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The whole idea of a "first date" to me is getting to know someone a bit better... so for this I honestly think that the best thing would be to simply just get together and have a cuppa tea and a chat. Oddly this has never been suggested to me before- I think men put too much emphasis on trying to impress girls, when in reality first dates that involve supper, cinema and the like can just be plain stressful, nerve wracking and uncomfortable. Coffee/tea is a neutral setting, no pressure and you can just be yourselves with eachother in a relaxed environment. x
J
I think it comes down to considering her personality and being creative. I've only dated one person before, and I ended it after a month because there just wasn't any romantic attraction there, though we are still friends. 
The first time he took me out, it was to the Olive Garden. I like eating there, so it was a nice choice, but it was very crowded and noisy. And considering that we're both already pretty quiet people and he's not extremely talkative (really, neither am I), not a whole lot of talking took place and it would have been difficult as well. So, restaurants are always a nice option, but consider how crowded your choice might be. Another date, he took me to hear the Florida Orchestra, which didn't give much opportunity to talk during, but dinner beforehand, intermission, and the ride there and back gave us time to talk. So a movie is not out of the question either, so long as it's something that you'd both be interested in seeing. One other time we went out, he took me to a sunflower maze. It was looking pretty sad, as storms just a day or two before knocked many of the flowers down - it also was extremely easy to make it through, and not very long. But it was creative, and it was still fun. And we went to lunch afterward.
But, like I said, you can get creative. You could plan a picnic, you could go bowling. If she's athletic and adventurous, you could plan something outdoors. You could even go paintballing if she's up to it. But again, you have to think about what she likes, and plan accordingly. I think dinner and a movie is a fine option, and a classic. Most people are quite happy to do just that. You might also plan a dinner at home (if you can't cook, you can always pick it up from a restaurant, lol, but she'll be impressed if you attempt to cook on your own), and include a dessert, and then you could rent a movie or pick one off of the shelf. That will also give you time to talk and spend time together, you wouldn't have to worry about the movie being too much of an interference or missing any of it, as you could just watch it over.
Hopefully you've gotten some pretty good ideas from this thread.
The first time he took me out, it was to the Olive Garden. I like eating there, so it was a nice choice, but it was very crowded and noisy. And considering that we're both already pretty quiet people and he's not extremely talkative (really, neither am I), not a whole lot of talking took place and it would have been difficult as well. So, restaurants are always a nice option, but consider how crowded your choice might be. Another date, he took me to hear the Florida Orchestra, which didn't give much opportunity to talk during, but dinner beforehand, intermission, and the ride there and back gave us time to talk. So a movie is not out of the question either, so long as it's something that you'd both be interested in seeing. One other time we went out, he took me to a sunflower maze. It was looking pretty sad, as storms just a day or two before knocked many of the flowers down - it also was extremely easy to make it through, and not very long. But it was creative, and it was still fun. And we went to lunch afterward. But, like I said, you can get creative. You could plan a picnic, you could go bowling. If she's athletic and adventurous, you could plan something outdoors. You could even go paintballing if she's up to it. But again, you have to think about what she likes, and plan accordingly. I think dinner and a movie is a fine option, and a classic. Most people are quite happy to do just that. You might also plan a dinner at home (if you can't cook, you can always pick it up from a restaurant, lol, but she'll be impressed if you attempt to cook on your own), and include a dessert, and then you could rent a movie or pick one off of the shelf. That will also give you time to talk and spend time together, you wouldn't have to worry about the movie being too much of an interference or missing any of it, as you could just watch it over.
Hopefully you've gotten some pretty good ideas from this thread.
J
If a guy asked me that, my response would be, "Well, what games ya got?" Lol. Nintendo consoles are the only consoles I've played, so I'd probably still play, even if I wasn't that interested in the game. Besides, it'd give me a chance to show off my mad skillz. ROFL.
And, you don't know how badly I want to change that back to "skills". I'm a bit compulsive about my spelling.
And, you don't know how badly I want to change that back to "skills". I'm a bit compulsive about my spelling.
I think it comes down to considering her personality and being creative. I've only dated one person before, and I ended it after a month because there just wasn't any romantic attraction there, though we are still friends. The first time he took me out, it was to the Olive Garden. I like eating there, so it was a nice choice, but it was very crowded and noisy. And considering that we're both already pretty quiet people and he's not extremely talkative (really, neither am I), not a whole lot of talking took place and it would have been difficult as well. So, restaurants are always a nice option, but consider how crowded your choice might be. Another date, he took me to hear the Florida Orchestra, which didn't give much opportunity to talk during, but dinner beforehand, intermission, and the ride there and back gave us time to talk. So a movie is not out of the question either, so long as it's something that you'd both be interested in seeing. One other time we went out, he took me to a sunflower maze. It was looking pretty sad, as storms just a day or two before knocked many of the flowers down - it also was extremely easy to make it through, and not very long. But it was creative, and it was still fun. And we went to lunch afterward.
