Hope for My stillborn Son?

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theGeneral

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Last year I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy, but then I found out a few weeks later (through an ER visit) that I had a massive tumor attached to my womb, right in there with the baby-- despite this the baby was growing just fine, but unfortunately so was the tumor :/ The doctors put me in the high risk pregnancy catagory and monitored me regularly. They said I was at high risk for preterm labor, due to the type of tumor that I had and due to the fact that the tumor was continuing to get bigger and bigger as the baby grew. I made it past the 12 week point, and my doctors said that my risk of preterm labor was now only about 30% I found out shortly after that i was having a boy. I started gaining hope that everything was going to be just fine and in five months I would have a beautiful baby boy. I made it to 17 weeks, and then the tumor went through a process called "degeneration", basically it grew so big that it out grew it's blood supply and started to die--this was the worst physical pain I have ever experienced in my entire life, but I endured it for three long days because I knew it would be worth it and I tried not to lose hope. I was in and out of the ER all weekend--I was at extreme risk of preterm labor at that point because of the irritation it caused to my womb. In the very early hours of Monday Oct 27th, my water broke and shortly after, I had to be induced for labor, and give birth to my son (I was only 5 months pregnant) he was stillborn. The doctor said if I had made it 4 more weeks there was a possibility that he could have lived, but he was just too little still.

My questions (since this is Bible Discussion forum) are these:
My child could not have survived outside of the womb since he was too early, where did he go? Since he had no chance to make the choice to accept Jesus as his savior will he still get into heaven? Was he too young? Are there any scriptures that support a child at this gestational age being able to get into heaven?

I know Jeremiah 1:5 says "before I formed you in the womb I knew you" as well as Psalm 139:13 "for you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" If God knows us even before we are born while still in our mother's womb surely there is a chance for my son to get to heaven. This whole experience, even tho so horrible, led me on the right path and brought me so much closer to God. Before this happened I really had no relationship with God. I now pray and study the bible on a daily basis. I believe, it has also brought my husband closer to God, and in turn, our marriage is stronger because of it. All of these wonderful things from such a terrible event. In my heart I believe my son is in heaven. It is encouraging to see scriptures that confirm my belief so please please share if you have any, I would love to see what some of you folks have to share :) God Bless
 
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I can assure you that your son is with Jesus. I can also assure you that if you are born again, which you seem to be, you will see him again.

I also want to say that this is not something God did to you for some purpose you can't understand. Bad things happen to good people because we live in a fallen world. I am so sorry for your loss. A pastor friend of mine and his wife experienced 3 miscarriages before giving birth to a healthy son. They already had 3 healthy girls but desired a son. They kept in faith all through the horrible ordeal and God gave them a beautiful son that is now 9 years old.


Children are innocents. God takes them to Heaven as soon as they leave this body. Even if anyone doesn't believe that there is scripture for you.
[h=1]1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.[/h]
 
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At the moment of your son's death he was carried by angels to heaven to be with Jesus. The bible passages that you quoted says it all. I am sorry for your loss. God Bless You.
 
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I am very sorry for your loss. I want point you to the scripture passage where King David mourns the loss of his son.
2 Sam 12:[SUP]22 [/SUP]David said, While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, Who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me and let the child live? [SUP]23 [/SUP]But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.

Sometimes people hesitate to point to this story because the "over-all" context of the story does not seem very comforting or applicable to your situation. Now please... read very carefully the last half of verse 22. Please read it as many times as you need to, until the absolute TRUTH of that God is consistent and RELIABLE. Be Comforted.
 
Magenta

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My sincerest condolences to you on the loss of your prematurely born son. Having lost three myself, I have some understanding of the confusion, pain, and grief such causes, especially for my still born son at just under24 weeks gestation. Know that you are blessed to have gone through all that as a believer, and to have it strengthen you and your husband, your respective relationships with God, and your marriage. I was a non-believer when I went through such thirty one years ago, and it was a devastatingly abject failure in the making to try to build my life around a child that died before entering the world without also having God in the picture.
 
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theGeneral

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Thank you so much for all of your kind words and comforting stories you have shared. I don't think I could have made it through that difficult time if it weren't for God's comfort. He knew what I needed and provided it for me, even before I asked for it. I also think that He gave me such a strong a wonderful husband, as well, I don't know what I would have done having to go through this all alone. I still have bad days, but my faith is stronger everyday, and God is continuing to help me through this. I have been scared to try for a baby again (even tho I have had surgery now and the tumor is gone and not cancerous) but I feel as if God will bless me when it is the right time, he has already blessed me with a beautiful daughter who is almost 12 now :) so I am hopeful for the future, and happy to have the comfort from you guys too :) Thank you for sharing the scriptures, I had not thought of the one with King David yet, nor the one in 1 corinthians so thank you so much for sharing :)
 
