the responsibility from husbands and blame the betrayed wives for being conned and cheated. (It wouldnt be an excuse for cheating even if she committed adultery!). Dont you know that with authority comes responsibility, and that man is in charge over his wife, but also responsible for his wife. Man be judged by a higher standard than the woman, but your post excuses male adultery. Just wow.
This OP is not standing right at all. It is not problematic that modesty is being commended, what is problematic is that there is no love of God in there, just a desire to exercise authority over others whom you perceive as inferiors. That woman that you condemned because of wearing earrings might not have had any evil thought in her heart regarding them so she did not sin according to the Word, and even if she stumbled and did put them on with a wrong motive, maybe she loves her neighbor far more than another person that doesnt wear earrings. So maybe it will be better with her than with you when the judgment comes. Remember that God forgives much to those who love much. I hate to say it, but have you been led by God to write this, it would have agreed with the Bible and it would be proper and your rightful place to speak.
Your attitude is the same as in Muslim lollipop analogies. Woman is a worthless object in this system and valued by what she does and not by who she is. Woe to us all if God valued us according to what we have done. This OP cries for love of God. I pray to God that you will NOT get married until you're disabused of these beliefs and start looking upon women with the eyes of God.