I am really at the point where I don't understand what it all means. When you are single you want to be married, when you are married you want to be single. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He wil go through periods where he won't call me for a whole day, today is one of those days for example. We live 2 hours away. We have been abstinent and we both follow God. I wonder if he is ever going to ask me to marry him. Being single sucks. It can be really lonely. I want someone to talk to you know? besides my girlfriends. I don't tell him it bothers me that he has days where he doesn't call because I don't want to appear posessive or insecure and all that other stuff. The last time we talked was on Monday night. I got a text yesterday but other than that I feel a hole. He is developing a pattern of this and it makes me wonder if he loves me or not. I really need someone to talk to tonight.
Lonely and confused
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Aw. Thanks for talking to me and responding. Yeah we see each other on the weekend, not every weekend but yeah, I think he is getting to a place where he feels he doesn't have to try. Where is the romance you know?
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goth4god
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yeah...
idk what your relationship is like, but if i were in your shoes and if it was a pretty open relationship i would just go ahead and tell him whats on my mind and how i feel about the relationship. cuz i mean a relationship is between 2 ppl so both of them should know how eachother feel about it. and most the guys i know really suck when it comes to reading signs and getting hints that are dropped. so he may not be doing any of this on purpose, he might not even know hes doing it and be compleatly oblivious to it! lol
idk what your relationship is like, but if i were in your shoes and if it was a pretty open relationship i would just go ahead and tell him whats on my mind and how i feel about the relationship. cuz i mean a relationship is between 2 ppl so both of them should know how eachother feel about it. and most the guys i know really suck when it comes to reading signs and getting hints that are dropped. so he may not be doing any of this on purpose, he might not even know hes doing it and be compleatly oblivious to it! lol
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-JCaroline-
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I would say most of the time! lol
But yep, you're right, sometimes you dont know how to act around them.
Blah!
But yep, you're right, sometimes you dont know how to act around them.
Blah!
Thank you guys. I wrote him an e-mail and I told him that I want to hear from him everyday and explained that it affects me. I told him if he has time to post status updated and talk to people on the net all day (which he does on his facebook) he has time to write to me.
We all have needs right? I mean one text message to greet me during the day or something. But nothing all day? and the last phone call was 3 days ago? I want to feel adored by my partner. Now when he calls finally it will be like "oh how are you stranger?" I mean, if a friend said to him "How is Traci?" he would have to say "have no clue we haven't talk in a few days, I should call my her and see".
We all have needs right? I mean one text message to greet me during the day or something. But nothing all day? and the last phone call was 3 days ago? I want to feel adored by my partner. Now when he calls finally it will be like "oh how are you stranger?" I mean, if a friend said to him "How is Traci?" he would have to say "have no clue we haven't talk in a few days, I should call my her and see".
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gracegrl74
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you can talk to me....im on yahoo gracegrl74 or msn [email protected] i will pray for you...
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quote=supernova1976;23809]I am really at the point where I don't understand what it all means. When you are single you want to be married, when you are married you want to be single. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He wil go through periods where he won't call me for a whole day, today is one of those days for example. We live 2 hours away. We have been abstinent and we both follow God. I wonder if he is ever going to ask me to marry him. Being single sucks. It can be really lonely. I want someone to talk to you know? besides my girlfriends. I don't tell him it bothers me that he has days where he doesn't call because I don't want to appear posessive or insecure and all that other stuff. The last time we talked was on Monday night. I got a text yesterday but other than that I feel a hole. He is developing a pattern of this and it makes me wonder if he loves me or not. I really need someone to talk to tonight.[/quote]
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quote=supernova1976;23809]I am really at the point where I don't understand what it all means. When you are single you want to be married, when you are married you want to be single. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He wil go through periods where he won't call me for a whole day, today is one of those days for example. We live 2 hours away. We have been abstinent and we both follow God. I wonder if he is ever going to ask me to marry him. Being single sucks. It can be really lonely. I want someone to talk to you know? besides my girlfriends. I don't tell him it bothers me that he has days where he doesn't call because I don't want to appear posessive or insecure and all that other stuff. The last time we talked was on Monday night. I got a text yesterday but other than that I feel a hole. He is developing a pattern of this and it makes me wonder if he loves me or not. I really need someone to talk to tonight.[/quote]
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Ancilla
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Well, to paraphrase Dr. Phil when you get married you need to make sure you are running towards something and not away from something. So, if you get marry this guy it should be because it's him you want to be with rather than because you don't want to be single. Being single can really, really suck, but it's a walk in the park compared to being in a bad marriage. I mean I've heard it said that it's better to be happily single than unhappily married, but the truth is it's better to be unhappily single than unhappily married. I've heard (because I'm not married, never have been, so I don't know this first hand) that if your married but not really emotionally connecting than it can be more lonely than being single.
