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egeiro

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Funny enough, I never had a thing for men in suits. The university I went to was in the heart of the city, so I passed by many business men during those times. I didn't get a very good vibe from them. There seemed to be this 'upper class/lower class' snobbery about them that used to grind me.
 

egeiro

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i sort of understand. : ) years in sales and lots and lots of conventions, speaking and stuff have definitely helped me hone the facade of being normal-ish and possibly appearing kind of chill, but there is that whole "i'm a really good guy" vibe that certain men project that can switch on my inner school girl giddiness.

the "I'm a good guy" thing readily appears on the faces of all kinds of public servants, teachers, and otherwise nice guys. police, and especially firefighters seem to have an inordinate proportion of these "i'm a good guy" faces. surprisingly, the mail carriers don't seem to be burdened with this kind of countenance.

however, even more than the "i'm a good guy", the the super-smart guy was always my achilles heel. le sigh.

I think the thing for me is that I never see a self-conscious or crumpled fireman or police officer in uniform. It is as if the uniform itself brings out a truer calling out of the person wearing it. It is as if they walk and move gliding on purpose and on a higher calling for the sake of others. Their faces are set on serving and they're senses are alert to respond to those in need.

I've come to a point where I won't settle or give another glance to a man unless he truly knows himself. Who truly has their identity and understanding of who they are grounded in Christ.

Back in May, I went to a seminar for early childhood education and documentation, and that is where I met a man named Stephen. He was a confident and articulate speaker, who has travelled over the world and travelled around Australia being educated and educating others about education. He has gone on study tours overseas to see amazing places I would only dream of visiting, and not only did he deliver meaty content but he spoke passionately as well.

It was in May, upon meeting this man named Stephen (who I don't know if he is a Christian or not, but won't risk it), that I felt something that I thought was lost: that school girl crush feeling. Despite my darker complexion, my cheeks would burn red for him. At the end of the seminar, he offered to look over some documentation we did individually, and when he came to me I was last and at that point there was no one else was in the room as everyone had left.

I showed him how I captured the children's learning in a observation while putting my own poetic touch on it, and he looked me straight in the eye and he said, "Arlene, sometimes I wonder if people actually walk away and get what I'm talking about. I can clearly tell you now, you get it. You have captured the meaningfulness behind the learning." He then asked me to email him because he thought I had something and wanted to get me in touch with a Reggio Emilia Centre.

So I nearly fell off my chair.

And then the other week I go to a Reggio Emilia Workshop across town and lo and behold, Stephen was there with other people to give the presentation. During one of the breaks he waved at me and instantly recalled my name, and told me the details of the observation I did and how he remembered it from May. He then said to make sure I catch him after the presentation before I leave. After I walked away, I then turned to my director who was with me and I couldn't stop giggling like a school girl. I literally buried my face behind my lap top, laughing until I almost cried. My director then proceeded to poke fun at me, at this 25 year old woman relishing in her inner adolescent crush.

So after the presentation, I spoke to him and so did my director, and he said to my director in front of me, "You have a special one here." My director then talked about professional development stuff, and then he offered his card to her in case she wanted to contact him, and then he turned to me and he offered a card, but I said I probably have his contact saved in my email account because I emailed him once about the Reggio centre, and he gave me his card anyways "just in case" he said.

I haven't emailed him yet, I think I said I would update him on the new environment in our centre, but I think the whhhoolleee reason I went in to that lengthy story is because of his character and qualities. He was well educated, but passionate as well. He just spoke like he was confident in who he is and what he does yet humble enough to listen and lift up others. I guess what I'm trying to say is, "I GET THE WHOLE EDUCATED/SMART THING." It was undeniably attractive. I've always had a sincere soft spot for speakers who could deliver knowledge with a whole lot of heart. He is slightly lanky although well dressed, admittedly around 35 years of age, but I could just listen and learn from him for hours. There was so many qualities about him that gripped me with attraction.

I'll admit, the feelings I felt were shallow, love is so much more than that, la-la-la (I wouldn't press past the school girl crush, I don't see it as anything more than that), but I've come to realise how much I desire the qualities of confidence and passion in a man. Especially one who is fighting for a better and more meaningful educational system.
 

egeiro

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I know I didn't have to tell the story about what he thought of my work and what he thought of me, but I did. Only because I wanted to re-live it. What? It was kind of romantic and cute, wasn't it?
 
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CarolSampaio

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Please remember, ladies. Just because a man looks handsome in uniform or suits or whatever, doesn't mean his soul is handsome (that he's a man of godly character and integrity). Be careful.
Relax, Tintin... no one will be with a guy just because he looks good... a shell is just a shell if there's nothing good in it!!

