online dating..

[setapartgirl]

i would like some new opinions, as a Christian, is it right to join in dating sites?

I joined before, christian dating sites, i thought i could find a Godly man there, because it is a Christian site, but all i've got is a heartbreak, some christian men are so disrespectful.

And it hit me, i should not look and search for love, i should focus on Jesus, ALL EYES ON HIM.

I learned my lesson..but i am just still hurting...i was wrong, so please i need prayers to get through this.

 

[shineyourlight]

i would like some new opinions, as a Christian, is it right to join in dating sites?

I joined before, christian dating sites, i thought i could find a Godly man there, because it is a Christian site, but all i've got is a heartbreak, some christian men are so disrespectful.

And it hit me, i should not look and search for love, i should focus on Jesus, ALL EYES ON HIM.

I learned my lesson..but i am just still hurting...i was wrong, so please i need prayers to get through this.

Why would you think it's not okay? I'm not against it. You do you. I mean, I don't personally do it. I attempted it last year and didn't like it.

Just because it's a Christian dating site doesn't mean that they're all Christians on there. I'm so sorry that you've been hurt. No one deserves that, especially if they're just on there looking to find someone.

You're loved and what they say or think doesn't change your value. You're a daughter of Jesus.

 

[setapartgirl]

Why would you think it's not okay? I'm not against it. You do you. I mean, I don't personally do it. I attempted it last year and didn't like it.

Just because it's a Christian dating site doesn't mean that they're all Christians on there. I'm so sorry that you've been hurt. No one deserves that, especially if they're just on there looking to find someone.

You're loved and what they say or think doesn't change your value. You're a daughter of Jesus.

Why you didn't like it?bad people? Yeah some people got lucky to found their soulmates there, but as a christian i don't need luck, but blessing instead, so i will stop it too, because i dont like it anymore..thank you sis, i will just focus on Jesus instead.

It is really true if you are going to orchestarte your lovelife, everything will mess up, so just let God, right?

 

[blue_ladybug]

Why you didn't like it?bad people? Yeah some people got lucky to found their soulmates there, but as a christian i don't need luck, but blessing instead, so i will stop it too, because i dont like it anymore..thank you sis, i will just focus on Jesus instead.

It is really true if you are going to orchestarte your lovelife, everything will mess up, so just let God, right?

1.) GOD alone orchestrates our lives. We don't.

2.) Online dating isn't always safe, OR honest. You have no idea who people really are or what their like. Yes, you'll be much better off just focusing on Jesus. If he has someone in mind for you, you will meet him. It most likely won't be through online dating, though.. lol..

 

[jsr1221]

I personally wouldn't pay to try to find love.. Because in the end, with most dating sites, that's what you're doing.. I know they can work, as people have met on here (even though CC technically isn't a dating site) so online dating/talking/fellowship does work, I just personally wouldn't pay to find someone. I agree that it has both its advantages and disadvantages, so you have to be smart and careful with it if you decide to pursue. Most importantly, talk to God. And see what He has to say about online dating.

 

[LiJo]

i would like some new opinions, as a Christian, is it right to join in dating sites?

I joined before, christian dating sites, i thought i could find a Godly man there, because it is a Christian site, but all i've got is a heartbreak, some christian men are so disrespectful.

And it hit me, i should not look and search for love, i should focus on Jesus, ALL EYES ON HIM.

I learned my lesson..but i am just still hurting...i was wrong, so please i need prayers to get through this.

I'm sorry that you went through disappointments from online dating, it could be God's way of not wanting you to find a mate online. Take time to heal your heart and focus on Jesus. Trust in Jesus, he will lead the right person to you, remember it's all about His timing, not yours. ((((Hugs))))

 

[JasonNosneh]

Should be careful regardless of it being online or not and regardless whether they say they are christian or not. Really the only way to truly decide who you should be in a relationship is by listening to the Holy Spirit -- only God knows His plan, the person's heart, and what the future hold. In the end, the means which you met the person is irrelevant.

That said it is easier to deceive online than offline and some people (probably guys...) are just playing around on the internet because it is fun. Just remember it is better to find out sooner rather than later that the person you are dealing with is not worth the time.

i would like some new opinions, as a Christian, is it right to join in dating sites?

I joined before, christian dating sites, i thought i could find a Godly man there, because it is a Christian site, but all i've got is a heartbreak, some christian men are so disrespectful.

And it hit me, i should not look and search for love, i should focus on Jesus, ALL EYES ON HIM.

I learned my lesson..but i am just still hurting...i was wrong, so please i need prayers to get through this.

 

[shineyourlight]

Why you didn't like it?bad people? Yeah some people got lucky to found their soulmates there, but as a christian i don't need luck, but blessing instead, so i will stop it too, because i dont like it anymore..thank you sis, i will just focus on Jesus instead.

