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MollyConnor

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I know that God controls this but it's still fun to think about. If you want kids or have thought about them for your future, how many do you want? What genders? Or does it not matter to you?

My friend and I were talking about this today and she said she wants one child, a boy. I think I want two or three at the most. I've actually always imagined myself with two boys and one girl. I don't know why, but I have haha.

I think now that I'm 26 (my profile is wrong) I'm getting baby fever lol Oh my!



Now if only storks could bring husbands too! :p

 
BruceWayne

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I don't want kids at the moment, but if my significant other and I ever decided to, I would want one, maybe two at most. Preferably a girl(s). Twins would be my first option though. That would be awesome. :eek:
 
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fourleaf

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As much as possible i don't want to think about having family right now because i'm too occupied and still enjoying my freedom.

But if the time comes, i like as little babies as possible. I think two is enough. A boy and a girl. Though, i think big family is wonderful and great (just so u know, i came from a big family), I don't believe i could take care as many children like my mom did to be honest. I don't know.. And i know alot about giving birth and I'm really scared about it. I know that giving birth should be a woman's greatest achievement not greatest fear but still...Um, okay I guess that should go for another discussion. :) So there you go.
 
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dalconn

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Just make sure you and your "significant other" are married and have a life in Christ together first then make all the babies you can support :D
 
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MollyConnor

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dalconn said:
Just make sure you and your "significant other" are married and have a life in Christ together first then make all the babies you can support :D
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I'm sorry did I word my questions wrongly? I asked what everyone else thought. I did not ask for advice.

If you knew me at all on here you would know that I've only ever dated one guy 6 years ago. We went on two dates and we broke it off because he didn't love Jesus the way he should.

I don't know what you are trying to insinuate with your comments but I'm actually very prudish, or at least that's what I've been called lately. I'm not having sex before marriage if that's what you are afraid of. :rolleyes:

Also, I am not ready to have kids. I don't want them right now, it's just fun to think about...or so I thought.
 
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blondieindahouse

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MollyConnor said:
I know that God controls this but it's still fun to think about. If you want kids or have thought about them for your future, how many do you want? What genders? Or does it not matter to you?

My friend and I were talking about this today and she said she wants one child, a boy. I think I want two or three at the most. I've actually always imagined myself with two boys and one girl. I don't know why, but I have haha.

I think now that I'm 26 (my profile is wrong) I'm getting baby fever lol Oh my!



Now if only storks could bring husbands too! :p

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Molly I think I may have come up with a temporary plan for ya!!! Okay now, stay with me this is good!

This may hold you over for a few yrs:):p

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melita916

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ah children. i actually had a convo recently about this :)

up to last year, i would get depressed hearing/thinking about my biological clock ticking away. the older i got, the louder it would get. i wanted 3 or 4 children, which included adopting as well.

but this year, God has worked so much in me. my answer now is, "if God wants me to have kids, it will happen. if not, i'm not worried." :)
 
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Abing

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I... and this is probably one of the reasons I'll never have a real date, don't want kids. I don't know I just cannot imagine myself having kids. This makes me doubt sometimes if I should even marry. I just think it's hard to raise kids during these end times and with all the things to do, I'm afraid they'll feel abandoned. I may not be able to fulfil the complicated duties of a mother. My mother told me maybe it was because I was too young, but that was like a decade ago and my views on this haven't changed. Honestly, one of my prayers is that if I'll never have the desire to have kids, and if God wants me to marry, then I pray He gives me a man who has the same views as I lol so we don't have to argue. I have a younger brother, he's 12. I've watched him grow and I do like kids. I'm amazed at how things are so different from his perspective as a child. And his precious innocence! I would fight goliath to preserve that. But yeah to have my own kids, to me is a huge huge responsibility I don't think I'll ever be ready for. But who knows? Maybe because I'm only... 25... Maybe after another decade I'll change my mind.
 
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HappyGuy

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melita916 said:
ah children. i actually had a convo recently about this :)

up to last year, i would get depressed hearing/thinking about my biological clock ticking away. the older i got, the louder it would get. i wanted 3 or 4 children, which included adopting as well.

but this year, God has worked so much in me. my answer now is, "if God wants me to have kids, it will happen. if not, i'm not worried." :)
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Im at that point to as I have no kids and if I have kids or dont have kids it wont bother me.
 
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AgnusDei

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I would really like to have children with my future wife

To play football with them and to make tents in the living room to emulate the Aurora Borealis in Norway, Iceland and Greenland.

To also run with my children into the seashores of North Wales, United Kingdom.
 
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MollyConnor

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MollyConnor said:
I'm sorry did I word my questions wrongly? I asked what everyone else thought. I did not ask for advice.

If you knew me at all on here you would know that I've only ever dated one guy 6 years ago. We went on two dates and we broke it off because he didn't love Jesus the way he should.

I don't know what you are trying to insinuate with your comments but I'm actually very prudish, or at least that's what I've been called lately. I'm not having sex before marriage if that's what you are afraid of. :rolleyes:

Also, I am not ready to have kids. I don't want them right now, it's just fun to think about...or so I thought.
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Maybe I was rude on this post...I'm feeling bad about it! I'm sorry Dalconn. Maybe you were just being polite but I took it the wrong way. I've had a tough day today and I am just very short-tempered right now. :(
 
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MissCris

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Kids...nah. No thanks.





