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Wow...this is a rather loaded question, if ever I've heard one.
(takes a deep breath)
Well, this is my definition of love in a nutshell: "the selfless giving of one's own self for the emotional, mental, relational, and spiritual betterment of another". Jesus gave more of Himself to us than we could ever give to Him in this life. He was pure, holy, righteous, and sinless, and He endured so much pain we had to invent a new word for it: excruciating ("out of the cross"). I will freely admit that many days go by when I don't feel His presence in my life, and it is so easy to get depressed, and feel sorry for myself. In fact, I'm going through a day like that as I write this.
What kind of love do I want from my wife, when I get married someday? Well, my one and only relationship (thus far) was based on selfishness, paranoia, fear, and lust, more than anything else. I remember my ex-GF saying to me many times, "I don't want to corrupt you", and yet that's exactly what happened to the both of us. I can't speak for her, but my heart was torn and confused many times over, not knowing which way to turn. We tore each other apart in so many ways, and even though I miss her sometimes, I'd never want to be around that kind of situation ever again.
Quite a while ago, I made a list on my computer, of the qualities I want in a wife. Here's a few from the "character traits" section of that...
1) She must have accepted Jesus as her Savior, and also posess a strong moral foundation.
2) She won't be unfairly critical, judgmental, or harsh, especially concerning the failures of others.
3) She'll be understanding and forgiving, yet not a "pushover" in any way.
4) She won't be afraid to hold me accountable for any foolishness or irrseponsibility on my part, and will expect the same in return.
5) She'll be brave and capable, yet minding of her foremost need for God, and secondary need for me to protect her as well.
6) My attempts to defend her honor won't be met with insult or offense.
7) She'll be both trusting and trustworthy in matters of love, loyalty, finance, and sex.
8) She'll be honest with me when I ask her questions, and won't resort to playing "mind games".
9) She'll understand my desire to avoid premarital sexual touching and intercourse, and do the same herself.
10) She won't want children for at least the first five years of our marriage, if at all.
11) Her sense of humor will be full of joy, yet clean and not intentionally offensive.
12) Her smile will melt my heart like no one ever has.
13) She won't swear excessively, if at all, and especially won't take God's name in vain.
(takes a deep breath)
Well, this is my definition of love in a nutshell: "the selfless giving of one's own self for the emotional, mental, relational, and spiritual betterment of another". Jesus gave more of Himself to us than we could ever give to Him in this life. He was pure, holy, righteous, and sinless, and He endured so much pain we had to invent a new word for it: excruciating ("out of the cross"). I will freely admit that many days go by when I don't feel His presence in my life, and it is so easy to get depressed, and feel sorry for myself. In fact, I'm going through a day like that as I write this.
What kind of love do I want from my wife, when I get married someday? Well, my one and only relationship (thus far) was based on selfishness, paranoia, fear, and lust, more than anything else. I remember my ex-GF saying to me many times, "I don't want to corrupt you", and yet that's exactly what happened to the both of us. I can't speak for her, but my heart was torn and confused many times over, not knowing which way to turn. We tore each other apart in so many ways, and even though I miss her sometimes, I'd never want to be around that kind of situation ever again.
Quite a while ago, I made a list on my computer, of the qualities I want in a wife. Here's a few from the "character traits" section of that...
1) She must have accepted Jesus as her Savior, and also posess a strong moral foundation.
2) She won't be unfairly critical, judgmental, or harsh, especially concerning the failures of others.
3) She'll be understanding and forgiving, yet not a "pushover" in any way.
4) She won't be afraid to hold me accountable for any foolishness or irrseponsibility on my part, and will expect the same in return.
5) She'll be brave and capable, yet minding of her foremost need for God, and secondary need for me to protect her as well.
6) My attempts to defend her honor won't be met with insult or offense.
7) She'll be both trusting and trustworthy in matters of love, loyalty, finance, and sex.
8) She'll be honest with me when I ask her questions, and won't resort to playing "mind games".
9) She'll understand my desire to avoid premarital sexual touching and intercourse, and do the same herself.
10) She won't want children for at least the first five years of our marriage, if at all.
11) Her sense of humor will be full of joy, yet clean and not intentionally offensive.
12) Her smile will melt my heart like no one ever has.
13) She won't swear excessively, if at all, and especially won't take God's name in vain.