It is really true if you are going to orchestarte your lovelife, everything will mess up, so just let God, right?

I made a promise to God when I became serious about my walk with Him and made a promise to Him about romantic relationships. I can message you about it.

I think it's also important to know that God is the leader of your life. He leads and He guides and He loves. Trusting in Him in all situations, even your love life, is important. You can roll the dice, but He determines where it falls.

 

[cmarieh]

I am currently reading a book with a good friend of mine and the author states that she was looking for Jesus in a suit type of man. Because Jesus is kind, generous, considerate, honest, keeps promises and loves us the way we always want to be loved. This man needs to know you are valuable and so is he in Christ. Just focus on the love God has for you and the rest will come

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

i would like some new opinions, as a Christian, is it right to join in dating sites?

There is no right or wrong about it. They can be fine places to meet a decent, like-minded person just as they can be fine places to meet a modern day Jack the Ripper.

And it hit me, i should not look and search for love, i should focus on Jesus, ALL EYES ON HIM.

There you go! And you don't even need to register a username and password to talk with Him.

I learned my lesson..but i am just still hurting...i was wrong, so please i need prayers to get through this.

Sure, sending some prayers your way.

 

[jaybird88]

i did online dating and it didnt work for me. i met lots of fun to talk to people but no one i would marry. i have a GF i been with over a year and i really like her. and we met in the real world.

 

[Bristecom]

1.) GOD alone orchestrates our lives. We don't.

So we just sit around and God will bring us a husband or wife? I don't think so. In every example in the Bible, God commanded His people to do something in order to achieve the goal. Some people like to use the example of Abraham and Sarah, where God promised children yet he got impatient and decided to get with Hagar instead, but that is totally irrelevant to us today. Did God promise you a husband or wife? No. So we can't just assume it's going to happen one way or another. We have to work for it. Then should we just compromise and marry an unequally yoked person? No, the Bible tells us not to for many reasons. But the point is that I do not believe that God will just automatically find a spouse for everyone. Can He help if we ask for the right reasons? I think so. But I still believe we have to put in our effort as well.

As far as internet dating goes, I have mixed feelings about it. I just find it to be a pretty awkward environment to meet people. It's more like a sales ad magazine. I think it's funny though how the girls with hot pics get like 800 messages a day from guys and the ones with not so hot pics get few to none. If you wanna find out how hot you are to the opposite sex, just post a pic of yourself on a dating site and see how many responses you get, LOL. That'll be a good little self-esteem experiment for ya.

And also, I think it's much harder to get a proper perspective on someone without seeing them in person. I suppose you could just set up dates and go from person to person but I personally don't like that style. I'd feel bad for getting someone's hopes up. Anyway... I think it may be worth a shot if you feel like you don't have any other options of finding a Christian but just be really careful and smart about it and take it VERY slow. I think you should be talking to them online often before you even meet.

 

[missfairy]

I made a promise to God when I became serious about my walk with Him and made a promise to Him about romantic relationships. I can message you about it.

I think it's also important to know that God is the leader of your life. He leads and He guides and He loves. Trusting in Him in all situations, even your love life, is important. You can roll the dice, but He determines where it falls.

[: I would love to hear about your promises to God! You are so correct in saying that He is the leader of our lives and I am so glad you point that out. We are surely on His timeline and trusting Him is always the answer.

 

[shineyourlight]

[: I would love to hear about your promises to God! You are so correct in saying that He is the leader of our lives and I am so glad you point that out. We are surely on His timeline and trusting Him is always the answer.

Of course. I am exhausted! But I'd love to shoot you a message soon about it

Glad you're here, missfairy! You are valued!

 

[melita916]

online dating works for some and not for others. i've never joined a dating site. i don't plan to either.

but with ANYTHING in life, we need to use discernment and follow God's guidance

 

[missfairy]

So we just sit around and God will bring us a husband or wife? I don't think so. In every example in the Bible, God commanded His people to do something in order to achieve the goal. Some people like to use the example of Abraham and Sarah, where God promised children yet he got impatient and decided to get with Hagar instead, but that is totally irrelevant to us today. Did God promise you a husband or wife? No. So we can't just assume it's going to happen one way or another. We have to work for it. Then should we just compromise and marry an unequally yoked person? No, the Bible tells us not to for many reasons. But the point is that I do not believe that God will just automatically find a spouse for everyone. Can He help if we ask for the right reasons? I think so. But I still believe we have to put in our effort as well.

As far as internet dating goes, I have mixed feelings about it. I just find it to be a pretty awkward environment to meet people. It's more like a sales ad magazine. I think it's funny though how the girls with hot pics get like 800 messages a day from guys and the ones with not so hot pics get few to none. If you wanna find out how hot you are to the opposite sex, just post a pic of yourself on a dating site and see how many responses you get, LOL. That'll be a good little self-esteem experiment for ya.

