I think God is calling me to conceive a child

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CamdenTownie

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Hi,

im new here, I'm a mum of four, youngest is eight years old, and over the last few weeks I've had this feeling that I'm being called to conceive a child, I've prayed every day about this, asking for guidance, physically my body is ready for this, however I'm already in my late 30's. My husband doesn't feel that we should grow our family, I've also prayed about this many times. I do not know what to do, I'm eager to follow gods plan for me.

Has as anybody else been through anything similar?

i would welcome any advice,

thanks x Camden
 
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You already have four kids, and even though you're still young enough for another one, you need to think of all the extra work, expenses and whatnot, of having another child. Four kids seems MORE than enough to be able to competently take care of. I agree with your husband. Just because YOU are ready for another baby, does NOT mean it's God's will for you. Take care of the four kids you already have, because I imagine that's already a huge responsibility. Having a baby would be too much, considering you COULD end up with twins, triplets or more. :) A baby is another mouth to feed, and clothe, and send to school and college. Another expense for preschool, kindergarten, babysitters, etc etc etc...
 
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CamdenTownie said:
Hi,

im new here, I'm a mum of four, youngest is eight years old, and over the last few weeks I've had this feeling that I'm being called to conceive a child, I've prayed every day about this, asking for guidance, physically my body is ready for this, however I'm already in my late 30's. My husband doesn't feel that we should grow our family, I've also prayed about this many times. I do not know what to do, I'm eager to follow gods plan for me.

Has as anybody else been through anything similar?

i would welcome any advice,

thanks x Camden
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Just pray about it. If it's from God He'll tell your husband too.
We had 2 after one another and 2 miscarriages and I was already 38, he was 50, we decided it was okay and I made an appointment to get sterilized. Lol then one day before I had to goI blew it off because God told us both: Are you ready for a third one?
 
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coby said:
Just pray about it. If it's from God He'll tell your husband too.
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What she said :)
If not, it might be that you are confusing your own feelings with God's voice (I think we all do that from time to time).
 
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CamdenTownie

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Thank you for the replies.

firstly, money is not an issue here, my husband works a good job, I should have mentioned that my older two are teenagers, the eldest is almost 20. I've had three children under five and a school age child, so I know all about coping, I'm fully able and willing to take care of my children. That side of things is certainly not the issue here. Yes, of course we could have a multiple birth or a child with special needs, again my faith tells me that this is a gift from God.

We both decided that our family was complete after the last child was born, I have had no desire for another child at all over the last eight years, after attending an evangelical charismatic praise and worship evening I began to feel that I was being called upon and that God was telling me we should open our hearts to another child and conceive. So I prayed about this everyday, I asked God that if it is his will my husband will also be guided, if it is what God wants for us, it will happen.

As a couple we decided early on in our relationship that we would not use contraception, God gave us four healthy children, then we chose to avoid further pregnancies by using natural family planning methods, and if this was to fail(it hasn't - just for the record) then we would deal with it.

Im wondering if my original post seemed somewhat selfish? When I mentioned being ready for a pregnancy I was referring to my menstrual cycle, which is pretty much as regular as clockwork after 20+ years of being very erratic. I ovulate every month and again, I think my body is healthy enough to carry a child.

If if I did not feel that God was putting things into place for me to nurture and nourish a baby I would not even be considering this. And if it doesn't happen then I'd say that gods plan for me will take a different path.

COBY - I think the simple advice, to pray about it, is the most useful and practical, I will continue to pray and ask God to show me the way.

X Camden
 
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well Canden if you truly believe God is calling you to have another baby, I cannot say for sure to go for it or not because there are several factors to this situation. Now I don't know your heart so I cannot assume that you are confusing God's voice with your own but it is true that sometimes we confuse his voice with own desires. also there is a thing called the mommy syndrome basically being something some moms have in which they feel the need to nurture and take care of and raise and love. Even if some moms have kids already they want another this usually kicks in when the youngest are getting into their teens and deep down the moms know they are growing up and will leave the nest within a short time the kids are no longer a child she can cuddle with or baby the kids are becoming independent and no longer need their mothers affection as much.

Again I don't know your heart so this may not apply to you I just wanted you to consider this and look deep down and ponder it before acting, we have to be truly honest with ourselves even if it turns out we were wanting something for the wrong reason this is a lesson I learned in my short time of faith and had I not then I would still be pursuing things with the wrong motive and the reason and motive behind everything we do say and believe makes all the difference
 
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CamdenTownie said:
My husband doesn't feel that we should grow our family, I've also prayed about this many times.
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Your husband doesn't. You're to submit to him, so there's your answer. No. Stop praying against your husband.
 
