Girls deserve respect!

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juliet84

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Yes, Id prefer a guy says "Beautiful" instead of hot/sexy. I think only bad girls like to be calling that. But to me, calling hot/sexy doesnt mean a guy disrespects the girl unless he calls her 'bitch or 'slut'. I had people calling me those before. Perhaps I was one and deserved to be calling it. :(

Nowadays, it is VERY HARD to find a good guy. Its like one in a million. They would say, i think i have fallen for you,...and when the girl falls for it, they would just ignore her. That is one kind of disrespect. Anyway, good post, PraisemyGod.
 
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PRAIASEmyGOD

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its PRAIASEmyGOD lol i had a typo, but yea i understand but to me calling a girl hot or sexy just wro ng, if it was so o.k. to do it then why didnt jesus go around calling people hot an sexy, and the bible tells us to live as he did here on earth
 
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Red_Tory

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Up until now I had never thought about it from a scriptural or Christian point of view. I've just always thought of it as inappropriate behaviour.
 
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asamanthinketh

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how can one determine what lust is?
is it an emotion? is it a feeling? is it an action? is it an obssession?
 
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Maddog

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PRAIASEmyGOD said:
to me calling a girl hot or sexy just wro ng
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Surely it depends on the situation? I don't think you can draw any moral absolutes out of this as I think you're really just talking about social protocol, which isn't fixed.
 
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Love009

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I agree PRAISEmyGOD. I'm very glad you think that. That is one of the greatest qualities in my opinion for a guy to have. "respect" for a girl
 
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asamanthinketh

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yes, to be treated with respect is by far better, life is not all about looks and sex, but so many of us think it is
and even when sex does happen too many can't just stop at enjoying the experience instead of getting addicted
 
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callthe5o

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Maddog said:
Surely it depends on the situation? I don't think you can draw any moral absolutes out of this as I think you're really just talking about social protocol, which isn't fixed.
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if you mean like in marrage and stuff, then i understand. i dont find it rong for a married couple to find eachother attractive, but it is when ppl just say it out loud at school. it makes me disgusted bwhen i hear guys at my school talkin about how sexy a girl is, what they would do if they had a chance........ this makes me really disturbed because it is committing adultery in your heart. it says that in the bible. as i said before, the word sexy is realy a dirty word, hint hint, "sex"y.
 
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Maddog

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callthe5o said:
if you mean like in marrage and stuff, then i understand. i dont find it rong for a married couple to find eachother attractive, but it is when ppl just say it out loud at school. it makes me disgusted bwhen i hear guys at my school talkin about how sexy a girl is, what they would do if they had a chance........ this makes me really disturbed because it is committing adultery in your heart. it says that in the bible. as i said before, the word sexy is realy a dirty word, hint hint, "sex"y.
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I think we've been round that roundabout before. I still disagree.
 
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Mordred

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What about the descriptive words; beautiful, gorgeous, stellar?
 
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Mordred

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Sexy is a term used to describe someone you have lustful feelings for.
Hot is a term used to describe someone's attractfulness appearance, also comparable to the user's lustful feelings.
Given that; lust is a perfectly normal feeling, but as the gentleman said up above - I think men could be a little bit more respectful towards their ladies.

A short verse from a poem with this concept; (Viewer Descretion: Tupac)

And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don't we'll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies
And since a man can't make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you're fed up ladies, but keep your head up
 
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Maddog

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Mordred said:
Sexy is a term used to describe someone you have lustful feelings for.
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I think I disagree...but it depends on how you're using terms. I would say 'sexy' means one simply finds that person sexually attractive (and finding someone sexually attractive is not the same as lust).
 
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Mordred

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Maddog said:
I think I disagree...but it depends on how you're using terms. I would say 'sexy' means one simply finds that person sexually attractive (and finding someone sexually attractive is not the same as lust).
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I reckon that implies the same thing sir. What does sexually attractive really mean, if anything less than lustful desires? We're all adults here, we can be honest about this kind of subject. Well at least I can talk honestly about it since I have no reputaton to uphold.
 
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PRAIASEmyGOD

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Mordred said:
I reckon that implies the same thing sir. What does sexually attractive really mean, if anything less than lustful desires? We're all adults here, we can be honest about this kind of subject. Well at least I can talk honestly about it since I have no reputaton to uphold.
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yes amen to that!
 
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Maddog

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Mordred said:
I reckon that implies the same thing sir. What does sexually attractive really mean, if anything less than lustful desires? We're all adults here, we can be honest about this kind of subject. Well at least I can talk honestly about it since I have no reputaton to uphold.
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Earlier in the thread I wrote:
I'm reluctant to give a definitive definition since sexual ethics and human psychology is not my forte. However, I'd suggest that normal sexual attraction is the innate response (that is 'hard-wired') that we have to members of the opposite sex that 'fit the bill' in terms of their suitabilty as a partner. Biologically speaking, the criteria could be categorised in terms of their genetic make up, their health, their fertility etc. For the laymen, this boils down to physical appearance, smell, and possibly their personality as well. For the even layer layman, this boils down to ''Blimey, s/he's fit!"

I would say that lust is an act of the will, and would be the corruption of this natural instinct to the point where one is only interested in one's own sexual gratification. This may typically entail sexual fantasies about that person, or even attempting to bed them, both of which would be violating both one's own and the other party's dignity, and reducing them simply to a means to an end, that is, sexual satisfaction. Simply put, it's sex taken out of its proper context.
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The differentiation is vital as one is normal, good and right, and the other is wrong and harmful.
 
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juliet84

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lol,...haha ive heard tht before,.....funny
 
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eugenius

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The day when people start calling the opposite sex, "ah wow she is so intelligent" or "wow what a good person" is the day I will begin to have any respect for people my age.
 
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mecoffee

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Big Thank You for you Aaron... I'm just proud with your post... BIG RESPECT for u too (two thumbs up) :)
 
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Chris09

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Indeed, a good topic and one that many young Christian need to see!

However, I would like to state a few things and my opinion. Firstly that respect for women is an utmost importance! 'Manners maketh the man' as my grandma taught me over the years and I truly thank her for teaching that.

I find the term 'sexy' is most of the time considered inappropriate, although I do use it on occasion to comment on a girl-friend's clothing, or dress. "Very sexy Phoenix!"

However, I don't use this term for girls I don't know, or use it as a pick-up-line so to speak.

I will however, state that she is particularly gorgeous, beautiful or simply ask, 'What's a beautiful girl like you doing in a place like this?'

The same goes for calling a girl, 'hot' - even when I'm around the lads I might say.. 'Well she's a beaut eh? or 'Wow, what an amazing image of God' or 'She's certainly a looker!' but not a inappropriate term that leads to lustful thoughts...

My motives are simply, acknowledging the attraction I have that for that particular girl. It is NOT a sin to admire God's creation; it is a sin when your mind wonders on 'sexual desires'.

Besides which, looks should be a bonus, not a factor on deciding if you should date/marry her. That is the world's problem today!

It's interesting; we have lots of beauty parlors, shops for make-up and clothes/dresses for looking 'more' beautiful. BUT where are the stores to teach the beauty of someones character and personality?

It appears the real beauty of someone can only be taught and established when they become a new creation in Christ Jesus. :D
 
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