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coby

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Subtlty how do you write that aint working and today was so awkward. First you chat for hours like 3 or 4 days. Then you come back to the office after a week. Okay come on now for goodness sakes start a regular conversation. The total awkwardness of standing in a circle looking at all sites to avoid any eye contact eat your nails I haven't felt so bad in a long while. Must have been 16 I guess. 45 and you still get a red head really.
Yes they're gonna walk. Come on you can do it. He just I dunno was making a mess with his cards says he wants to move to Australia and you try to keep the conversation going since you walk with 3 and he just walks away in the middle of the conversation alone. I'm gonna drunk text him serious.
 
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​Uhh, coby, no offense but your post makes no sense. And your last statement, "I'm gonna drunk text him serious", makes it sound as if YOU are drunk while typing this.. :confused:
 
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from what i gathered:

chatting was great, but now in person, things are awkward.

i'm the same way. chatting/texting/emailing i'm able to do with no problem because as an introvert, communicating that way is easier for me. the transition to "in person" is a struggle for some.
 
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coby

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blue_ladybug said:
​Uhh, coby, no offense but your post makes no sense. And your last statement, "I'm gonna drunk text him serious", makes it sound as if YOU are drunk while typing this.. :confused:
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Lol yep and I never drink and am nuts enough already now so a few sips will do to get some courage. I spent two nights listening to experts on youtube telling me all the signs and I don't care if he just sees me as a pal. You can be my bodyguard and I will be your long lost pal.
Yesterday he speaks to everyone, totally ignores me. Goes home alone, picks another train and then texts me for hours. I hope he's just as nuts as me.
 
blue_ladybug

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Lol yep and I never drink and am nuts enough already now so a few sips will do to get some courage. I spent two nights listening to experts on youtube telling me all the signs and I don't care if he just sees me as a pal. You can be my bodyguard and I will be your long lost pal.
Yesterday he speaks to everyone, totally ignores me. Goes home alone, picks another train and then texts me for hours. I hope he's just as nuts as me.
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You won't find courage in a bottle of booze.. What you WILL find is bad decisions made while inebriated.. Your courage should come from GOD. "Experts on youtube"? Common sense should tell you this guy isn't right for you. Quit watching the so-called youtube experts, and listen to your gut instincts. This guy is using you, and you're enabling him to do it. You deserve much better, coby..
 
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coby

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Thursday I'm just gonna say I'm sick. Luckily now soon I have two weeks off and can leave at 3 o clock to pick up the kids. My ex's wife came here back from Brazil. Welcome in Holland whoop and back to your country you go for 3 months. Long live the hospitality. Now I can take free days and watch them on his days too. Oh my why did I text him. Just said I was amazed he never saw me creep his Facebook and that it's not very wise to text someone like me. Lol no response.
 
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coby

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blue_ladybug said:
You won't find courage in a bottle of booze.. What you WILL find is bad decisions made while inebriated.. Your courage should come from GOD. "Experts on youtube"? Common sense should tell you this guy isn't right for you. Quit watching the so-called youtube experts, and listen to your gut instincts. This guy is using you, and you're enabling him to do it. You deserve much better, coby..
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He's not using me. He's just a nice christian guy he only posts christian stuff talks about church and prophecies. He thinks he can be just friends. Think he had no clue that I liked him. Just told him to ignore me thanks since he did anyway and removed Facebook and Messenger. It's not good for me. I don't understand that they don't understand that you can't simply start texting a desperate housewife. Just don't. It give false hope.
 
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LiJo

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Coby,

I think you're focusing too much on this.....just let it go and focus on God and get involved with an activity , like volunteering within an organization near your home. When the time is right and you meet the right one it will flow easily. Remember you don't have to chase what God sent.
 
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coby

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LiJo said:
Coby,

I think you're focusing too much on this.....just let it go and focus on God and get involved with an activity , like volunteering within an organization near your home. When the time is right and you meet the right one it will flow easily. Remember you don't have to chase what God sent.
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Yes but I don't chase. Facebook is just not good for me. It's gone now. Unfortunately I can't just say such things normally, at least now it's clear and gone and well this way I can be sure noone will ever chat with me there anymore. I'm glad I found this forum. Much better.
 
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Coby... I have been concerned about you. In reading your posts these last weeks, you seem to be spinning in the wind with no anchor, worrying about men, swearing off of men entirely, back to talking about men, throwing out hints and getting excited and then discouraged and then frantic and back again... continually changing your mind. Your spirit is conflicted and your mind is struggling against itself. Dear sister, I really believe that you should set any thoughts of dating or chatting or anything to do with men completely aside until you are in a better frame of mind.

Pray for the Lord to steady you, to anchor you, to give you peace. HE will protect you in any storm, if you are clasping him tightly and looking to him for your needs to be met.

Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.


 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
Coby... I have been concerned about you. In reading your posts these last weeks, you seem to be spinning in the wind with no anchor, worrying about men, swearing off of men entirely, back to talking about men, throwing out hints and getting excited and then discouraged and then frantic and back again... continually changing your mind. Your spirit is conflicted and your mind is struggling against itself. Dear sister, I really believe that you should set any thoughts of dating or chatting or anything to do with men completely aside until you are in a better frame of mind.

Pray for the Lord to steady you, to anchor you, to give you peace. HE will protect you in any storm, if you are clasping him tightly and looking to him for your needs to be met.

Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.


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See, at least I am consistent in my distain for relationships. LOL :D
 
Tinkerbell725

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Be still coby. If you will have to chase a man, he is not for you. The right man will present himself to you. You only have to be still. Women should be like butterflies. Beautiful to look at but hard to catch.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Be still coby. If you will have to chase a man, he is not for you. The right man will present himself to you. You only have to be still. Women should be like butterflies. Beautiful to look at but hard to catch.
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Sooo... women should be still and hard to catch?



Coby, Grace has got you on this one. I think she nailed it.
 
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coby

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The only thing that irritates me is that I get absolutely no response. Is it so much effort to just say thanks for the compliment, but I just see you as a guy or something. My. Now I understand why people rather never say anything.
Even my ex's response when I asked him back was better: are you out of your freakin mind? Lol.
 
blue_ladybug

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coby said:
The only thing that irritates me is that I get absolutely no response. Is it so much effort to just say thanks for the compliment, but I just see you as a guy or something. My. Now I understand why people rather never say anything.
Even my ex's response when I asked him back was better: are you out of your freakin mind? Lol.
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The lack of a response should tell you he's probably not interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept it and move on, and do what Grace and others have suggested. I think Grace's post is excellent advice. :) Get right with God, leave the guys alone. When the time is right, He will send you your partner..
 
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coby

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blue_ladybug said:
The lack of a response should tell you he's probably not interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept it and move on, and do what Grace and others have suggested. I think Grace's post is excellent advice. :) Get right with God, leave the guys alone. When the time is right, He will send you your partner..
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Yes I know but it is so unpolite and I still have to work with him 3 days a week. Whatever, I'll just put him on ignore too and don't put on my glasses so I don't see him and just stay behind my computer during the break instead of walking with them all.
 
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