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theGeneral said:
Last year I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy, but then I found out a few weeks later (through an ER visit) that I had a massive tumor attached to my womb, right in there with the baby-- despite this the baby was growing just fine, but unfortunately so was the tumor :/ The doctors put me in the high risk pregnancy catagory and monitored me regularly. They said I was at high risk for preterm labor, due to the type of tumor that I had and due to the fact that the tumor was continuing to get bigger and bigger as the baby grew. I made it past the 12 week point, and my doctors said that my risk of preterm labor was now only about 30% I found out shortly after that i was having a boy. I started gaining hope that everything was going to be just fine and in five months I would have a beautiful baby boy. I made it to 17 weeks, and then the tumor went through a process called "degeneration", basically it grew so big that it out grew it's blood supply and started to die--this was the worst physical pain I have ever experienced in my entire life, but I endured it for three long days because I knew it would be worth it and I tried not to lose hope. I was in and out of the ER all weekend--I was at extreme risk of preterm labor at that point because of the irritation it caused to my womb. In the very early hours of Monday Oct 27th, my water broke and shortly after, I had to be induced for labor, and give birth to my son (I was only 5 months pregnant) he was stillborn. The doctor said if I had made it 4 more weeks there was a possibility that he could have lived, but he was just too little still.

My questions (since this is Bible Discussion forum) are these:
My child could not have survived outside of the womb since he was too early, where did he go? Since he had no chance to make the choice to accept Jesus as his savior will he still get into heaven? Was he too young? Are there any scriptures that support a child at this gestational age being able to get into heaven?

I know Jeremiah 1:5 says "before I formed you in the womb I knew you" as well as Psalm 139:13 "for you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" If God knows us even before we are born while still in our mother's womb surely there is a chance for my son to get to heaven. This whole experience, even tho so horrible, led me on the right path and brought me so much closer to God. Before this happened I really had no relationship with God. I now pray and study the bible on a daily basis. I believe, it has also brought my husband closer to God, and in turn, our marriage is stronger because of it. All of these wonderful things from such a terrible event. In my heart I believe my son is in heaven. It is encouraging to see scriptures that confirm my belief so please please share if you have any, I would love to see what some of you folks have to share :) God Bless
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Fortunately, salvation does not come from our choice, so you don't have to worry about your son never making a choice. It comes from the Father's choice. And of all whom he has chosen, Jesus has/is/will lose none!

John 6:38 For I am come down from heaven, not to do mine own will, but the will of him that sent me.39 And this is the will of him that sent me, that of all that which he hath given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up at the last day.
40 For this is the will of my Father, that every one that beholdeth the Son, and believeth on him, should have eternal life; and I will raise him up at the last day.
 
dcontroversal

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Your Son is in the presence of God and I am sorry for your loss...may the Lord strengthen you and cause his face to shine down upon you...
 
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theGeneral said:
Last year I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy, but then I found out a few weeks later (through an ER visit) that I had a massive tumor attached to my womb, right in there with the baby-- despite this the baby was growing just fine, but unfortunately so was the tumor :/ The doctors put me in the high risk pregnancy catagory and monitored me regularly. They said I was at high risk for preterm labor, due to the type of tumor that I had and due to the fact that the tumor was continuing to get bigger and bigger as the baby grew. I made it past the 12 week point, and my doctors said that my risk of preterm labor was now only about 30% I found out shortly after that i was having a boy. I started gaining hope that everything was going to be just fine and in five months I would have a beautiful baby boy. I made it to 17 weeks, and then the tumor went through a process called "degeneration", basically it grew so big that it out grew it's blood supply and started to die--this was the worst physical pain I have ever experienced in my entire life, but I endured it for three long days because I knew it would be worth it and I tried not to lose hope. I was in and out of the ER all weekend--I was at extreme risk of preterm labor at that point because of the irritation it caused to my womb. In the very early hours of Monday Oct 27th, my water broke and shortly after, I had to be induced for labor, and give birth to my son (I was only 5 months pregnant) he was stillborn. The doctor said if I had made it 4 more weeks there was a possibility that he could have lived, but he was just too little still.

My questions (since this is Bible Discussion forum) are these:
My child could not have survived outside of the womb since he was too early, where did he go? Since he had no chance to make the choice to accept Jesus as his savior will he still get into heaven? Was he too young? Are there any scriptures that support a child at this gestational age being able to get into heaven?

I know Jeremiah 1:5 says "before I formed you in the womb I knew you" as well as Psalm 139:13 "for you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" If God knows us even before we are born while still in our mother's womb surely there is a chance for my son to get to heaven. This whole experience, even tho so horrible, led me on the right path and brought me so much closer to God. Before this happened I really had no relationship with God. I now pray and study the bible on a daily basis. I believe, it has also brought my husband closer to God, and in turn, our marriage is stronger because of it. All of these wonderful things from such a terrible event. In my heart I believe my son is in heaven. It is encouraging to see scriptures that confirm my belief so please please share if you have any, I would love to see what some of you folks have to share :) God Bless
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I am sorry for your loss.

I hope this verse will give you comfort..

