Can't tell if I'm sinful, or just a teen... HELP!!

[laoshanlung]

Hey, guys. So, I'm really addicted to... I wouldn't say 'porn', but... just looking at beautiful girls. As a 16 year-old boy with "raging hormones", limited biblical knowledge and some of the worst social skills EVER (as in, I've never dated a girl), I'm not really sure what to think. Any thoughts on whether I'm being vile or just a plain ol' teenager?

 

[zoii]

um.... I'm kinda smiling at this really coz its kinda cute. Dude youre programmed to look at girls. Porn I soooo hate coz I hate what this does to women - but looking at girls n being like...whoa she's cute - yeah I'm sure every guy here will be like...yea been there n still do it. I don't know of any verse that says - don't look at girls - lucky coz thered be a lot of guys here thatd be like...nooooooooooooooo !!!!!

 

[Elisabet]

Correct me if i am wrong, but as long as you are not addicted to it, it's normal. I guess teenagers (especially the ones who haven't got true love) sometimes really want to dream for a "peefect" life with someone beautiful or handsome
Of course you can search some Christian books that talk about this thing to find some Christian prospectives. Also i think you can read the Bible if you want to know more about God

 

[Gozinia]

Shows you're not gay...perfectly natural...just keep your self-discipline in check

 

[shotgunner]

Yea, it's normal, and it's tough being that age. I still remember. You just want to guard against lust and the objectification of women. Those sins make good relationships a lot harder later in life.

 

[Jakob]

Yeah it's completely normal.
As long as you dont have any actions towards it, or any wrong mindset, as in porn is ONLY about lust, no love.
So you should be very aware of your thoughts when you start dating.

 

[shineyourlight]

Hey, guys. So, I'm really addicted to... I wouldn't say 'porn', but... just looking at beautiful girls. As a 16 year-old boy with "raging hormones", limited biblical knowledge and some of the worst social skills EVER (as in, I've never dated a girl), I'm not really sure what to think. Any thoughts on whether I'm being vile or just a plain ol' teenager?

I think you're fine. Lol. I'm 26 and I still occasionally look up and see a good looking guy and just think, "Oh, he's attractive," and then move on with life.

I don't lust after them. My mind doesn't wander in different directions.

Looking at a woman is fine. But if your mind is wandering in other directions, it's not okay. I try to honor men in the way I dress (modestly) and in the way I act so as to not make any of them stumble. Not saying they'll stumble after me, but just saying in general. I'm sure there are struggles men face simply because of how women dress themselves. And in this same way, a man must also honor a woman. We are still daughters. I've had several guys treat me as if I was just an object. I'm still Jesus' daughter and I still deserve the respect that I give to them.

If your mind does wander, pray, "God, I'm struggling right now. Please, let me see them as You see them."

Brothers in Christ, honor your sisters in Christ.
And sisters in Christ, honor your brothers.
We are all the body of Christ and we are to build each other up.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Philippians 4:8

 

[laoshanlung]

Yeah, maybe this was a stupid question after all. Heheheh... I get straight A's in school, but I guess I'm still just a dumb kid at heart. Anyways, thanks for those uplifting words, guys. Especially what you said, shineyourlight, I needed that.

 

[shineyourlight]

Yeah, maybe this was a stupid question after all. Heheheh... I get straight A's in school, but I guess I'm still just a dumb kid at heart. Anyways, thanks for those uplifting words, guys. Especially what you said, shineyourlight, I needed that.

You're welcome. And why insult yourself? You are whole, and you are holy, and you are loved. C'mon. Don't talk about God's creation like that. You're wonderful!

 

[Elisabet]

Actually i don't think so, it's a common thing that teenagers want to know about this.

 

[laoshanlung]

Why insult myself, you say? I figure that it keeps me humble. And besides, I don't do it to talk myself down, harm myself, or anything like that. It's all in good spirits, so it's alright!

 

[shineyourlight]

Why insult myself, you say? I figure that it keeps me humble. And besides, I don't do it to talk myself down, harm myself, or anything like that. It's all in good spirits, so it's alright!

Lol, if you insist. But, I have realized, that when I used to do that to keep myself humble, I eventually started believing it. Because even though it may seem harmless right now, there's power to words and words can bring life and death. Saying your thoughts are dumb are not factual.

It's normal to have those questions

I'm glad you're in good spirits, though.