So, you're wondering if this guy is going to ask you to marry you. Do you know if he wants to get married in the foreseeable future? If he's not into marriage and you are, then you need to find someone else. Do you two want the same things in life? Do you think he'd make a good husband? Have you talked about what you want in the future? If not than there's no way to fix that. Every day you spend in a relationship with the wrong guy is a day where you're not looking for the right one.
So, you're wondering if this guy is going to ask you to marry you. Do you know if he wants to get married in the foreseeable future? If he's not into marriage and you are, then you need to find someone else. Do you two want the same things in life? Do you think he'd make a good husband? Have you talked about what you want in the future? If not than there's no way to fix that. Every day you spend in a relationship with the wrong guy is a day where you're not looking for the right one.
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incorporatestreet
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maybe you are depending on man instead of god?
if you feel a hole in your relationship, and if you arent happy
then you need to tell him what is bothering you or it will just get worse.
and maybe you need to reconsider the relationship...
where in the bible does it say for us to date?
it doesnt.
god created adam and eve.
he didnt creat adam, jack, joe, eve, sara, and jill for us to pick from.
make sure that this guy is your 'adam'
if you are serious about this, read the book 'God is Your Matchmaker'
im reading it and it is definitely an eye opener.
god bless.
if you feel a hole in your relationship, and if you arent happy
then you need to tell him what is bothering you or it will just get worse.
and maybe you need to reconsider the relationship...
where in the bible does it say for us to date?
it doesnt.
god created adam and eve.
he didnt creat adam, jack, joe, eve, sara, and jill for us to pick from.
make sure that this guy is your 'adam'
if you are serious about this, read the book 'God is Your Matchmaker'
im reading it and it is definitely an eye opener.
god bless.
I'm kind of an all or nothing guy. And I think if I continue to get no response in the next few months, I'm gonna go all in, so to speak.... as long as that's the direction, the Lord leads me. The hard thing in these things is knowing where the Lord is leading you but the ambivalence and the fence is awful.
I guess I gotta pay more attention to how this forum works
thanks for the heads up. I appreciate it.
I SO wanna ask if anyone else wanted to post:
"The ghost of Subhumanoidal is now posting under the screen-name "HeIsHere"
But I won't, because it is too soon.
Bet he woulda laughed though.
No clue what the inside joke is about. Is that supposed to be helpful here somewhere?I SO wanna ask if anyone else wanted to post:
"The ghost of Subhumanoidal is now posting under the screen-name "HeIsHere"
But I won't, because it is too soon.
Bet he woulda laughed though.
Ok , so I'm not single and haven't been for a long time . I can only tell u what I would do in your shoes . If u really do love him and think that maybe u would like to marry him , here's what I would do . Treat him the way he treats u . Don't call , don't text , don't e mail , don't do what he expects u to do . So , if u r playing it cool with him and not making yourself as available to him as u have been and , he doesn't seem to mind that , then I think u r on to a loser . Either he is emotionally distant because that's just who he is , or , he's just not that interested , either in u personally or , in having a commited romantic relationship with anyone . Be distant for at least a few weeks , make him chase u , make him wonder why u haven't called him today . C what reaction u get from him then . Just what I would do in your circumstances .
Whether it be too soon, I know not. But wot ye well, thus it hath made ME laugh.I SO wanna ask if anyone else wanted to post:
"The ghost of Subhumanoidal is now posting under the screen-name "HeIsHere"
But I won't, because it is too soon.
Bet he woulda laughed though.
Hi Mordy, welcome to the site!
Subhumanoidal was a longtime member who slways let people know when they were posting in an old thread. He passed away unexpectedly a few weeks ago. His memorial thread is up if you want more info.
When I saw another member filling his old role I was like "The torch has been passed
". Then I saw the member was "HeIsHere" and I cracked up. But no, my comment wasn't directed at you or intended to be helpful in a literal sense. I apologize for any confusion it may have caused!
Hi Mordy, welcome to the site!
Subhumanoidal was a longtime member who slways let people know when they were posting in an old thread. He passed away unexpectedly a few weeks ago. His memorial thread is up if you want more info.
When I saw another member filling his old role I was like "The torch has been passed
But no, my comment wasn't directed at you or intended to be helpful in a literal sense. I apologize for any confusion it may have caused!
Looks like I completed that Exorcism course just in time lol.
I guess I gotta pay more attention to how this forum works
Yeah that's right, it can get a little confusing here. I'm still to figuring out how this forum works. Not like the usual.