Deuteronomy 1:39 (NKJV)
39 ‘Moreover your little ones and your children, who you say will be victims, who today have no knowledge of good and evil, they shall go in there; to them I will give it, and they shall possess it.



 
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So very sorry to hear about your loss. Since your baby boy has a believing parent I believe he is with Jesus.
 
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Suffer the little children to come to me.. I would think that applies to stillborns also.. I believe your little one is with Jesus.. :)
 
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Deuteronomy 1:39 (NKJV)
39 ‘Moreover your little ones and your children, who you say will be victims, who today have no knowledge of good and evil, they shall go in there; to them I will give it, and they shall possess it.
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Thank you everyone, I am so glad to have so much comfort from all of you. This type of comfort and support is amazing and I love seeing the scriptures you all are posting/referencing on here as well, there are many I hadn't thought of before in regards to this. This one in Deuteronomy was especially helpful as well, thank you :) God is Good!
 
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blue_ladybug said:
Suffer the little children to come to me.. I would think that applies to stillborns also.. I believe your little one is with Jesus.. :)
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Beautiful,spot on,lifegiving post ladybug!!!!
 
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A Couple of years ago I read in acts where peter(i think) talked of the restoration of all things.
God sees death totally different than we do.

But concerning your stillborn child,that child is in heaven now,with jesus.
 
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theGeneral said:
Thank you everyone, I am so glad to have so much comfort from all of you. This type of comfort and support is amazing and I love seeing the scriptures you all are posting/referencing on here as well, there are many I hadn't thought of before in regards to this. This one in Deuteronomy was especially helpful as well, thank you :) God is Good!
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And now Lord see this mother and servant, Bless her,strengthen her. mantel her with your presence and power. Restore every single loss 7 fold and send the enemy from her in 7 directions. protect her with your mighty hand and charge your angels to be beside her,and minister to her.

But most of all Lord may her loss become a tool in her hand to bring many mothers to you,and minister hope and healing to others in their terrible midnight hour.
 
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Our first child died in the womb.They will be in heaven.

Always count that stillborn as one of the children you had...even give them a name now that you may remember your child by!!
 
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psychomom

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*grabs a tissue... passes one to the OP* :(

we lost three to miscarriage, too.
i had to learn to trust God with them.
(i'm always having to do that :rolleyes: )

please know i sorrow with you in your loss, and have prayed for you. ♥
 
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theGeneral said:
Last year I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy, but then I found out a few weeks later (through an ER visit) that I had a massive tumor attached to my womb, right in there with the baby-- despite this the baby was growing just fine, but unfortunately so was the tumor :/ The doctors put me in the high risk pregnancy catagory and monitored me regularly. They said I was at high risk for preterm labor, due to the type of tumor that I had and due to the fact that the tumor was continuing to get bigger and bigger as the baby grew. I made it past the 12 week point, and my doctors said that my risk of preterm labor was now only about 30% I found out shortly after that i was having a boy. I started gaining hope that everything was going to be just fine and in five months I would have a beautiful baby boy. I made it to 17 weeks, and then the tumor went through a process called "degeneration", basically it grew so big that it out grew it's blood supply and started to die--this was the worst physical pain I have ever experienced in my entire life, but I endured it for three long days because I knew it would be worth it and I tried not to lose hope. I was in and out of the ER all weekend--I was at extreme risk of preterm labor at that point because of the irritation it caused to my womb. In the very early hours of Monday Oct 27th, my water broke and shortly after, I had to be induced for labor, and give birth to my son (I was only 5 months pregnant) he was stillborn. The doctor said if I had made it 4 more weeks there was a possibility that he could have lived, but he was just too little still.

My questions (since this is Bible Discussion forum) are these:
My child could not have survived outside of the womb since he was too early, where did he go? Since he had no chance to make the choice to accept Jesus as his savior will he still get into heaven? Was he too young? Are there any scriptures that support a child at this gestational age being able to get into heaven?

I know Jeremiah 1:5 says "before I formed you in the womb I knew you" as well as Psalm 139:13 "for you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" If God knows us even before we are born while still in our mother's womb surely there is a chance for my son to get to heaven. This whole experience, even tho so horrible, led me on the right path and brought me so much closer to God. Before this happened I really had no relationship with God. I now pray and study the bible on a daily basis. I believe, it has also brought my husband closer to God, and in turn, our marriage is stronger because of it. All of these wonderful things from such a terrible event. In my heart I believe my son is in heaven. It is encouraging to see scriptures that confirm my belief so please please share if you have any, I would love to see what some of you folks have to share :) God Bless
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God is love. Your child is in heaven.

He who does not love does not know God; for God is love. 1 John 4:8 RSV

So we know and believe the love God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 1 John 4:16 RSV
 
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I agree, your son is with our Lord and awaits the day he sees his family reunited.

Our Father in Heaven knows what it is to lose a child, have the comfort that this horror is something you share with God the Father.
 
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Your son is in heaven with the 2 my wife and I have lost.
I know it is difficult, but be joyful that he is with Jesus and will never suffer pain or unhappiness.
 
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