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I be leave God has one person for everyone and this is coming from him taking me out of a 6 year relationship a month after I got save because he him self know we were not ment for each other, I can say it was not a easy move to make but as us being God children we just open to him know he has are hand. All of us have are man that God has pick just for us we just need to pray for pashents guides just have faith god bless stay strong as will I...
Sorry. Which planet am I living on? Is this planet earth and I am talking to humans?
Falling in love is a biological bonding between two individuals. If you have ever seen ducks mimic each other, in their bonding ritual, that is falling in love. Psychologists would talk about levels of emotional understanding and functioning.
People tend to bond with people of a similar emotional level. They are perfectly distorted together. The problem with such bonding is it is also linked with deep hurt and vulnerability. You have to get past the junk and distrust to this place of mutual openness and then it can work.
Now I knew many girls as friends, shared, socialised but none did I get that connection with until I met my wife. It took time, but something was just very different. After 3 months my heart had left me, and I was in love.
So the process is very real, has no guarantees of success or being in anyway sensible, but it happens.
It is not a question of believing in it, it just happens. It is a problem when understanding and intimacy get confused with falling in love and affection, but that is part of the complexity of the situation.
As I have got older I realise many confuse sexual attraction and need, for this love and connection.
The other issue is to make such loving relationships work you need a certain level of self understanding and maturity. It is obvious to see, many never quite reach this or manage to connect in quite the right way.
Falling in love is a biological bonding between two individuals. If you have ever seen ducks mimic each other, in their bonding ritual, that is falling in love. Psychologists would talk about levels of emotional understanding and functioning.
People tend to bond with people of a similar emotional level. They are perfectly distorted together. The problem with such bonding is it is also linked with deep hurt and vulnerability. You have to get past the junk and distrust to this place of mutual openness and then it can work.
Now I knew many girls as friends, shared, socialised but none did I get that connection with until I met my wife. It took time, but something was just very different. After 3 months my heart had left me, and I was in love.
So the process is very real, has no guarantees of success or being in anyway sensible, but it happens.
It is not a question of believing in it, it just happens. It is a problem when understanding and intimacy get confused with falling in love and affection, but that is part of the complexity of the situation.
As I have got older I realise many confuse sexual attraction and need, for this love and connection.
The other issue is to make such loving relationships work you need a certain level of self understanding and maturity. It is obvious to see, many never quite reach this or manage to connect in quite the right way.
S
Marrying for love seems like a fools errand. Does that mean that people who marry don't love each other? I don't think so...but building the foundation of what is supposed to be a lifelong commitment on a misapplied, misused and ignorant view of what love really is.....just isn't wise. IMO. There is no doubt that people should have an attraction to each other but.... it CAN be the case that what attracts you to someone isn't necessarily all that great for you.
I've made mistakes with "following my heart" and I do not intend to do that again.
I've made mistakes with "following my heart" and I do not intend to do that again.
S
People get to the eros part of attraction before they build the phileo part. I've been guilty of it. What it really boils down to..at least for me is a lack of faith that God will and does. Instead, with the whole falling in love concept...it's us taking matters into our own hands and forcing the issue.
S
If God is in control, expect to grow a lot in the process... and in that growth, there's going to be some pretty serious attraction, or you're doing it wrong.
It's possible to develop that deep attraction either after you iron out all the details, or before you iron out the details.
It's quite simple really. It's perfectly fine to end up infatuated with someone - just as long as you stay spiritually disciplined. Test all things. Test their words, see how they interact with other people in various settings. Discuss finances in an open and transparent manner - just a bit at first to test the waters, then in more detail as time progresses. Learn what their habits are like - if you're a neat freak and they're slovenly, that might not be a good match. What do they like do to - if they're into base jumping and wearing wing suits and you like to curl up with a nice book, make sure they don't expect you to change for them.
The right person to marry is going to be someone you can't imagine a life without - someone who is a reminder of God's grace and blessing, and someone who won't be a tremendous burden or drain on you. If it feels like work all of the time, then chances are good there wasn't enough communication and prayer during the growth stage of the relationship.
Ultimately, there is going to be some compromise somewhere. People aren't perfect. The trick is loving someone in a deep way while still being well aware that they have shortcomings, but they are shortcomings you are willing to overlook because they are the right fit for you.
Hey, it happens sometimes.
It's possible to develop that deep attraction either after you iron out all the details, or before you iron out the details.
It's quite simple really. It's perfectly fine to end up infatuated with someone - just as long as you stay spiritually disciplined. Test all things. Test their words, see how they interact with other people in various settings. Discuss finances in an open and transparent manner - just a bit at first to test the waters, then in more detail as time progresses. Learn what their habits are like - if you're a neat freak and they're slovenly, that might not be a good match. What do they like do to - if they're into base jumping and wearing wing suits and you like to curl up with a nice book, make sure they don't expect you to change for them.
The right person to marry is going to be someone you can't imagine a life without - someone who is a reminder of God's grace and blessing, and someone who won't be a tremendous burden or drain on you. If it feels like work all of the time, then chances are good there wasn't enough communication and prayer during the growth stage of the relationship.
Ultimately, there is going to be some compromise somewhere. People aren't perfect. The trick is loving someone in a deep way while still being well aware that they have shortcomings, but they are shortcomings you are willing to overlook because they are the right fit for you.
Hey, it happens sometimes.
F
Yeah I believe in it ever since I was young, very young I think.. because i'm still young. 
Falling in love is like an adventure! You know, when I was young, I always think that if I fall in love with the right person everything will be awesome. Life will be so beautiful and so fantastic. I still believe in it though. I know that God has someone for everyone. Okay but there is just something we need to understand about falling in love. Everyone can fall in love but not everyone is ready for love.
How can someone be ready for love, true love..? For me I think, one must be spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally ready. One must be serious, loyal and so on. And mostly one must seek God to find the right person.
I want to say more but i'm working right now
Yes I believe in falling in love, being in love and staying in love and above all rising in love. God bless!
Falling in love is like an adventure! You know, when I was young, I always think that if I fall in love with the right person everything will be awesome. Life will be so beautiful and so fantastic. I still believe in it though. I know that God has someone for everyone. Okay but there is just something we need to understand about falling in love. Everyone can fall in love but not everyone is ready for love.
How can someone be ready for love, true love..? For me I think, one must be spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally ready. One must be serious, loyal and so on. And mostly one must seek God to find the right person.
I want to say more but i'm working right now
Yes I believe in falling in love, being in love and staying in love and above all rising in love. God bless!
K
Yes. Scientists think that it is sub-conscience familiarities of a combination of other relationships, faces, scents, experiences, etc. from even childhood, movies, books, etc. And that its that feeling of someone seeming familiar even though you just met, combined with things about them that trigger good memories and feelings from past experiences. Sub-conscientiously they remind you of something good. Then being attracted to their appearance, and them winning your trust, makes you open up your heart to them, which makes you want to be where they are because you extremely like them, and treasure them, and where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. This is the way it's meant to be, this love is the foundation of marriage. God could have taken any bone from Adam to make Eve, but He chose one close to his heart- where she should always be.