Don't get me wrong... I do believe that looks has to be part of the package... a guy who you only like to talk to and to have fun with is a just a friend and nothing more...

I'm not saying he needs to be dashing and perfectly fit as well... but he needs to be handsome and good looking to me... I need to want to kiss him and hug him and do everything alse with him... and on top of that, he needs to be my best friend, and the person I want to tell my day to, with whom I want to share my life with, and so on...

So... yeah... when we're talking about a man-woman relationship, the shell is a important part of the package... otherwise it's just friendship...
 

seoulsearch

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Please remember, ladies. Just because a man looks handsome in uniform or suits or whatever, doesn't mean his soul is handsome (that he's a man of godly character and integrity). Be careful.
Tintin,

In case no one's ever told you this... You are quite handsome.

And no one would question your integrity and Godly character. :)
 
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CarolSampaio

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Tintin,

In case no one's ever told you this... You are quite handsome.

And no one would question your integrity and Godly character. :)
I told him, Seoul... but he turned me down... I'm too old... but I understand... my heart is not broken... I'm perfectly fine...

 
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Tintin

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Relax, Tintin... no one will be with a guy just because he looks good... a shell is just a shell if there's nothing good in it!!

Don't get me wrong... I do believe that looks has to be part of the package... a guy who you only like to talk to and to have fun with is a just a friend and nothing more...

I'm not saying he needs to be dashing and perfectly fit as well... but he needs to be handsome and good looking to me... I need to want to kiss him and hug him and do everything alse with him... and on top of that, he needs to be my best friend, and the person I want to tell my day to, with whom I want to share my life with, and so on...

So... yeah... when we're talking about a man-woman relationship, the shell is a important part of the package... otherwise it's just friendship...
Sorry, I agree. I guess I'm a bit overprotective. I don't want any of you to end up with a guy that's any less than you deserve.
 
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Tintin

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Tintin,

In case no one's ever told you this... You are quite handsome.

And no one would question your integrity and Godly character. :)
Thank you, Kim. You're very kind, dear sister. I'm certainly not perfect, I have my own stuff to work on. Now off to the uniform shop! (jokes)
 
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CarolSampaio

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Sorry, I agree. I guess I'm a bit overprotective. I don't want any of you to end up with a guy that's any less than you deserve.
The same way we all want to see you with a beautiful girl (inside and out) who will make you incredibly happy and who will allow you to be yourself... and be even better at it!! ;)
 
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Tintin

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I told him, Seoul... but he turned me down... I'm too old... but I understand... my heart is not broken... I'm perfectly fine...

Aw, Carol. I'm sorry. I don't remember calling you old. I hope I didn't, that would be downright rude. You're a beautiful person (and not just your character).
 
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Tintin

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The same way we all want to see you with a beautiful girl (inside and out) who will make you incredibly happy and who will allow you to be yourself... and be even better at it!! ;)
Wow, Carol. Thank you. Thanks so much. Sounds good to me. You're so encouraging and supportive. I love you guys. I really do. Group hug!
 
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LittleBit1987

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I went to see the new Hunger Games movie... and it was as boring as I expected it to be lol, especially the way Snow went from being in power to being captured... lame. The ending was also like.. really, that's it? -_- It had its moments, but the only one I really liked was the first one.

Someone always tries to tell me how better The Hunger Games is compared to the Divergent Series. Yeah right :p
Well dead-gum.... I was all excited about seeing this movie this weekend... And you kinda just busted my bubble and now I'm not sure I wanna watch it... Shame on you! :p
 
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CarolSampaio

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Aw, Carol. I'm sorry. I don't remember calling you old. I hope I didn't, that would be downright rude. You're a beautiful person (and not just your character).
It's cool, Tintin... I'm a big girl... I can take it!! :)

One pizza later, and I was ready to roll!! :)

 
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Tintin

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It's cool, Tintin... I'm a big girl... I can take it!! :)

One pizza later, and I was ready to roll!! :)

Did I really call you old? I'm so sorry! I thought I mentioned nothing more than the extreme sports lifestyle not being my cup-of-tea. Oh, man.
 

Lynx

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Sadly, this is so true. I can't count the many many many times I admired a guy only to find him holding hands with another guy.
For some reason an old blues song started playing through my brain...

"I'm in love with a woman
She's in love with a woman too"
 
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blueorchidjd

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lol yes!!
I am officially friends with the vigilant christian on faceboook....
His actual facebook page, lol. yas.