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Hi Blain,

thanks for for taking the time to reply to my initial message, I can see why people may think I want to get pregnant, yes my children are growing up, the eldest is an adult and could even become a father himself in the near future, yes babies are lovely - everyone likes to cuddle a newborn don't they? I'm not a massively maternal woman, of course I love my children, I've grown them, given birth to them and fed them from my breast, helped them to know God and taught them how to be a good Christian, I've never longed for a child to be growing inside me, even when it took much longer than I'd anticipated to conceive my third child (a very long 19 months compared to a quick 6 weeks with our first and second children)

I hadnt considered bearing more children at all , our family was complete, my husband and I have an amazing relationship, he loves me dearly and I adore him, we do view children as a blessing, but we had enough babies and enjoy spending time together, why do I think that it's God telling me that this is where I should be going? Have I been called by him in the past? Yes, but the circumstances have been completely different, charity work or donating money, joining women's groups and volunteering work.

Id like to speak to someone in my church about this, but honestly there isn't anyone I feel it would be appropriate to approach, one person I really would like to talk to is having fertility issues so it would be insensitive to discuss this subject.

what to do? I guess I can pray, wait and see what happens, I will chat with my husband again, explain to him how I feel, that I don't have s particular longing for a child but that God has a plan for us that possibly does entail this. If it is gods will, it will happen, he will see to it.

x Camden
 
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Your husband doesn't. You're to submit to him, so there's your answer. No. Stop praying against your husband.
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Of course - the answer was staring me in the face the whole time ??????
 
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Your husband doesn't. You're to submit to him, so there's your answer. No. Stop praying against your husband.
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Praying against her husband? What if he just thinks natural and God wants it? If I was so sure that God had spoken to me I'd tell him and pray God shows him too. If he'd then pray about it and say: God says no to me, well then that's that.
 
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Praying against her husband? What if he just thinks natural and God wants it? If I was so sure that God had spoken to me I'd tell him and pray God shows him too. If he'd then pray about it and say: God says no to me, well then that's that.
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I'd answer that question, had that been the question asked. This is what was asked...
CamdenTownie said:
Hi,

im new here, I'm a mum of four, youngest is eight years old, and over the last few weeks I've had this feeling that I'm being called to conceive a child, I've prayed every day about this, asking for guidance, physically my body is ready for this, however I'm already in my late 30's. My husband doesn't feel that we should grow our family, I've also prayed about this many times. I do not know what to do, I'm eager to follow gods plan for me.

Has as anybody else been through anything similar?

i would welcome any advice,

thanks x Camden
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She has a feeling and then keeps asking God what to do about it for a whole "few weeks." She's talked to her husband about it and he's not feeling it.

Why? Is this the one and only case where the wife is supposed to usurp this particular decision, because what she feels and wants God to give her is far more important than what her husband said?

She's praying against her husband's say.

And where do you see her being so sure or that God spoke to her about this?

If "I have a feeling" works, then why ask anyone? Just do it. I have this feeling we were just supposed to agree with her anyway. Sorry. I understand how a Christian marriage works, and neither example (yours or hers) is it.
 
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If it was God's will for this couple to have another baby, they'd BOTH be "feeling it". JMO
 
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I'd answer that question, had that been the question asked. This is what was asked...

She has a feeling and then keeps asking God what to do about it for a whole "few weeks." She's talked to her husband about it and he's not feeling it.

Why? Is this the one and only case where the wife is supposed to usurp this particular decision, because what she feels and wants God to give her is far more important than what her husband said?

She's praying against her husband's say.

And where do you see her being so sure or that God spoke to her about this?

If "I have a feeling" works, then why ask anyone? Just do it. I have this feeling we were just supposed to agree with her anyway. Sorry. I understand how a Christian marriage works, and neither example (yours or hers) is it.
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All he says is he doesn't feel that. So I reckoned maybe God didn't speak to him yet and pray until there's total clarity. I don't feel like it is just what you want yourself. When we had to have another kid when I was married God spoke to us both. She got a Word in church. I saw couples in church who got a Word that they would get another baby. Both the parents thought that was inconvenient and didn't want it.
Lol years later you see them on Facebook with another kid. If it's God He'll also tell the husband. Joseph got a visiting angel a bit later than Mary.
 
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All he says is he doesn't feel that. So I reckoned maybe God didn't speak to him yet and pray until there's total clarity. I don't feel like it is just what you want yourself. When we had to have another kid when I was married God spoke to us both. She got a Word in church. I saw couples in church who got a Word that they would get another baby. Both the parents thought that was inconvenient and didn't want it.
Lol years later you see them on Facebook with another kid. If it's God He'll also tell the husband. Joseph got a visiting angel a bit later than Mary.
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"Hey, honey? I feel like an Audi."

"I don't feel that will contribute to our family."

"Okay, so we buy it on Saturday, as soon as I talk God into you feeling it too?"

Of course, the laughing fit my husband would have when I feel like a car we can't afford might just stop him from being able to pray to God about it.
 
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I'd answer that question, had that been the question asked. This is what was asked...

She has a feeling and then keeps asking God what to do about it for a whole "few weeks." She's talked to her husband about it and he's not feeling it.

Why? Is this the one and only case where the wife is supposed to usurp this particular decision, because what she feels and wants God to give her is far more important than what her husband said?

She's praying against her husband's say.

And where do you see her being so sure or that God spoke to her about this?

