I think God is calling me to conceive a child

[Depleted]

Have you thought about this?: with the awful state the world is in today, and knowing that the end isn't too far away, WHY would you want to bring a baby into that? I sure wouldn't. Like I said before IF it's God's will for you to have another kid, BOTH of you would feel it. You wouldn't have to mention it to hubby, or try talking him into it. Obviously he doesn't feel God's will at work here, and that's why he said NO.

I'm also not into believing the world is so failed we shouldn't continue to have children. With that concept the Christian church would seem a sadder place without the children running around.

I remember thinking my Dad was nuts to have more kids at his age. He was in his 50's when my youngest brother was born. What were the chances Dad would still be around to see the son graduate from high school? Ha! My brother is in his 30's now and Dad's still kicking. We really can't predict the future, so fear of it shouldn't make us give up on kids.

 

[Depleted]

i think i found the problem...

Bingo! Also explains the snark.

 

[coby]

i think i found the problem...

Lol problem? I couldn't even get kids. All 3 of 'em I got after first prayer in a charismatic church and 3 times a prophetic Word and dream from God in a charismatic church. I saw several couples where man and wife decided it's enough get a prophecy and later they changed their mind and wanted one.
Isn't it weird that regarding kids doing what you want: not get too much is standard and someone is called rebellious for wanting a kid if that's what God wants. My goodness.

 

[coby]

My parents both didn't want another kid. Lol what does God care? Here I am. The pill made my mom sick so she had to stop swallowing it LOL.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Clearly I came to the wrong place with my question - in future I'll ask the magic 8 ball!

I thought the family area would be a good forum to find others parents to discuss this with, I cannot say that I have anyone to speak to about this other than my husband, who thinks that eight years is a big age gap between children, he's a great daddy and whilst he has always been devoted to his offspring, I'm the one that takes up the lions share of childcare. I do have a career, I'm currently employed and that's good for me as I enjoy my job.

Yes we already have four children, four wasn't a number we planned, it's what happened until we decided to use natural family planning to avoid pregnancies, that number could have been six or two.

Im not trying to persuade my poor defenceless husband to agree with me, nor would I hoodwink him into conceiving a child. I merely suggested to him that we should, together, consider adding to our lovely family, he didn't say "absolutely not, no way, never" rather that he hadn't thought about it recently but that in his mind we'd left it too late after the last child was born. I left him to mull it all over, but accepted that at that moment he didn't feel God was calling us to have another child.

A few people here appear to have serious issues, Depleted I don't care 'who you are on here' being Christian chat royalty means nothing to me.

Lots of judgements have been made about me and my relationship with my husband , and also the type of worship we take part in. I'm happy with my faith, I don't think I'm better than anyone else or that my beliefs are above theirs, "we are all one in Christ Jesus" and he loves us all equally.

I do appreciate the genuine replies, I have read them and they have given me food for thought.

X Camden

 

[kaylagrl]

Clearly I came to the wrong place with my question - in future I'll ask the magic 8 ball!

I thought the family area would be a good forum to find others parents to discuss this with, I cannot say that I have anyone to speak to about this other than my husband, who thinks that eight years is a big age gap between children, he's a great daddy and whilst he has always been devoted to his offspring, I'm the one that takes up the lions share of childcare. I do have a career, I'm currently employed and that's good for me as I enjoy my job.

Yes we already have four children, four wasn't a number we planned, it's what happened until we decided to use natural family planning to avoid pregnancies, that number could have been six or two.

Im not trying to persuade my poor defenceless husband to agree with me, nor would I hoodwink him into conceiving a child. I merely suggested to him that we should, together, consider adding to our lovely family, he didn't say "absolutely not, no way, never" rather that he hadn't thought about it recently but that in his mind we'd left it too late after the last child was born. I left him to mull it all over, but accepted that at that moment he didn't feel God was calling us to have another child.

A few people here appear to have serious issues, Depleted I don't care 'who you are on here' being Christian chat royalty means nothing to me.

Lots of judgements have been made about me and my relationship with my husband , and also the type of worship we take part in. I'm happy with my faith, I don't think I'm better than anyone else or that my beliefs are above theirs, "we are all one in Christ Jesus" and he loves us all equally.

I do appreciate the genuine replies, I have read them and they have given me food for thought.

X Camden

You asked for advice,you opened your life to the forum. You'll get some advice you like and some you don't. People reading between the lines don't know you or your husband.All we have is what you present to us. For something this personal you really should keep it between you,your husband and God. If God spoke to you why are you here asking questions? God will make it come to pass if He was speaking to you. Blessings for you and your husband in the future.

