What's missing?
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he'll need to kill all the spiders. lol
i struggle with trying new things. i'm not very adventurous lol. i have a feeling if he encourages me, it will be easier for me try things out.
i've also noticed that i have little compassion with people, so i hope he tells me when i'm being... icky with others. lol.
i struggle with trying new things. i'm not very adventurous lol. i have a feeling if he encourages me, it will be easier for me try things out.
i've also noticed that i have little compassion with people, so i hope he tells me when i'm being... icky with others. lol.
I haven't heard of this explanation, so it is new to me. I mean, I know that a husband and wife are each other's best companions, soulmates, better halves, etc., but I haven't heard that they are to complement each other. To me, that comes across as being dependent on my partner to complete me and that seems to be complacent thinking, whereas, I would depend on my partner to guide me when I fall short because I want to work towards perfection myself.
Anyways, these are the areas where I fall short -
1) I find it hard to say NO to people who are close to me (that is something I am working on, right now)
2) It is hard for me to keep aside my feelings whenever I am analyzing an issue (ENFJ personality, yo)
3) I tend to overthink and over-complicate even small things because that is how I think (ENFJ, again)
Anyways, these are the areas where I fall short -
1) I find it hard to say NO to people who are close to me (that is something I am working on, right now)
2) It is hard for me to keep aside my feelings whenever I am analyzing an issue (ENFJ personality, yo)
3) I tend to overthink and over-complicate even small things because that is how I think (ENFJ, again)
Maybe that's what helpmate means. Someone who complements or balances. If one is emotional, the other should be logical. If both are emotional there will always be war. If both are logical, it would be a boring relationship. If one is introvert, the other should be an extrovert. I was logical before but now im a little bit emotional or maybe I just think im emotional. I had an emotional partner before and I thought it was good because im logical but it didnt work.
J
Yea, I clearly do not want a wife. LOL Oh, did I mention insurance for one car is cheaper than for two? Not to mention health care costs. See all the perks here? LOL Im not making this stuff up LOL 
J
So what's missing...
I need a man who can complement me in the following ways.
Hold back my adventurous side as I will go full steam ahead without thinking of the consequences.
To hold me as I am the strength in the family and don't cry at tragic events, etc. I handle the situation and every one and do what I can to help them through it. Never allowing myself to grieve or ponder how it impacts me.
To pull out my emotional side as my past with my EX makes me towards men only withhold my feelings.
I want him to be my best friend.
I need a man who can complement me in the following ways.
Hold back my adventurous side as I will go full steam ahead without thinking of the consequences.
To hold me as I am the strength in the family and don't cry at tragic events, etc. I handle the situation and every one and do what I can to help them through it. Never allowing myself to grieve or ponder how it impacts me.
To pull out my emotional side as my past with my EX makes me towards men only withhold my feelings.
I want him to be my best friend.
My biggest thing is probably that I'm kind of rough around the edges and not much of a people person, so I need someone who's friendly and outgoing.. that can get the best out of me.
I haven't thought about this before, but every girl I've been with has pretty much been that way, nice/friendly, which is somewhat interesting because that hasn't been on purpose.
I haven't thought about this before, but every girl I've been with has pretty much been that way, nice/friendly, which is somewhat interesting because that hasn't been on purpose.
C
Lol my sister and her husband met in a students' home. It was a filthy mess. You can't drop by unexpectedly because it's always a mess lol. I think if you're messy, I am messy, you either have to change or find another who's also messy. My ex was so neat and tidy. I had to suck the crumbs and it was sick, so clean as it was, he'd just tell me do this, do that. Now he has this super clean housewife and he's so happy with her. Then I joke that she's just like me. I think you should both at least do some effort so it doesn't become a big mess, but one extremely tidy and one messy always gives problems except with some housewives who really have it as their hobby but don't work.