And also, I think it's much harder to get a proper perspective on someone without seeing them in person. I suppose you could just set up dates and go from person to person but I personally don't like that style. I'd feel bad for getting someone's hopes up. Anyway... I think it may be worth a shot if you feel like you don't have any other options of finding a Christian but just be really careful and smart about it and take it VERY slow. I think you should be talking to them online often before you even meet.

See, I agree with you that we have a part to play in working towards finding someone. Mostly to prepare ourselves to be worthy of marriage and Christ-like rather than hoping for finding someone. We do want God to provide, but he also wants us to prepare and not just sit and wait. We should focus on putting great efforts into the many things he provides right in front of us daily as well. There is always something to fulfill us in spiritual ways other than focusing on finding a mate. What do you think God has you doing today to prepare you for that future? Wonderful things I am sure!

 

[jsr1221]

This is the hard truth for some, but not everyone is promised a husband or a wife. I know it's important to feel loved and wanted (Mazlow hierarchy of needs) but the Bible doesn't promise each person is to be married. That's not the point of life. And for me, personally, I've had to realize that. Once you do (for me) it releases such a huge burden. That doesn't mean I don't have days where I wish I had someone. Cause we all do. but knowing there's a much more greater purpose is satisfying in its own way.

 

[Test_F_i_2_Luv]

So we just sit around and God will bring us a husband or wife? I don't think so....we have to put in our effort as well.

No no no. We should sit around at home & expect that our future mate is going to just walk up to the entrance of our home & make him/herself know! Mr/s Right is going to make his/her grand appearance like the pizza delivery person. We just have to sit around and patiently wait. In fact, we aren't even going to have to place and order for the pizza...the delivery person is just going to show up with what we want.

That's not how it works, of course.

As you suggest, we have to make an effort. Put ourselves out there, make ourselves known/visible.

Since couch warming isn't going to work for finding a mate...

Women: initiating contact with a guy is not the same as pursuing.

Men: women want to be pursued. When you find a good woman, do it.

And also, I think it's much harder to get a proper perspective on someone without seeing them in person. I suppose you could just set up dates and go from person to person but I personally don't like that style. I'd feel bad for getting someone's hopes up. Anyway... I think it may be worth a shot if you feel like you don't have any other options of finding a Christian but just be really careful and smart about it and take it VERY slow. I think you should be talking to them online often before you even meet.

I've never considered myself officially dating without having met a woman in person. Committing without actually meeting seems rather silly to me.

 

[Nala50]

i would like some new opinions, as a Christian, is it right to join in dating sites?

I joined before, christian dating sites, i thought i could find a Godly man there, because it is a Christian site, but all i've got is a heartbreak, some christian men are so disrespectful.

And it hit me, i should not look and search for love, i should focus on Jesus, ALL EYES ON HIM.

I learned my lesson..but i am just still hurting...i was wrong, so please i need prayers to get through this.

I have been divorced a long time and I have tried dating sites off and on. I met a couple of nice guys who are still my friends, and I have met some really not-so-nice guys. I would say the ratio is in favor of the not-so-nice type. Overall, I don't like the online dating thing because, in my experience, it is too....forced? i don't know the right word, but it's like if you meet someone on there and decide to meet in person, it's impossible for you to each know the true person in that one meeting and a lot of the time, one or the other person will think "well, this person isn't a perfect match for me so I am just going to pass on them and look for someone else. They know there are lots of others to choose from, so they don't give that person a chance by getting to know them better. This happened with the last person I met: we met for lunch and had a really nice conversation and i thought he was good-looking, etc. When I got home, i thought to myself "I enjoyed meeting him, but, I am not sure if we clicked, I can't tell" Well, I didn't hear from him for a day or so and then he sent me this very nice text message saying basically the same thing I was feeling....that he just wasn't sure, there might be something there and he really enjoyed our lunch, but, he didn't want to waste either of our's time so he had decided we weren't a match. He felt exactly the same way I did....just wasn't sure about it, but afraid to keep pursuing it in case we didn't work out. I really think, looking back, if we had gotten to know each other a few more times, there probably would have been something there between us. That was the last time I tried online dating, over a year ago. And by the way, the Christian sites.....a lot of ppl on there really aren't christian, you have to be very careful wherever you go when it comes to online dating. Since I gave up on that, I really do not know where to meet anyone, so I have just left it in God's hands if/when I meet someone. Just wanted to give you my experiences

 

[shineyourlight]

This is the hard truth for some, but not everyone is promised a husband or a wife. I know it's important to feel loved and wanted (Mazlow hierarchy of needs) but the Bible doesn't promise each person is to be married. That's not the point of life. And for me, personally, I've had to realize that. Once you do (for me) it releases such a huge burden. That doesn't mean I don't have days where I wish I had someone. Cause we all do. but knowing there's a much more greater purpose is satisfying in its own way.

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