Do i deserve to go on living?

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So, recently i've been really depressed and ashamed of myself. I'm addicted to pornography, and for 5 years now i haven't been able to stop. I am losing hope. I am losing sight of God's love. How quickly can i bleed out? Will Jesus accept me into his presence? Is there still hope for my broken soul???
 
Yes! there is!

The amazing thing about Christ is that he doesn't want perfect people, he wants people that know they are broken and come to him. Tell him you are sorry for what you did and ask him to forgive you, because he will! It doesn't stop there, after that you have to pick yourself up and move forward with his help. with addictions it is also amazingly helpful to have a person or group for support and accountability.
 
As someone who also use to deal with a porn addiction I can assure there is still hope... God has not stopped loving nor will he ever stop loving you.... Many famous biblical figures did some horrible things but they found forgiveness in the face of are most holy father... Sarah and Abraham lost hope in the lord that he would provide them a child so Sarah gave Abraham her handmaiden to lay with, king David lusted after and layed with another mans wife and then had the man killed, Paul was a persecuter of christians it was his job to throw them in prison, but through all these mistakes God never stopped loving them, and on top of that he used them to do great things..... So do not give up friend the Lord is not through with you yet.. If you need someone to talk to privately about your problem feel free to pm me. God bless.
 
None of us deserve it, truthfully, but by grace, here we are, eh?
 
Read my depression thread below. I guarantee it will inspire you. :) Suicide is a sin. It's the coward's way out and it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. God never gives up on you. Don't give up on him. :)
 
So, recently i've been really depressed and ashamed of myself. I'm addicted to pornography, and for 5 years now i haven't been able to stop. I am losing hope. I am losing sight of God's love. How quickly can i bleed out? Will Jesus accept me into his presence? Is there still hope for my broken soul???

I believe there's either always or an extraordinary amount of hope.

Maybe you need to find some help? Jesus said he came to save the world.
 
God doesn't kill people or demand ER kill ourselves because we have sinned! If he gif we would all be dead, because we are all sinners.

Instead, Our Heavenly Father sent his only begotten Son to die in our place on the cross for our sins. We need to ask God to forgive us our sins, because that is why Jesus came to earth. The plan was always that Jesus, the perfect Lamb of God would die do we might be forgiven.

As far as the porn habit, you have made you first step forward into ridding yourself of this unwholesome and sinful habit by coming here. You do need to get support and help from others. That means talking to some mature men who can help you recover, and support you and encourage you long term. In person is better, because then you really have to be accountable for your actions.

And just so you know, porn has become an epidemic in the evangelical church, and in society generally. You are not alone!

"The statistics for Christian men between 18-30 years old are particularly striking:
  • 77% look at pornography at least monthly;
  • 36% view pornography at least daily;
  • 32% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 12% think they may be).
The statistics for middle-aged Christian men (ages 31-49) are no less disturbing:

  • 77% looked at pornography while at work in the past 3 months;
  • 64% view pornography at least monthly; and
  • 18% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 8% think they may be).
Even married Christian men are falling prey to pornography and extra-marital sexual affairs at alarming rates:

  • 55% look at pornography at least monthly; and
  • 35% had an extra-marital sexual affair while married.
2014 Pornography Survey of Christian Men: Shocking new national survey reveals high levels of pornography use and rampant extramarital affairs among Christian men - Proven Men Ministries

 
Here is a great teaching on getting out of this type of problem...God loves you fiercely and deeply...

[video=youtube;dfqw3SkgFbk]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfqw3SkgFbk[/video]


So, recently i've been really depressed and ashamed of myself. I'm addicted to pornography, and for 5 years now i haven't been able to stop. I am losing hope. I am losing sight of God's love. How quickly can i bleed out? Will Jesus accept me into his presence? Is there still hope for my broken soul???
 
Do not commit suicide, everyone sins and you need to realize that even Christians do. However, that is not an excuse to continue sinning. You need to get victory over the spirit of lust operating in your life. Pornography is a cancer to the soul, and you will only weed it out by seeking God's help through prayer, reading the word, and casting all vain thoughts/imaginations down. I had a hs friend who struggled with this and I told him some tips to help him.

1. Your mind needs to be renewed. There are several verses in the Bible because all sin no matter what starts with a thought! 2 Corinthians 10:5 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

an excellent verse to bring to mind when you have lustful thoughts or urges....also saying "I burn out these thoughts with the blood of Jesus" is powerful, the blood of Jesus has real power....

2. Put a wooden cross, or verse to remind you of Jesus sacrifice for your sin of pornography...mind you this is not iconism/idol worship...just a good physical reminder to help you remember that every sin Jesus took on the cross, and that when we willfully sin knowing this, I told my friend to picture himself nailing Jesus to the cross when he did that sin....he said it helped him when he put this next to his computer/tv. Also, clean your browser from all the websites, cookies and history of all these sites....use a wallpaper with a verse on it.....just my suggestions....


3. Know you may fail sometimes but don't use it as an excuse to keep sinning, pick yourself up, dust off and keep walking away from pornography...you have to "starve" this unhealthy lustful spirit out of you....so don't indulge thoughts/actions but cast it down and burn it out with the blood of Jesus.

4. Avoid certain times where you are alone, my friend would stay up most nights till 2-3am watching this crap....and come to school and tell me how awful he felt....the answer was to avoid these temptation times on the internet and go to bed earlier 11 pm. It helped him get over it.

5. Remind yourself...and let's be blunt....is it really all that interesting to look at some other person's genitals? I mean sure the opposite sex has a different type but really it's not that interesting if you think about it.....porn at the root is childish...society drums up sex to be some god and oversexualizes everything....sex is healthy in marriage....but is not meant to be worshipped/sole focus of one's existence....if you read in the OT....that's why God hated Baal worship not only because of idolatry but because of he lewd acts they committed in worshipping Baal. It was mocking the gift of sex God has given to mankind to only enjoy in marriage not outside of it....and also remember it's a form of mental/heart fornication although not physical....(Jesus said if you look at a woman with lust it's committing adultery in the heart). You don't want to make women an object/piece of meat, porn will destroy your viewpoint of women, and not take care of your future wife, instead of viewing them as an individual you should cherish, you will view them as an object of pleasure which is wrong.....

if you think about it....you could do so much more interesting/self-improving things on the internet...such as read about new technologies, news, your hobbies etc....

I hope this helps, but the most important thing to do is confess your sin to God and ask for His help daily in overcoming this addiction.


 
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