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JoyoftheLord

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Hello. I am a Christian. I feel lonely and depressed. I have been trying to deal with this alone but I think i need people to talk to, who can pray for me and help me overcome this. Loneliness and unhapiness are driving me into watching internet porn. Being a born-again christian, this is making me feel horrible...and i fear to become a porn addict, i felt this need 3 weeks ago and it doesnt seem to go away, it is depressing me...i feel very bad, i am loosing interest in everything and loneliness is making me feel like i want to die. Anyone who went through similar situation? Thanks
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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I have never had any type of addiction, but I DO know how it feels to be lonely, depressed and wanting to die. There are many here, both women and men, who struggle with porn issues. Do you have hobbies you enjoy, such as reading, listening to music, painting, etc? When I feel depressed I watch a funny video. Usually cat videos. :) Get out of your house, go for a walk, or to a park and feed the ducks. Life is hard, but we need to persevere through whatever we get presented with. And suicide is NEVER an option. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Ask God to take this addiction from you. Ask him to lift this spirit of depression and loneliness..
 
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Standing

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The best help that I can give you is

"SATAN BE GONE!! GO ON. GET OUT!!! RIGHT NOW! IN JESUS NAME. BE GONE!!!!! BE GONE!!! BE GONE!!!!!
 
Angela53510

Angela53510

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I will pray for you.But I would ask you do three things.

1. Read the Bible daily. The Psalms would be great - there is a lot about suffering, loneliness and grief. The New Testament is also a good place to read, especially the words of Jesus

2. Pray daily. I know that is hard when you feel so alone, but God will answer you and meet you where you are at.

3. Find a church where people are loving and caring, and go there. Get involved! Teach Sunday School or make coffee, whatever you can do. That is where you will meet people and it will help with the loneliness.

"5 Why am I so depressed?
Why this turmoil within me?
Put your hope in God, for I will still praise Him,
my Savior and my God." Psalm 42:5 HCSB

PS. If you are depressed, you need to find a doctor. The sooner you get on medication, the sooner you will get off. If you wait too long, you will have to stay on antidepressants the rest of your life. The brain can recover, but if you wait a long time, the brain will constantly need to be helped with medication.
 
jillwings

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I know what it is like to be lonely and depressed. I don't see how porn would be any comfort at all. In fact would make you feel even MORE lonely and distant from God because you aren't drinking from the Spirit, but sinking farther into the flesh. That makes no sense I guess. Anyway, spend all that energy focusing in on the Word and prayer, fast perhaps. Sometimes I think we are called into a time of desert where we have no one to rely on but God. Maybe it strengthens our reliance upon him. Add me if you need a friend.
 
Dan58

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Being lonely, you may be longing for intimacy and are using the internet to connect or fulfill that fantasy or desire. I think if you get involved in things where you meet new people, it might divert your attention into more real life interactions. I suspect your turning to what's convenient to feel a void, and then get depressed when porn leaves you unfulfilled and still alone? Sometimes we all get in a rut and its difficult to pull yourself out of the conundrum, but ask yourself why your watching porn, or what's lacking in your life. You may have a deeper desire to love and be loved, but are settling for a superficial and temporary fix to that emptiness inside yourself.

A Christian is never alone "I am with you always" (Matthew 28:20).
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Hello Lady blue, thanks for your message...i do have hobbies...but sometimes i feel like i am loosing interest in things and dont feel like making any effort at all...now I know i need to force myself and do something to overcome depression. God bless you
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Hi Standing. Amen to that!!! Thanks
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Hello Angela53510, thank you for the precious advices. Though it's very hard for me nowadays to leave a relationship with Christ like I used to... i will make an effort and follow your advices. Thanks a million for reminding me who I belong to and the right thing to do.
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Hi Jillwings. Thanks for ur message. It does make no sense indeed :) but that's how it is for now...I really wish i had that energy to focus more on the Word instead of wasting time with this nonsense like u called it... Praying for that energy...so far the Lord is helping me...I haven't felt the envy to watch porn again... Thank you all for your prayers
 
damombomb

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Find time to go to a good church and make some friends that you can go places with and be encouraged. Get involved if you
are able with some ministry. It does make a big difference.It gives you something to look forward to and is very rewarding.
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Hello Dan58. Thanks for your message. I think you are right. I long for intimacy and i use internet to fulfill that fantasy and i feel depressed when it leaves me unfulfilled!! WOW!! You might be right...In my mind, i was thinking that what makes feel bad and depressed after watching...was shame and the sin i commited.
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Thank you damombomb! I will do that. God bless you
 
Jesus4ever

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I´ll pray for you, sister!

May God help you in everything you need!
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Hi Jesus4ever. Thanks for ur prayers. May God bless you too!
 
davidtriune

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Dan58 said:

Being lonely, you may be longing for intimacy and are using the internet to connect or fulfill that fantasy or desire. I think if you get involved in things where you meet new people, it might divert your attention into more real life interactions. I suspect your turning to what's convenient to feel a void, and then get depressed when porn leaves you unfulfilled and still alone? Sometimes we all get in a rut and its difficult to pull yourself out of the conundrum, but ask yourself why your watching porn, or what's lacking in your life. You may have a deeper desire to love and be loved, but are settling for a superficial and temporary fix to that emptiness inside yourself.

A Christian is never alone "I am with you always" (Matthew 28:20).
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I've gone to a lot of sources for the cause of your addiction and this is much repeated :)

God bless you on your recovery!
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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JoyoftheLord said:
Hello. I am a Christian. I feel lonely and depressed. I have been trying to deal with this alone but I think i need people to talk to, who can pray for me and help me overcome this. Loneliness and unhapiness are driving me into watching internet porn. Being a born-again christian, this is making me feel horrible...and i fear to become a porn addict, i felt this need 3 weeks ago and it doesnt seem to go away, it is depressing me...i feel very bad, i am loosing interest in everything and loneliness is making me feel like i want to die. Anyone who went through similar situation? Thanks
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http://christianchat.com/miscellaneo...-vs-light.html read this.. :)
 
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JoyoftheLord

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Thank you Davidtriune...i agree with ur conclusions. I hope to recover very soon. Blessings.
 
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KJB

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I will pray for you to help you through these times. Keep coming on here and read your Bible.
 
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writetopeoplearoundthewor

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Dear Joy of the Lord,
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I am also struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts. I finally went to my community mental health program and they have begun to give me help. Do you have any services like that in your town? My kids are almost grown and I'm divorced and very lonely. When people are around I'm a different person but my friends are married and mostly busy in the evenings. When you feel this bad you will do anything to feel better. I went through a period during my divorce when I talked to men online and sometimes met them. It was dangerous and something I normally wouldn't do but I was trying to feel better. I have actually felt like doing it again just for the attention. Hopefully I will be helped by the new treatment I am getting. It takes time though, lots of time to heal.If you want to email me please do if I can help. Thanks, Lori
 
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