If "I have a feeling" works, then why ask anyone? Just do it. I have this feeling we were just supposed to agree with her anyway. Sorry. I understand how a Christian marriage works, and neither example (yours or hers) is it.
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Tell me Depleted, how does a Christian marriage work? Clearly my Christian marriage isn't working if I'm not fully submissive to my husband? If I was to be Where does the submission end? Should I never make a suggestion? Go to work? Drive a car? Have a mind of my own? Should my daughters forget about an education and concentrate on finding a husband to submit to? From the posts you've written on this thread you appear up be a fairly straight talking individual, far from a subservient wife, I'm interested though - tell me more about your relationship and how you deal with the whole package when it comes to being in this type of marriage.

In 2016, even my parish priest wouldn't suggest I take this route. But then I guess we'd be labelled as liberal's.

I'm curious as to wheather both you and Lady Blue are Mothers yourselves? Or is this something you were not blessed with?

If if you read my first post I asked if anyone had any similar experience, Thank you Coby for your posts, I appreciate them very much.
 
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What I question is "Who is 'calling you to conceive a child"? Sometimes a notion or idea that is overcoming your brain is NOT a direct sentiment of the Holy Spirit. It could be of SELF...or even implanted by satan himself to offer you confusion. How can you not automatically know what God's plan for you is? Your an awesome full time MOTHER! You have certain gifts of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians, chapt. 12). Your actions, your reflection of JESUS to your own family and others is your calling. It's all wrapped up in GOD's plan for you to be all that you can be for His glory! Your children grow up to have your traits, deep inside, whether they drift away or stay the course. Teaching by example, training by showing them how JESUS interacts daily in our lives is the best "PLAN" that you can give back to GOD! It's exciting, and scary at the same time. Use your download or "ME" time to stay active and busy growing spiritually because your family absorbs your spiritual strength. They will depend upon it as they grow.
 
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As a husband I think I should bring my point of view in scenario if this kind of situation would ever happen in my family. (though I doubt that it would) What Depleted said about submitting to husband is basically ok like that but the problem what I see is quite limited info about the husband himself.

In my family both man and wife have obligations. Wife should bring to her husband all the matters that are important and husband to weight them and decide what's best and right in God's eyes.
The thumb rule: Try everything and keep what is good (freely translated from finnish language) is what both OP and her husband are suppose to do now.
By "Try" i don't mean try for baby and see was it good, but weight it against your husband's response and what you know about Lord and scripture
Her husband should weight it against anything he gets from God. Sometimes those things are just feelings but then they build a bigger picture.
Finally have word of God and reflect all your experience against it and if you find any contradictions you know the source of the feelings is not from Lord.
 
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Have you thought about this?: with the awful state the world is in today, and knowing that the end isn't too far away, WHY would you want to bring a baby into that? I sure wouldn't. Like I said before IF it's God's will for you to have another kid, BOTH of you would feel it. You wouldn't have to mention it to hubby, or try talking him into it. Obviously he doesn't feel God's will at work here, and that's why he said NO.
 
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Tell me Depleted, how does a Christian marriage work? Clearly my Christian marriage isn't working if I'm not fully submissive to my husband? If I was to be Where does the submission end? Should I never make a suggestion? Go to work? Drive a car? Have a mind of my own? Should my daughters forget about an education and concentrate on finding a husband to submit to? From the posts you've written on this thread you appear up be a fairly straight talking individual, far from a subservient wife, I'm interested though - tell me more about your relationship and how you deal with the whole package when it comes to being in this type of marriage.

In 2016, even my parish priest wouldn't suggest I take this route. But then I guess we'd be labelled as liberal's.

I'm curious as to wheather both you and Lady Blue are Mothers yourselves? Or is this something you were not blessed with?

If if you read my first post I asked if anyone had any similar experience, Thank you Coby for your posts, I appreciate them very much.
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How does a Christian marriage work? One man, one woman, and God. The man loves the woman like Christ loves the Church. The woman submits to the man, because she trusts him and loves him. It is a partnership where all important decisions are talked over until there is agreement. After discussing it enough to get everything on the table and that doesn't bring agreement, the man has the final say. The man loves the woman like Christ loves the Church, so what she says is taken into consideration that much.

Go check out who I am on here. One thing you cannot level me with is I don't know what a good marriage is. And by "similar experience" you mean "Does anyone have four kids rainging in age and then wants another and got that?" Sorry. Even if someone did have that exact experience it still doesn't trump what God wants from you.

You are talking about the same God who let the Israelites into the Promise Land before they were ready with disastrous results. You're talking about the same God who let Balaam's jackass prove who was the real jackass with disastrous results on Balaam. You're talking about the same God who let David get his best friend killed to take his wife and had a baby with her with disastrous levels. Just because we want something, doesn't mean God won't give it to us knowing it's not good for us. But the results are heartbreaking, at best.

The Bible is there to learn who God is and what he wants. It's there so we don't have to learn the same lessons the hard way. But if you're into usurping your husband's role, then don't lay that on anyone else's feet but your own. And don't claim "this is what God wants" simply because you feel. We all feel. That doesn't make it what God wants. It makes it what we want.

Apparently, you're more into the "I'll make him see it my way somehow" version.

I caught the snarky. Good luck with that.
 
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