...ok, so, seriously...I'm incredibly blessed to have my two babies (who are less and less like babies every minute), and I'm beyond grateful that God entrusted me and my husband with them, especially when I had given up hope on ever having children. When we first got married, we talked about having six kids (my husband is an only child and wanted a big family where no child ever felt lonely, and I've got five half sisters and a brother and thought a big family raised under one roof would be amazing). We have since decided that two kids are plenty, a boy and a girl, though I'm starting to think another baby would be nice...

I might be crazy. There are days that I get my kids into bed and sit down and say "Lord, whhhhhyyyyyyy kids?! I can't do this!" But then, there are a lot more times when I appreciate what a precious gift they are.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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I don't want them personally. But I want all of my realish life friends here to all pump them out like well oiled machines. I can spoil them rotten and give them back to you when they get on my nerves :p. Im one of only two people in my family that doesn't have any kids and I loooooove it. Sweet sweet freedom. Being a truly good Parent is a lot of responsibility, very very hard to do properly and is a lifelong job even for one kid. It doesn't end at 18 like they want you to think :p.
 
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I Always wanted a child .! To be Honest i thought it would never Happen. I Got married in 2012 and my baby girl was born May 2015 . I was 35 years old. I am very grateful that God waited to bless me with her. I would love to give her a brother or sister . We are going to wait a year try again. Then I'm Done.! ( Husband says he wants more yeah ). Carrying her in my womb and feeling her move and kick. Then the moment she was born and i heard her first cry changed my Heart ! I melted instantly. It been great ever since. Yes the other post are right . it is a big big responability and have patience. I have a love i have not know before! I always asked and spoke with God if if he did bless me with a child . I would love that child more than any love i ever had growing up and More!!!!!
 
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Donkeyfish07 said:
I don't want them personally. But I want all of my realish life friends here to all pump them out like well oiled machines. I can spoil them rotten and give them back to you when they get on my nerves :p. Im one of only two people in my family that doesn't have any kids and I loooooove it. Sweet sweet freedom. Being a truly good Parent is a lot of responsibility, very very hard to do properly and is a lifelong job even for one kid. It doesn't end at 18 like they want you to think :p.
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That's a good way of putting it. Also I've been told horror stories from mothers who are like "So I vomited for 4 months, the baby kicked my insides around like a warped version of human silly putty and don't get me started on labor...you remember what happens to the guy at the end of Fargo....yeah that actually seems relaxing compared to this." Or something more or less melodramatic. Then the mom usually ends it with "But it was worth it..." Still have yet to see why.

So as a lady-type person I don't want to get preggers and have to push a baby out or get cut open. No thanks.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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TriviaGirl86 said:
That's a good way of putting it. Also I've been told horror stories from mothers who are like "So I vomited for 4 months, the baby kicked my insides around like a warped version of human silly putty and don't get me started on labor...you remember what happens to the guy at the end of Fargo....yeah that actually seems relaxing compared to this." Or something more or less melodramatic. Then the mom usually ends it with "But it was worth it..." Still have yet to see why.

So as a lady-type person I don't want to get preggers and have to push a baby out or get cut open. No thanks.
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Ha ha, you may think that you have no desire for children but get back to me when you are 39. I have dated a lot of age ranges and let me tell you.....your biological clock will reaaaaally go into overdrive between 35-40. Especially if you don't already have any children. Though abstaining from reproducing is a good thing if you are doing it for the right reasons, it still doesn't change the fact that we are biologically wired to multiply. Men have their own issues dealing with it but with women, that 35-40 (perhaps even 45) age range is the true test of will. At that age range, you are the hormonal equivelant of a 17 year old male teenager.
 
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Donkeyfish07 said:
Ha ha, you may think that you have no desire for children but get back to me when you are 39. I have dated a lot of age ranges and let me tell you.....your biological clock will reaaaaally go into overdrive between 35-40. Especially if you don't already have any children. Though abstaining from reproducing is a good thing if you are doing it for the right reasons, it still doesn't change the fact that we are biologically wired to multiply. Men have their own issues dealing with it but with women, that 35-40 (perhaps even 45) age range is the true test of will. At that age range, you are the hormonal equivelant of a 17 year old male teenager.
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Oh Lord...am I not looking forward to that. God does make sure women lose a thing called "all logical reasoning" when contemplating childbirth, because it protects us from the horrors that lie within. Also, I suppose if I become a 17 year old male teenager at 35-40 I will suddenly find "American Pie" funny?
 
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I go from thinking "I would like to have children, a boy and a girl, and make them as awesome as I am", to, "Who, in their right sense, would want to have children? They are the equivalent of having 5 mortgages to pay off; the only difference being there is no tenure on this one!"

So, yeah, that is how I feel about children. :rolleyes:
 
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Donkeyfish07

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TriviaGirl86 said:
Oh Lord...am I not looking forward to that. God does make sure women lose a thing called "all logical reasoning" when contemplating childbirth, because it protects us from the horrors that lie within. Also, I suppose if I become a 17 year old male teenager at 35-40 I will suddenly find "American Pie" funny?
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Lol.....the hormonal equivelant does not = the same exact mentality on absolutely everything. Our bodies produce the extremes of hormonal intensities at different ages. It's just the nature of the differences between genders. The most notable difference is, women get an extra 20ish years of wisdom to battle the onslaught with.

Guys deal with the extremes younger when they have less wisdom and life experience :p. Which is why we are all pretty much retarded at about 16-20 and enjoy blowing things up and watching American Pie. As logical creatures as men generally seem to be when they mature, there is no logic at the peak of hormonal activity, i can confirm this personally. Lol. It is not fair to expect women to act logically either when it is due time for their hormones to be out of whack and this biological clock we speak of is ticking like an armed warhead. Men have no biological clock.
 
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