After a break up, do women move on quickly than men or the other way around? Is it true that after the break up,men are left more devastated than women or the other way around?
Neither is true or false, because the circumstances of who moves on sooner, or who is the more devastated party, is not related to gender. Every relationship is subject to their own unique set of circumstances, and so the results of the break-up are dependent on those circumstances.
People don't necessarily move on because they're over someone. They move on to erase the pain, or fill the void, or to spitefully get back at their ex.
People don't necessarily move on slower because they are more devastated. Some people look back and see the mistakes and are more careful. Some people want to take time to focus on theirselves and their own issues. Some people enjoy the surprising liberty that being single offers.
People aren't always devastated because they are more sensitive. People can be devastated because they were blindsided and didn't see the breakup coming. Some people are devastated because they invested so much time and energy into their partner. People can be devastated because infidelity was involved, or maybe the breakup was over something that seemed insignificant or petty.
People can seem indifferent for reasons beyond insensitivity. Maybe the undevastated partner realized that the relationship was headed for an end, and that this was for the best. Perhaps they weren't devastated because they realized it hurt MORE to stay together than to break up. Possibly, they knew from the start of the relationship that it was going to be short and seasonal, while the other party did not.
People and relationships are far, far too complicated to just try and tack it down to one's gender. "Men always move on faster." "Women are always devastated." If this line of reasoning was even remotely useable, then we might as well get racist as well as sexist. "Black people never move on first." "The Asian partner is never devastated after a break up." "Hispanics always have a new partner waiting as soon as they break up." I mean, when you say it like that, it becomes OBVIOUSLY ridiculous, right?