 

[CamdenTownie]

You asked for advice,you opened your life to the forum. You'll get some advice you like and some you don't. People reading between the lines don't know you or your husband.All we have is what you present to us. For something this personal you really should keep it between you,your husband and God. If God spoke to you why are you here asking questions? God will make it come to pass if He was speaking to you. Blessings for you and your husband in the future.

Opened my LIFE to the forum? No I simply asked a question, one that some people took offence to, I certainly didn't ask if members thought I had enough money to increase the size of my family, or if I could cope with looking after a baby, who is anyone to say if God was speaking to me or not?

Quite often Christians are criticised for the way they behave, what happened to judge not, that you not be judged.? I came not to be judged but to ask for advice when I felt that I didn't have any like minded real life advisories, the members I have encountered so far have (mostly) been as far from like minded as I can imagine.

What at is this forum for if not to ask questions and to be welcomed, it worries me that Christians are behaving in this manner, how they are treating others and passing judgement, the term 'High and Mighty' springs to mind, alongside 'There but for the grace of God, go I' maybe this is something that should be remembered!

 

[tourist]

Hi,

im new here, I'm a mum of four, youngest is eight years old, and over the last few weeks I've had this feeling that I'm being called to conceive a child, I've prayed every day about this, asking for guidance, physically my body is ready for this, however I'm already in my late 30's. My husband doesn't feel that we should grow our family, I've also prayed about this many times. I do not know what to do, I'm eager to follow gods plan for me.

Has as anybody else been through anything similar?

i would welcome any advice,

thanks x Camden

I just had my one daughter who is now 36 years old and that was more than enough for me. I would continue to pray about this as it is on your heart to do so. I would give it a month or so and then approach your husband again about this matter. If he says no then I would consider that to be God's will. You would then have to pray to be content with the nice family you already have.

 

[kaylagrl]

Opened my LIFE to the forum? No I simply asked a question, one that some people took offence to, I certainly didn't ask if members thought I had enough money to increase the size of my family, or if I could cope with looking after a baby, who is anyone to say if God was speaking to me or not?

Quite often Christians are criticised for the way they behave, what happened to judge not, that you not be judged.? I came not to be judged but to ask for advice when I felt that I didn't have any like minded real life advisories, the members I have encountered so far have (mostly) been as far from like minded as I can imagine.

What at is this forum for if not to ask questions and to be welcomed, it worries me that Christians are behaving in this manner, how they are treating others and passing judgement, the term 'High and Mighty' springs to mind, alongside 'There but for the grace of God, go I' maybe this is something that should be remembered!

Listen,when you come to a public forum with problems and issues we don't know you personally. People are going to ask questions about your life,and yes you are opening the door to have questions asked. Just because you want a certain answer doesn't mean people will agree with you. People come on here wanting a certain answer and get angry when they don't get that answer. Yes,some here are straight forward,some laid back but thats a public forum. I dont see that anyone is judging you. But as I said,this issue is between you,your husband and God.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Thank you tourist, this is the route I plan to take, I can totally accept my husbands decision, regardless of what it will be. I will continue to pray for guidance. As I mentioned, I have no burning desire for this, but a feeling that this is something that God is telling me and preparing me for.

If we do conceive I'll be sure to come back here and share the wonderful news, I'm sure you'll all be so happy for us.

 

[Grace777x70]

I will be happy for you in what ever the Lord has for you both. The peace of God comes to us in situations like this when wisdom comes from the Lord..All is well! Bless you and your family!

James 3:17-18 (KJV)
[SUP]17 [/SUP] But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
[SUP]18 [/SUP] And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Listen,when you come to a public forum with problems and issues we don't know you personally. People are going to ask questions about your life,and yes you are opening the door to have questions asked. Just because you want a certain answer doesn't mean people will agree with you. People come on here wanting a certain answer and get angry when they don't get that answer. Yes,some here are straight forward,some laid back but thats a public forum. I dont see that anyone is judging you. But as I said,this issue is between you,your husband and God.

I disagree, I came to post anonymously, to ask a question that I felt I couldn't broach with anybody in real life, I chose this forum because I am a Christian and because it is titled 'family'.

I'm happy to be asked questions and also happy to answer them, I'm not angry at all, I do however feel bullied, I am not a weak person, it makes no difference to me what a bunch of people think about my lifestyle or my choices, some people are far more vulnerable than myself and I'd hate to see them being treated with such hostility. I can (and probably will) leave this group, and that won't be a problem for me. I find it quite telling that the posters who feel so strongly seem to be women of a certain age.

