Possible Boyfriend Issue

[Lion94]

Hello!

I am new here and wasn't sure where to post this so I guess I'll just post here.

I've been really struggling with Something as of late and was wondering if anyone could give me some advice.

I have been with my boyfriend coming up to two years now. He is Coptic orthodox (Egyptian) and I am Protestant. We have been through so much together and our love and bond runs very deep. I dream of marrying him all the time! He's honestly the perfect man.

HOWEVER, one thing that makes me question everything in our relationship is his denomination. Sure we are both Christian and have the same morals and openly talk about our faith with one another but in order for us to get married I would have to be baptised and converted to the Coptic church. I was open to this idea as I know his church have the same morals as mine however just recently I have been second guessing everything. His church is very different to mine methodically and, I'm still skeptical, theologically. I love my church (Anglican) and all my very good friends are there. He's not telling me to leave my church or anything but I would have to join his church in order to get married. The thing is, he won't change churches for me, I am the one who has to make the change and it is very hard for me. I am scared this fact will break us up but I do truly love him very much but i don't know how this can work out.

Any advice?

Ps. Thank you for reading that if you did.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Hello!

I am new here and wasn't sure where to post this so I guess I'll just post here.

I've been really struggling with Something as of late and was wondering if anyone could give me some advice.

I have been with my boyfriend coming up to two years now. He is Coptic orthodox (Egyptian) and I am Protestant. We have been through so much together and our love and bond runs very deep. I dream of marrying him all the time! He's honestly the perfect man.

HOWEVER, one thing that makes me question everything in our relationship is his denomination. Sure we are both Christian and have the same morals and openly talk about our faith with one another but in order for us to get married I would have to be baptised and converted to the Coptic church. I was open to this idea as I know his church have the same morals as mine however just recently I have been second guessing everything. His church is very different to mine methodically and, I'm still skeptical, theologically. I love my church (Anglican) and all my very good friends are there. He's not telling me to leave my church or anything but I would have to join his church in order to get married. The thing is, he won't change churches for me, I am the one who has to make the change and it is very hard for me. I am scared this fact will break us up but I do truly love him very much but i don't know how this can work out.

Any advice?

Ps. Thank you for reading that if you did.

Hello and welcome.. The new members forum is only for introducing yourself, but you can repost your OP in the Ladies forum.

 

[tourist]

Religion can be a touchy subject. Whatever you do don't change or compromise true Christian values. It sounds as if he is unwilling to marry outside of his church. Its a real shame that there are countless denominations and practices in this world. Actually, religion is just man's attempt to please God. Perhaps you both can compromise and attend a different church than the one you have or are currently attending. Welcome to CC.

 

[Lion94]

Oh sorry! Can you link me to the forum please?

 

[Lion94]

There is a lot of pressure from his family and culture to not leave that church, so yes he is unwilling to marry outside. We did talk about compromising but unfortunately he won't.

 

[Jenizona]

Hi, Lion, and welcome to CC! I've only been here about a week myself.
And yes, being a new member to CC, I would have had no clue where to "properly" post this thread, I think you did it fine in the intro section, since you were introducing yourself! But if there's a simple way to re-post it, might be good, I have no idea lol!

I'll be honest, I read your post and had all sorts of red flags going off for me, even though you say your relationship is good.

The number one red flag was one of how women are treated in whatever his denomination are. Of course you're being asked to change. Of course he won't change. These are... huge red flags.

Ultimately, you don't have to get married inside his actual church. Most orthodox churches or pastors would probably not perform a ceremony unless both parties were members of the church. So I wasn't sure if this was an issue of where the wedding will be held, or just getting married in general.

How are women treated in his church?

 

[Lion94]

Thank you !

Oh sorry if I wasn't clear. Basically he has to marry someone of the same denomination, that being Coptic orthodox. Therefore I would have to get baptised before the wedding and then we could have the ceremony in the church.

Women are treated fine at his church. Everyone is lovely. There is nothing wrong with that side of things. They are a bit more traditional however. They have men and women separated on different sides of the church and some women cover their heads which is very different to my church.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Oh sorry! Can you link me to the forum please?

http://christianchat.com/christian-ladies-forum/ ...........

 

[Lion94]

I'm not allowed to access that for some reason so I just posted in miscellaneous instead!

 

[blue_ladybug]

I'm not allowed to access that for some reason so I just posted in miscellaneous instead!

oh yeah, I forgot, it takes a week for new women to be able to see the Ladies thread, but Miscellaneous is fine..

 

[bluebirdchaser]

Hey, I just wanted to welcome you. That is a tricky thing about your boyfriend and I'm praying for you for guidance on it. I hope you find some good, godly advice here.