In need of honest advice

[coby]

You're not married to his brother:

Void Marriages (Sec 11(1)) Married parties treated as if there was no marriage at all – order consent parties not been freely given (fraud, coercion, mental disorder, influence of drugs, intoxication); either party is absent from the ceremony; parties permit knowingly and willfully permitted an unqualified person to celebrate the union; parties are mistaken about the identity of the other party; or parties enter the marriage for fraudulent purposes.

Marriage Court has a choice and may void the marriage on the grounds that– at date of marriage, either party was and has remained incapable of consummating - See more at: Highlights Of The Marriage Act, 2014. | Kenya Law

I think if the law of that country says you're married to your husband if his brother vowed for him, then you're married, if the country you live in now recognizes that too.

 

[Nkiru]

You're not married to his brother:

Void Marriages (Sec 11(1)) Married parties treated as if there was no marriage at all – order consent parties not been freely given (fraud, coercion, mental disorder, influence of drugs, intoxication); either party is absent from the ceremony; parties permit knowingly and willfully permitted an unqualified person to celebrate the union; parties are mistaken about the identity of the other party; or parties enter the marriage for fraudulent purposes.

Marriage Court has a choice and may void the marriage on the grounds that– at date of marriage, either party was and has remained incapable of consummating - See more at: Highlights Of The Marriage Act, 2014. | Kenya Law

I think if the law of that country says you're married to your husband if his brother vowed for him, then you're married, if the country you live in now recognizes that too.

Hey, well I am not concerned about the law. I am very clear with that. What's important is if I am in the eyes of God and if so who is it. I have been having serious problems in the marriage and trying to find the reason behind the scene.

 

[lihle]

Hi Nkiru, just want to know which part of Africa are you from? I'm also African and don't know of any culture or custom where a brother stands in as a husband when the husband is still alive. To my knowledge of African culture cases where you can marry your brother in law is when your husband has died and the the brother in law marries the brothers widow to take care of his brothers family. So when you say your brother in law had to stand in for your husband in the court , using your husband's name, that is fraud. Did the magistrate that married you knew that your brother in law was not really your husband? If he did he also was breaking the law. Even in the very traditional places where there are no written laws, people are still gorvened by traditional laws.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Yeah, the actual person that someone gets married to, is supposed to BE the actual person that they stand in the marriage ceremony with. Not a stand-in or replacement for the groom.

 

[Nkiru]

Hi Nkiru, just want to know which part of Africa are you from? I'm also African and don't know of any culture or custom where a brother stands in as a husband when the husband is still alive. To my knowledge of African culture cases where you can marry your brother in law is when your husband has died and the the brother in law marries the brothers widow to take care of his brothers family. So when you say your brother in law had to stand in for your husband in the court , using your husband's name, that is fraud. Did the magistrate that married you knew that your brother in law was not really your husband? If he did he also was breaking the law. Even in the very traditional places where there are no written laws, people are still gorvened by traditional laws.

I am not African, I am Austrian.

 

[lihle]

I am not African, I am Austrian.

So if you Australian why did you have to travel to Africa to get married? And which country in Africa were you married in?