Are all problems between the individual and God? Should we never ask advice? Should we look at a post and think 'ahh this ones between them and God, better not contribute to this one'? Should a fellow Christian be mocked for the kind of praise and worship they take part in?

I would suggest that that anyone that feels so strongly about my predicament simply scrolls passed or ignores my post.

People are very brave behind a computer screen, I wonder if they would treat members of their church congregation like this, I sincerely hope not, it's a sad day for Christianity if they do.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Thank you Grace - I genuinely appreciate your post x

 

[kaylagrl]

I disagree, I came to post anonymously, to ask a question that I felt I couldn't broach with anybody in real life, I chose this forum because I am a Christian and because it is titled 'family'.

I'm happy to be asked questions and also happy to answer them, I'm not angry at all, I do however feel bullied, I am not a weak person, it makes no difference to me what a bunch of people think about my lifestyle or my choices, some people are far more vulnerable than myself and I'd hate to see them being treated with such hostility. I can (and probably will) leave this group, and that won't be a problem for me. I find it quite telling that the posters who feel so strongly seem to be women of a certain age.

Are all problems between the individual and God? Should we never ask advice? Should we look at a post and think 'ahh this ones between them and God, better not contribute to this one'? Should a fellow Christian be mocked for the kind of praise and worship they take part in?

I would suggest that that anyone that feels so strongly about my predicament simply scrolls passed or ignores my post.

People are very brave behind a computer screen, I wonder if they would treat members of their church congregation like this, I sincerely hope not, it's a sad day for Christianity if they do.

Ok,can we rewind? You can answer or not as you choose.You said you went to a meeting and that is when you began feeling you were being called to have another child. Did someone prophesy over you? Or was this a voice inside.Can you elaborate on that? So far I don't think anyone asked that. And did you tell your husband of your experience? Not sure if this was asked either.

 

[kaylagrl]

Ok,can we rewind? You can answer or not as you choose.You said you went to a meeting and that is when you began feeling you were being called to have another child. Did someone prophesy over you? Or was this a voice inside.Can you elaborate on that? So far I don't think anyone asked that. And did you tell your husband of your experience? Not sure if this was asked either.

Apparently we can't. Best of luck in the future.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Ok I'm going to be open and honest here, however if anybody feels the need to ridicule me for my experience, please don't bother, I haven't come here for this, nor do I believe any Christian should be behaving like this to an individual's experience whilst taking part in any kind of worship.

Yes I was at a praise and worship meeting, in the Catholic Church 2016 is the year of Mercy, I have been visiting this community for sometime, whist the meeting was in progress I began to feel very strange, it wasn't hot at all, in fact it was cool inside the building, I felt overcome with the Holy Spirit, I have never felt such emotion in my being, some people were speaking in tongues, and we were giving ourselves up to the Lord ( well I certainly was - I can't be so sure abut everyone else) at this point I felt like I was somewhere else then a calling, a presence, telling me that I was in the right place now for a child, my body was ready for it, and it would grow and then nourish a child. it was a huge surprise to me as I was sure my family was complete had never had these thoughts since the birth of my youngest child. I had always insisted that any 'planned' child would be born before I was in my 30's( although we didn't actually plan any of our children, we just didn't use contraception at all for the first 12 years of our marriage, obviously knowing that conception would be highly likely) I was just turned 29 when I gave birth to the last child, I was bemused, why would this have happened? Why now whilst I'm in my late 30's? It wasn't something I felt I could or should ignore.

I spoke with husband briefly about it, he was as surprised as I, and took on board my experience. Initially he reminded me that we took the decision to use natural family planning with the knowledge that a pregnancy could occur, and if it did we would be fine with that, but it hadn't and we were OK with that too, infact it was the preferred outcome as we already had four children, 3 under five and we felt happy back in 2008, I still do feel happy with my family, we love and support our children, we have a good life, own our own home and are financially in a great place. We also discussed What the effects would be on the rest of the family and agreed that the would be minimal, maybe we'd need a new car? Eldest is away at university and vary rarely home. As I said it was a very brief conversation, he assured me that he is here for me and I said I would wait and pray.

I dont have much more to add that I haven't already written in previous posts, thank you.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Apparently we can't. Best of luck in the future.

im sorry my last post took me longer than I anticipated to write, at first I was unsure if I should open up as I don't want to be ridiculed, however, I'm a big girl so I decided to go for it.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Since you're a christian, can I ask why you were taking part in a CATHOLIC worship service? Catholicism is a false religion that teaches things quite contrary to what christians believe..

 

[kaylagrl]

Ok I'm going to be open and honest here, however if anybody feels the need to ridicule me for my experience, please don't bother, I haven't come here for this, nor do I believe any Christian should be behaving like this to an individual's experience whilst taking part in any kind of worship.