But, like I said, you can get creative. You could plan a picnic, you could go bowling. If she's athletic and adventurous, you could plan something outdoors. You could even go paintballing if she's up to it. But again, you have to think about what she likes, and plan accordingly. I think dinner and a movie is a fine option, and a classic. Most people are quite happy to do just that. You might also plan a dinner at home (if you can't cook, you can always pick it up from a restaurant, lol, but she'll be impressed if you attempt to cook on your own), and include a dessert, and then you could rent a movie or pick one off of the shelf. That will also give you time to talk and spend time together, you wouldn't have to worry about the movie being too much of an interference or missing any of it, as you could just watch it over.
Hopefully you've gotten some pretty good ideas from this thread.
The first time he took me out, it was to the Olive Garden. I like eating there, so it was a nice choice, but it was very crowded and noisy. And considering that we're both already pretty quiet people and he's not extremely talkative (really, neither am I), not a whole lot of talking took place and it would have been difficult as well. So, restaurants are always a nice option, but consider how crowded your choice might be. Another date, he took me to hear the Florida Orchestra, which didn't give much opportunity to talk during, but dinner beforehand, intermission, and the ride there and back gave us time to talk. So a movie is not out of the question either, so long as it's something that you'd both be interested in seeing. One other time we went out, he took me to a sunflower maze. It was looking pretty sad, as storms just a day or two before knocked many of the flowers down - it also was extremely easy to make it through, and not very long. But it was creative, and it was still fun. And we went to lunch afterward. But, like I said, you can get creative. You could plan a picnic, you could go bowling. If she's athletic and adventurous, you could plan something outdoors. You could even go paintballing if she's up to it. But again, you have to think about what she likes, and plan accordingly. I think dinner and a movie is a fine option, and a classic. Most people are quite happy to do just that. You might also plan a dinner at home (if you can't cook, you can always pick it up from a restaurant, lol, but she'll be impressed if you attempt to cook on your own), and include a dessert, and then you could rent a movie or pick one off of the shelf. That will also give you time to talk and spend time together, you wouldn't have to worry about the movie being too much of an interference or missing any of it, as you could just watch it over.
Hopefully you've gotten some pretty good ideas from this thread.
If a guy asked me that, my response would be, "Well, what games ya got?" Lol. Nintendo consoles are the only consoles I've played, so I'd probably still play, even if I wasn't that interested in the game. Besides, it'd give me a chance to show off my mad skillz. ROFL.
And, you don't know how badly I want to change that back to "skills". I'm a bit compulsive about my spelling.
And, you don't know how badly I want to change that back to "skills". I'm a bit compulsive about my spelling.
or super mairo bros
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There is nothing wrong with going to dinner on a first date. You should stop worrying so much about what other people say is fun/boring, and do what you want instead. You could go on the most boring date in the world, and as long as you have a personality, she will enjoy it. It is that simple. The girl will find it boring only if YOU are boring. She will want to see you again if she likes you. There isn't some secret date that makes someone like you more or not.
Bottom line: Stop worrying so much, and go enjoy yourself with whatever you do. Anyone that actually cares about whether a date is cliche or not (and doesn't like you based on it) isn't someone that is worth your time anyway.
Bottom line: Stop worrying so much, and go enjoy yourself with whatever you do. Anyone that actually cares about whether a date is cliche or not (and doesn't like you based on it) isn't someone that is worth your time anyway.
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YES, YES, YES - I agree. Dinner with an interesting person cannot be boring, unless they do not serve u any food DDD
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I've gone on dates where we didn't order for hours because we talked so much. The waitress got so mad, but we didn't care. By the time we started eating, we just shared it all anyway.
Dinner dates are great for the first date, as long as you have a good personality.
K
Honestly people the first date can be a set up for wreckage when either side goes over board. My suggestion is to keep it fun and simple. Very few are going to get it right on that first date with that new person they have met. Hopefully both of you have shared intersts so in that find out what they like to do drink or eat. For example the coffee house for the first date and I am not talking Star Bucks more like a social coffee house that plays all kinds of live music with in the ranges of simple contemporary bands so there is a calm social setting for all to enjoy. If that is too busy try like a day out together looking at antique stores or other kinds of village shopps so it is not like looking at clothse but more like seeing the sights and enjoying the time out around the town without spending way to much money. Or if you both enjoy the outdoors, go to your or her favorite trail walk with plenty of scenery to enjoy together. Many states have museaums that are free of charge to go to and have a day together to look around. These and many more options are fun easy and simple without having to spend alot of money on the first date that offers quality time together that takes the pressures off to perform. These kinds of activities are great icebreakers that allow you to open up and really get to know the person you are interested in. That way if it does not turn out like one would hope there are no regretts and no one is taken advantage of and if it does work out each of you can deside when the gift giving begins and the impressive dinner dates that guys can take more confidence in pursueing a lady. Who knows if it doesnt work out you may have made a life long friend or you may have invested wisely to the love of your life. Just always enjoy these moments when meeting someone new.