 

[B_Daring]

Depends, are these ladies clothed? If not, then yes. Even if they are clothed, what are your thoughts when looking at them?

As someone whose struggled with sexual addictions in the past, if your thoughts are not holy(if you're not sure, would it make you uncomfortable to have God watching over your shoulder, hearing your thoughts? If so, then that should be a pretty good indication right there) when you see these pictures, I suggest you take it seriously. Sexual immorality and lust not a problem that is limited to gender by any means. Attraction to and admiring the opposite gender itself isn't wrong, it is normal and healthy, but what we do with it can be. If we allow it to cause us to sin, even just in our hearts and minds, then we have a problem.

Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Psalm 119:9 How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.

 

[Gozinia]

true Point Shineyourlight...Jesus never talked himself down... right?...so yes the power of suggestion could start to weigh in over time...humble is different than talking ourself down

 

[Oncefallen]

I'm nearly three times your age and married and no, as you get older you don't suddenly become blind to the beauty of the opposite gender. Sure, at your age it can be a real struggle because of the "raging hormones" and that will begin to taper off in about ten years, but it never completely goes away. At your age I likewise had terrible social skills, never dated, and felt completely out of sorts among people my own age.

This is the time in life to develop the ability to admire a woman's physical beauty just for what it is, a flesh wrapper. Her true beauty, if she possesses it, lies within her. It is not sin to admire a woman's beauty, however it is sin to allow that observation to consume you and turn into lust.

A good verse to memorize at your age is Job 31:1

“I made a covenant with my eyes
not to look lustfully at a young woman.

 

[Practice-English]

Hey, guys. So, I'm really addicted to... I wouldn't say 'porn', but... just looking at beautiful girls. As a 16 year-old boy with "raging hormones", limited biblical knowledge and some of the worst social skills EVER (as in, I've never dated a girl), I'm not really sure what to think. Any thoughts on whether I'm being vile or just a plain ol' teenager?

Without judging you
because only God can judge,
yes it's a SIN because in the ten commandments,
Exodus 20 one of them says : You shall not covet!!!

 

[Willie-T]

Lol, if you insist. But, I have realized, that when I used to do that to keep myself humble, I eventually started believing it. Because even though it may seem harmless right now, there's power to words and words can bring life and death. Saying your thoughts are dumb are not factual.

It's normal to have those questions

I'm glad you're in good spirits, though.

There is a lot of truth to what she just said.

 

[Willie-T]

I'm nearly three times your age and married and no, as you get older you don't suddenly become blind to the beauty of the opposite gender. Sure, at your age it can be a real struggle because of the "raging hormones" and that will begin to taper off in about ten years, but it never completely goes away. At your age I likewise had terrible social skills, never dated, and felt completely out of sorts among people my own age.

This is the time in life to develop the ability to admire a woman's physical beauty just for what it is, a flesh wrapper. Her true beauty, if she possesses it, lies within her. It is not sin to admire a woman's beauty, however it is sin to allow that observation to consume you and turn into lust.

A good verse to memorize at your age is Job 31:1

“I made a covenant with my eyes
not to look lustfully at a young woman.

It tapers off? I guess I have something else disappointing to look forward to when I get old. Rats!

 

[pwrnJC]

IF you didn't look at girls...we should be concerned. You can always "UNLIMIT" your biblical knowledge, by making a choice to keep your nose in a good study BIBLE and also attend a good BIBLE study group. Do not purchase or pollute yourself with any PORN..as it is not what GOD has in mind for you, personally. GOD wants the best for you...and has a soul mate out there for you. I was encouraged at age 14 to start praying for GOD to lead me to the right girl one day. I took up that challenge and met her at age 17...we just celebrated our 39th wedding anniversary. Prayer power is awesome!

 

[kingerik]

Hey, guys. So, I'm really addicted to... I wouldn't say 'porn', but... just looking at beautiful girls. As a 16 year-old boy with "raging hormones", limited biblical knowledge and some of the worst social skills EVER (as in, I've never dated a girl), I'm not really sure what to think. Any thoughts on whether I'm being vile or just a plain ol' teenager?

It's perfectly okay to think a girl is pretty or cute lol. As long as you aren't looking at her with lustful intents. Social skills can be improved by talking to people. If it gets awkward then don't worry about it, it happens. I haven't dated anyone either and that's perfectly okay...lol