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Sirk

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As some of you know I've been in a blended family for 3 years now. The other day my wife dropped the divorce bomb on me. When I asked her what she was going to tell people as to her reasoning.... because we are very connected in our church community, she stated that we are just too far apart on parenting our children....which is entirely true and I couldn't agree more. Parents sole mission in life should be to raise Godly offspring. In our situation, I think the cards are stacked against that.


So anyway, I don't know whether or not I will be around here too much for awhile, but just know that I am in a good place and still very much running after Jesus.

As an aside, I really wasn't looking for advice so if you give me some I may or may not respond to your liking...or I may not respond at all....lol. What I am really looking forward to is having some peace and a good connection and relationship with my son. In the end, without disclosing any details...it is he who Jesus is looking out for in this scenario....imo.
 
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God bless sir.
 
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Sirk

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I've learned some very important lessons in this journey and I intend on helping others not to have to go thru the same thing.
 
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keepitsimple

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My sympathies to all of you Sirk .. and prayer.
 
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Up until this year, I lived in the world after leaving God at age 17. My youngest child is 18, and he has 4 older sisters...3 of them are step daughters. His mom and I disagreed on their upbringing and discipline, and we split 10 years ago. Today they talk to their mom however they want and are not very nice. I could write a book about it, but God was not a part of the equation. As God's Word says, I am reaping what I sowed. I pray for their salvation daily.
 
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Sirk

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49 said:
Up until this year, I lived in the world after leaving God at age 17. My youngest child is 18, and he has 4 older sisters...3 of them are step daughters. His mom and I disagreed on their upbringing and discipline, and we split 10 years ago. Today they talk to their mom however they want and are not very nice. I could write a book about it, but God was not a part of the equation. As God's Word says, I am reaping what I sowed. I pray for their salvation daily.
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I'm sorry man. That must be super painful.
 
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I did it to myself. However, God is so much a part of my life now and I would not trade it for anything. He is bringing about such a change in my life I never knew existed. He makes His grace, mercy and love evident every day. Praise His Holy Name!! I am praying for you brother.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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That's heavy, man. I'm grateful that you're coping with it well, at least. Sending some prayers to you, your boy, and your soon to be ex. Much love, Sirk.
 
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This is crappy news, Kris. I'm here......
 
Reborn

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Sorry to hear this, Kris.
I know the pain, l know you're tough, .....and l know the Lord will get you through it.

Praying for you, Brother.
 
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Sirk

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I'm just grateful that Jesus gave me the grace to make it thru what has been a pretty difficult time. Very hopeful about my future and this new zest for life He has given me. I was getting pretty beat down and discouraged.
 
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cmarieh

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I am so sorry and I wish you weren't having to face this, but I want you to know that I will be praying for strength, love, comfort, and perseverance that only God can give you. As you can clearly see you are very loved around here and always will be.

With much love and admiration for The Sirk,
-CM
 
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atwhatcost

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Sirk said:
As some of you know I've been in a blended family for 3 years now. The other day my wife dropped the divorce bomb on me. When I asked her what she was going to tell people as to her reasoning.... because we are very connected in our church community, she stated that we are just too far apart on parenting our children....which is entirely true and I couldn't agree more. Parents sole mission in life should be to raise Godly offspring. In our situation, I think the cards are stacked against that.


So anyway, I don't know whether or not I will be around here too much for awhile, but just know that I am in a good place and still very much running after Jesus.

As an aside, I really wasn't looking for advice so if you give me some I may or may not respond to your liking...or I may not respond at all....lol. What I am really looking forward to is having some peace and a good connection and relationship with my son. In the end, without disclosing any details...it is he who Jesus is looking out for in this scenario....imo.
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No, advice. Just prayer and partial disagreement. God is looking out for all of you. My heart goes out to you, and her, and the kids.
 
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VioletReigns

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Oh man, that's really tough. Sorry to hear it. :(

Grace and peace to you in Jesus, Brother Kris.
 
Jesus4ever

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So sorry to know that, brother! :(


Praying for you! May the Lord bless you all!
 
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kaylagrl

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Sirk said:
As some of you know I've been in a blended family for 3 years now. The other day my wife dropped the divorce bomb on me. When I asked her what she was going to tell people as to her reasoning.... because we are very connected in our church community, she stated that we are just too far apart on parenting our children....which is entirely true and I couldn't agree more. Parents sole mission in life should be to raise Godly offspring. In our situation, I think the cards are stacked against that.


So anyway, I don't know whether or not I will be around here too much for awhile, but just know that I am in a good place and still very much running after Jesus.

As an aside, I really wasn't looking for advice so if you give me some I may or may not respond to your liking...or I may not respond at all....lol. What I am really looking forward to is having some peace and a good connection and relationship with my son. In the end, without disclosing any details...it is he who Jesus is looking out for in this scenario....imo.
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Like everyone else Im so sorry to hear of this.I somewhat understand your situation.My sister married a man who already had a daughter,she almost lost her marriage over it.Spend a lot of hours talking to her and calming her down.When she had kids of her own it got worse.Finally counselors were telling her it was just best to separate.We did a lot of praying for the sake of the kids. They got help and today they are still married.We went through a war to get to this place but so far they are doing well. So I understand how difficult it can be.Marriage is work but add in kids and it changes the whole game.Im glad you are in a good place and I hope people are sensitive here to your situation and not condemning. Divorce is hard enough. Be blessed,Gods leading you through.
 
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Grace, wisdom, and peace to you, your soon-to-be Ex, and all of the children involved. Praying for you all in this difficult time.
 
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Sirk said:
As some of you know I've been in a blended family for 3 years now. The other day my wife dropped the divorce bomb on me. When I asked her what she was going to tell people as to her reasoning.... because we are very connected in our church community, she stated that we are just too far apart on parenting our children....which is entirely true and I couldn't agree more. Parents sole mission in life should be to raise Godly offspring. In our situation, I think the cards are stacked against that.


So anyway, I don't know whether or not I will be around here too much for awhile, but just know that I am in a good place and still very much running after Jesus.

As an aside, I really wasn't looking for advice so if you give me some I may or may not respond to your liking...or I may not respond at all....lol. What I am really looking forward to is having some peace and a good connection and relationship with my son. In the end, without disclosing any details...it is he who Jesus is looking out for in this scenario....imo.
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ohhh, Sirk, I'm sorry to hear this.. :( hugs and prayers..
 
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tenderhearted

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There's a movie that just came out called War Room and it really ministers to families. The guys who created the movie are the same people who created Fire Proof. However, in my opinion war room is better. It had my husband and I in tears. You could feel the presence of God through that movie. Try to see it and invite your wife to see it with you. I think she will want to fight for her marriage after she watches this movie. Praying that God will soften her heart.
 
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Sirk

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Tomorrow I'm going in to pick up the big d papers. I know in my heart that I did everything I could to make it work.
 
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