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merryberry

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im a wife and mom of 2 kids. my husband is always busy. i love my kids.
i am longing for attention and love which i dont get from my husband. i entertain thoughts of good and happy love stories that i never had.
i just want to share. thanks.
 

blue_ladybug

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Well, one of you has to work to support the family. With work, comes responsibility, and with that, comes long hours of working. I'm assuming you're a stay at home mom? You say you love your kids, but do you love your husband also?
 
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sassylady

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You cannot rely on any one person to give you what you need. Jesus is all you need in any situation. He uses people, but you can have the joy and peace only He can give when you feel alone where you are at.
 

tourist

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Glad to have you join our community. It sounds like your lonely and starved for attention. Perhaps this site will become a place that will help alleviate your loneliness. Welcome to CC.
 

Dan_473

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You cannot rely on any one person to give you what you need.
I second that... if at all possible, look for fellowship stuff like MOPS or ladies groups at church.

and I'm glad you came by and shared, merryberry.
 
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merryberry

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Well, one of you has to work to support the family. With work, comes responsibility, and with that, comes long hours of working. I'm assuming you're a stay at home mom? You say you love your kids, but do you love your husband also?
after i saw his messages with another woman. my heart sunk. from then on, love lessened as day passes by.
 
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merryberry

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You cannot rely on any one person to give you what you need. Jesus is all you need in any situation. He uses people, but you can have the joy and peace only He can give when you feel alone where you are at.
i feel alone.
 
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merryberry

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Glad to have you join our community. It sounds like your lonely and starved for attention. Perhaps this site will become a place that will help alleviate your loneliness. Welcome to CC.
i do hope also. i feel that if i die now,nobody knew my hurt. i dnt talk.to anybody abt my.feelings.even to friends
 
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merryberry

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I second that... if at all possible, look for fellowship stuff like MOPS or ladies groups at church.

and I'm glad you came by and shared, merryberry.
i have friends. we r three.we have lunch once a week. we started reading puroose driven life. it is like our bible study group.

i try to test the water, by sharing diff stories. i feel theyr not interested when im talking.
 
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When you say "My husband is always busy"....does that mean earning income? Does that mean, when he is not on a time clock, making income and providing for you and the 2 kids, that he is also 'busy' with extra curricular activities, or what? Suppose he wasn't busy...does that mean that the problem you have with this would be solved?
 
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I too have read and studied "The purpose driven LIFE" and my eyes have been opened in a way that I have never experienced before. Which means that it really doesn' matter if I think my friends are not interested in my story sharing,,because the focus should never be on ME...and that is the entire Purpose of the Book!
 

Dan58

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Nothing wrong with wanting to be loved, I suppose nearly everyone wants to be loved. But longing for attention can be problematic, especially for adults. Marriage is not usually what many people think its going to be or fantasize about. Don't become a chore to your husband or friends by demanding attention, the opposite effect is usually the result. jmo
 

Dan_473

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I hear you merryberry, and my heart goes out to you.

please feel free to share whatever's on your heart, here... I mean, whatever you feel good or safe about sharing.

I am reading your posts.
 
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Starsdance

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Everybody needs love. sister. But sometimes people don't recognize the real definition of love in Christ. Including me.
 
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im a wife and mom of 2 kids. my husband is always busy. i love my kids.
i am longing for attention and love which i dont get from my husband. i entertain thoughts of good and happy love stories that i never had.
i just want to share. thanks.
Tell your husband this.
 

jogoldie

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my sister...a big mistake that most of us are guilty of is.. relying on others for our happiness and love...i can tell you
that sooner or later ...people let you down..we can't help it...we are human and miss a lot of signs thrown at us...because
most of us are giving our all just to keep our own heads out of the water...depression , loneliness is a trap...take control of
your own happiness ...turn it over to God...its easier than you think...
but when you truly feel sad,or depressed...reach out to someone who needs to be lifted and lift them up..you will see that helping others gives you so much peace, joy and love...give this to God and get out of His way......He has worked on my heart.. and now that i don't expect others to make me happy...I have found people want to spend time with me ...no one wants to be around people
who are sad all the time...start counting your blessings...things in your life that you do have...instead of the things you don't..
and soon you will see changes...peace jo
 
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kaylagrl

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after i saw his messages with another woman. my heart sunk. from then on, love lessened as day passes by.

Seems other posters missed this. So are you thinking your husband has love for another woman? You think he is being unfaithful? Is this the reason you are feeling alone?
 
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obito

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Dont worry JUST pray and God will answer your prayers ...GOD is greater than any problem
 
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merryberry

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When you say "My husband is always busy"....does that mean earning income? Does that mean, when he is not on a time clock, making income and providing for you and the 2 kids, that he is also 'busy' with extra curricular activities, or what? Suppose he wasn't busy...does that mean that the problem you have with this would be solved?
he is very busy earning income. he is not as busy few years ago, and it was better.
 
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merryberry

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I too have read and studied "The purpose driven LIFE" and my eyes have been opened in a way that I have never experienced before. Which means that it really doesn' matter if I think my friends are not interested in my story sharing,,because the focus should never be on ME...and that is the entire Purpose of the Book!
yes but, we meet every week to have lunch, and we share stories first then later on will talk abt the book.