V
Love is an active choice that you make every day, regardless of the circumstances. It is unconditional, and you can love no matter WHAT the other person has done to you, how they change, or what circumstances come up. It doesn't ignore faults, but rather, it acknowledges faults and accepts them, or when possible, helps fix them =)
^_^
^_^
C
For me? Love is selfish, is always giving and always wanting to give. Always forgiving and ways to help that person find forgiveness within himself. Love is always tender, never harsh, mean, or hurtful. It is always there, even if you don't have your person physically with you. Always truthfull and always carefree. Happy and just wants to keep on giving. Much of this comes from a verse in the Bible, of how love is, how it should be, and what applies to me, as my definition of Love.
what i look for in another (male)?
First, to always Hunger for God, always be conentrated more in Him than me.
a lil chubby
lol
Strong will, always backing on His and his word.
play the guitar <3
Good choice maker, weighs his decisions and still goes for counsel on his opinion to see if his right.
mmm...a bit of a roughhouser
That he may love me, as a wife, as well as his best friend, who can share his craziest most awesome ideas, and dreams, and make his dreams mine. And let my dreams be his.
once in a while go with his friends, and let me be with mine (if any lol)
what i look for in another (male)?
First, to always Hunger for God, always be conentrated more in Him than me.
a lil chubby
lolStrong will, always backing on His and his word.
play the guitar <3
Good choice maker, weighs his decisions and still goes for counsel on his opinion to see if his right.
mmm...a bit of a roughhouser
That he may love me, as a wife, as well as his best friend, who can share his craziest most awesome ideas, and dreams, and make his dreams mine. And let my dreams be his.
once in a while go with his friends, and let me be with mine (if any lol)
B
We claim to be christians yet we keep asking what love is.How can we know God and not know what love is ,I dont understand.God is love ,have we not read the bible?All through the Bible it speaks of his love for us page after page it is ritten in black and white ,so if you really want to know what love is read and studdy the bible. 1Corinthians 13 speaks of this love we should have or were nothing without it.Verse 4 says Love is patient and kind;love is not jealous or boastfull;it is not arrogant or rude.Love does not insist on its own way;it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at rong, but rejoices in the right.Love Bears all things,believes all things,hopes all things.ENDURES all things. Now if we look up the definations of all these things this is what Love is.Any Questions?
S
I want a guy who can compliment me and challenge me spirtually. I believe God is true love though and that through him you can find the love we desire in another human being. I have a list as well about the characteristics im looking for, but honestly although its important those qualities on my list, God knows better than any list I can make. And my feelings toward certain people are constantly changing.
Y
For me? Love is selfish, is always giving and always wanting to give. Always forgiving and ways to help that person find forgiveness within himself. Love is always tender, never harsh, mean, or hurtful. It is always there, even if you don't have your person physically with you. Always truthfull and always carefree. Happy and just wants to keep on giving. Much of this comes from a verse in the Bible, of how love is, how it should be, and what applies to me, as my definition of Love.
what i look for in another (male)?
First, to always Hunger for God, always be conentrated more in Him than me.
a lil chubby lol
Strong will, always backing on His and his word.
play the guitar <3
Good choice maker, weighs his decisions and still goes for counsel on his opinion to see if his right.
mmm...a bit of a roughhouser
That he may love me, as a wife, as well as his best friend, who can share his craziest most awesome ideas, and dreams, and make his dreams mine. And let my dreams be his.
once in a while go with his friends, and let me be with mine (if any lol)
what i look for in another (male)?
First, to always Hunger for God, always be conentrated more in Him than me.
a lil chubby
lolStrong will, always backing on His and his word.
play the guitar <3
Good choice maker, weighs his decisions and still goes for counsel on his opinion to see if his right.
mmm...a bit of a roughhouser
That he may love me, as a wife, as well as his best friend, who can share his craziest most awesome ideas, and dreams, and make his dreams mine. And let my dreams be his.
once in a while go with his friends, and let me be with mine (if any lol)
and your description for the guy you want made me laugh! Not of teasing.. but of excitement! lol you sound like what my mother always prayed for each night.. so I'll write this down for you and pray for you! God bless!
Love is about sacrifice. Being able to give up your time or whatever for the person you love. Sometimes, its about being able to give up the person you love because they don't feel the same about you. Basically its denying yourself for the best interests of the other person.
That's my experience anyhow.
That's my experience anyhow.