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Hiya

Anyone in england here looking for a relationship Me Too, i am a guy aged 20

I love God, and Man united!

jonno please e-mail me if you want to know more if not please dont comment :)
 
Guess what? Sad and single usually translates to sad and taken. Work on yourself, you dont need a woman to be happy just look to Christ.
 
well i am sorry if it means that to you but in my case i have had no-one, God has helped me aviod a lot of people but i am sure i will find someone, that was rather an unkind comment you made to me, i think you need to re-think what sort of christian you are !
 
i don't think it was unkind mate.

you have to be happy on your own.

who would want to be with someone who is only happy if they're with someone.
 
good point...best thing to do is lean on Jesus...and ask him for understanding and comfort....humans need other humans though...well should I say saints...ill be your friend...but sometimes God wont let you be with someone else until you get it right with him!!!...i don't know who that was for but it was free...God loves you, and don't worry and just trust in his perfect plan ok Jonno......PEACE
 
I wasn't being unkind, I'm sorry you read it that way. I'm telling you from experience that people dont make you happy and to look to Christ to fulfill. And yes, that's the kind of Christian I am!
 
I think that a good relationship is what you need and it WILL make you happier ... it's easy for someone else to say that "christ fulfills!" when apparently you are not happy alone. You cannot exactly date Jesus - though His love can be felt, it's a different need you have here. If someone is happy alone it doesn't mean you are! It's stupid for someone to tell you to cling to your faith and stop the "silly need for a companion". Ignore this kind of ignorant crap and concentrate on what you want from life!

It's about confidence. Work on yourself and I GUARANTEE a girlfriend is not far away unless you got three eyes. And even in that case, enough confidence wins the day :D
 
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WastingTheDawn said:
If someone is happy alone it doesn't mean you are! It's stupid for someone to tell you to cling to your faith and stop the "silly need for a companion". Ignore this kind of ignorant crap and concentrate on what you want from life! :D
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Wow no need to be so insulting, you could have just said you disagree. As someone who has been both alone and in a long relationship, its silly to think that someone can make you ''happy" (or if they do, it's only for a short time because how you feel about yourself is what sustains happiness...not others).You know what kind of pressure that is?

It's called being needy and projecting all your happiness on one person (I'm not saying john is doing that, by the way). It drives a lot of people crazy. You dont get a girlfriend to be happy, you get a girlfriend because you love someone. People who look for relationships who aren't happy themselves are...pretty sad people.

Honestly to say that Jesus can't fulfill you in an area in your life is very unbiblical. I dont know if you're a christian but no..you can't date Jesus, but He can make sure you're not lonely. To tell someone to stop clinging to their faith and just DO it!!!...is in my opinion, ignorant.
 
Well sorry I really used some foul language there, but it's too often that I see this dampening of problems and needs with the "You have the Lord, why are you crying about this?" when someone really has a situation. It's really no good just to sit idle and pray for the Lord to do everything for you. These things need to be discussed and delved into, and not just dismissed like that!
 
If God thought human beings could be content with only Him, then why, in the perfect and blissful state of the Garden of Eden, did He create Eve?
 
Sorry, maybe I just dont feel the need to find happiness in other people in order to feel my life is complete (or starting). I wasn't dismissing him, I was telling him the very truthfullness of people seeking love because they feel sad and end up still feeling sad... I've dated enough people who expected me to be their sole source of entertainment and happiness and it never turned out well. Im telling him the truth.

Hey if you feel that you're going to be a happier person by dating someone, go for it. Im sure that person is very lucky to have you.

And I never said that you cant be content with someone (or somehow that was wrong), I said dont expect that having a girlfriend will make you happy. I really dont know how to stress this anymore?
 
People make me happy. I think we were created to be social beings and its so important to know that we cannot live this life alone. I agree that we shouldn't bank all our hopes and happiness on one person, but allowing another person to make you happy and returning that to others is a big part of what this life is about. Its just my opinion, but I think doing that is scary and sometimes people like to think, "I can do this all by myself I don't need anybody," because allowing someone to make you happy is very vulnerable. It opens you up to the possibility of hurt. I know I haven't done that yet and I'd like to. Just hasn't been the right time/person. It's ok to want someone to love/love you. Nothing wrong with praying to G-d. And there's nothing wrong with keeping your eyes open and looking too. G-d isn't a magician. He isn't going to just POOF make you married to the right person. He gave us free will. And I believe there are more than one "perfect matches". It's our decision who becomes the one. What do you guys think. I'm not saying I'm right. It's just my own theory on how things roll.
 
superwombatgirl said:
People make me happy. I think we were created to be social beings and its so important to know that we cannot live this life alone. I agree that we shouldn't bank all our hopes and happiness on one person, but allowing another person to make you happy and returning that to others is a big part of what this life is about. Its just my opinion, but I think doing that is scary and sometimes people like to think, "I can do this all by myself I don't need anybody," because allowing someone to make you happy is very vulnerable. It opens you up to the possibility of hurt. I know I haven't done that yet and I'd like to. Just hasn't been the right time/person. It's ok to want someone to love/love you. Nothing wrong with praying to G-d. And there's nothing wrong with keeping your eyes open and looking too. G-d isn't a magician. He isn't going to just POOF make you married to the right person. He gave us free will. And I believe there are more than one "perfect matches". It's our decision who becomes the one. What do you guys think. I'm not saying I'm right. It's just my own theory on how things roll.
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I'm going to go with superwombatgirl on this one. I think she best articulates my own feelings on the subject. Human beings are social creatures. If you don't show a human being physical affection/attention at infancy then they will die. While some of us are more independent than others there's no reason to not want to share life with someone. But, again, don't place all of your hopes of happiness in that one person. Look for that special person, but be a healthy person with a full life.
 
it is not good for the man to be alone

God is my sufficiency

all clear?:)
 
MahogonySnail said:
Not as much, but there's plenty of people around who don't believe in God and seem to have fulfilled relationships.
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They'll always be searching for something more because they dont have God. Whether it's religion or something else.
 
Heya all

Cheers for your comments, this was interesting to hear your points, i was very intrigued to hear what u had to say, i dnt want any relationship i just wanted to see peoples views it was fascinating

Chhers

Jonno
 
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