Yes I was at a praise and worship meeting, in the Catholic Church 2016 is the year of Mercy, I have been visiting this community for sometime, whist the meeting was in progress I began to feel very strange, it wasn't hot at all, in fact it was cool inside the building, I felt overcome with the Holy Spirit, I have never felt such emotion in my being, some people were speaking in tongues, and we were giving ourselves up to the Lord ( well I certainly was - I can't be so sure abut everyone else) at this point I felt like I was somewhere else then a calling, a presence, telling me that I was in the right place now for a child, my body was ready for it, and it would grow and then nourish a child. it was a huge surprise to me as I was sure my family was complete had never had these thoughts since the birth of my youngest child. I had always insisted that any 'planned' child would be born before I was in my 30's( although we didn't actually plan any of our children, we just didn't use contraception at all for the first 12 years of our marriage, obviously knowing that conception would be highly likely) I was just turned 29 when I gave birth to the last child, I was bemused, why would this have happened? Why now whilst I'm in my late 30's? It wasn't something I felt I could or should ignore.

I spoke with husband briefly about it, he was as surprised as I, and took on board my experience. Initially he reminded me that we took the decision to use natural family planning with the knowledge that a pregnancy could occur, and if it did we would be fine with that, but it hadn't and we were OK with that too, infact it was the preferred outcome as we already had four children, 3 under five and we felt happy back in 2008, I still do feel happy with my family, we love and support our children, we have a good life, own our own home and are financially in a great place. We also discussed What the effects would be on the rest of the family and agreed that the would be minimal, maybe we'd need a new car? Eldest is away at university and vary rarely home. As I said it was a very brief conversation, he assured me that he is here for me and I said I would wait and pray.

I dont have much more to add that I haven't already written in previous posts, thank you.

First of all, Catholics speaking in tongues,wow! That was quite a service. I don't have children myself but I don't think you need to have children to answer this. If you felt the Holy Spirit moving on you that strongly then the Lord seems to be preparing you for a child. Often God does prepare us for what is ahead. Your husband doesn't seem to be totally adverse to the idea of having another child. It seems you are well able to care for a child. Men seem a little slower to accept a new baby on the way. Men are more logical,usually, women go more on emotion. A family friend had a baby in her early 40s, bless her.I don't think I'd have that kind of energy. I think if you ask God to reveal to your husband what you are feeling that he will come around soon. Again,God will prepare you both if He is calling you to have a child. If your husband is praying for Gods will in his life,and it seems he is, then he will be on board in this new adventure.

 

[CamdenTownie]

Since you're a christian, can I ask why you were taking part in a CATHOLIC worship service? Catholicism is a false religion that teaches things quite contrary to what christians believe..

Well you are quite something!

here in the U.K. We have something we call Chuches Together in England and Wales, that's many different denominations, Anglican, Catholic, United Refomed, Baptist, Methodist ect anyone and everyone that believes that God sent his only son Jesus Christ to us and that in his death we are saved - Christians 'people that follow Christ'.

I am a confirmed member of the Anglican Church, Every week i say say the following:


[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]I BELIEVE[/FONT] [FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]in God, the Father almighty,
creator of heaven and earth.

I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord.
He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit
and born of the Virgin Mary.

He suffered under Pontius Pilate,
was crucified, died, and was buried.

He descended to the dead.
On the third day he rose again.
He ascended into heaven,
and is seated at the right hand of the Father.
He will come again to judge the living and the dead.

I believe in the Holy Spirit,
the holy catholic Church,
the communion of saints,
the forgiveness of sins,
the resurrection of the body,
and the life everlasting.

Amen.
[/FONT]
I believe that Catholics ARE Christians.

One thing that I teach my children is tolerance, wheather it be a friend that supports a different football team or believes in a different religion. I am so happy that I can worship with others that may or may not have the same traditions as me, but they love Jesus just as I do.

im quite concerned by your attitude, you seem to have issues with everything. Do you have anyone you can talk this over with. There is so much hate in the world as you mentioned above- try and bring some love into it, stop being so negative, love thy neighbour. you know what I'm quite sad for you that you view Catholicism like that, that 'false religion' teaches gods love and that is an amazing thing, what is the problem???

I don't know what your problem is with me, but im going to offer to help you understand me and my faith, if you'd like to of course.

Its late here, so I'm off to bed, my husband has spent today in a business meeting 200 miles from home, so he's tired and I need to spend some time with him, the two of us took our dogs out for a nice walk earlier which was very enjoyable, except the puppy hasn't quite learned not to pull on the lead do you have any pets?