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While there may be nothing wrong with age, maturity levels will be different and that goes for all ages teens, 20,30,40s etc....I would advise to stick close to your age as some older people may have different time period they grew up in and have unrealistic expectations from you such as the way you dress/how you communicate etc...also older guys tend to manipulate younger women...I'm not saying that's the norm but from what I have seen in general....they try to say if you love me do ____ for me, buy drugs, have sex, rob a grocery store with me etc....and then a lot of those younger women end up in prison or with broken lives do to getting "played" by older men...
I would advise you to think for yourself and always step back before anything to assess the long term consequence of any action you take....also be aware and alert....two qualities that are severely lacking in this generation and because of this can lead to many problems....don't let any guy pressure you into anything! Hope this helps!
I would advise you to think for yourself and always step back before anything to assess the long term consequence of any action you take....also be aware and alert....two qualities that are severely lacking in this generation and because of this can lead to many problems....don't let any guy pressure you into anything! Hope this helps!
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I would say over 25 it doesn't not really matter much anymore as most men have grown up a fair bit by that age but generally women are more mature than men and a lot of women therefore prefer an older man. Teenage boys are generally two years behind than girls but to be honest, I cannot tell you when that balances out as I am from an older generation (69). You find that most men are professionals in taking care of themselves very well and I advice you to find a man that is willing to fight for you as........ easy come easy go 
Don't "sell" yourself cheap.
Don't "sell" yourself cheap.
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I don't believe having a preference for someone older is a sinful, or having a gap between ages. What could be sinful, is what you do about it. If you lust after them, or engage in other activities. For myself, I used to favor women who were older than me, I think most of the reason for this, is that they were more mature. I've often had people tell me that more mature than those at my age, so maybe that has something to do with it. As I get older, I've noticed that some women my age have developed that maturity.
That being said, I've found that girls who seem to express interest in me are younger, sometimes uncomfortably so. In the culture here in America, there seems to be acceptable age gaps, and unacceptable age gaps, and it varies depending on who you ask.
I think it is important to be aware of the differences that age gaps can create. Not everyone goes through the same stage at the same age, and not everyone hits the same maturity level at a specific age. Goals can also be drastically different. If you are entering a relationship with a gap, definitely be aware of this.
I can totally relate to that...
I'd tell you a UDP joke, but you might not get it.
That being said, I've found that girls who seem to express interest in me are younger, sometimes uncomfortably so. In the culture here in America, there seems to be acceptable age gaps, and unacceptable age gaps, and it varies depending on who you ask.
I think it is important to be aware of the differences that age gaps can create. Not everyone goes through the same stage at the same age, and not everyone hits the same maturity level at a specific age. Goals can also be drastically different. If you are entering a relationship with a gap, definitely be aware of this.
I can totally relate to that...
I'd tell you a UDP joke, but you might not get it.
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If you were my daughter or granddaughter, I would advise you NOT to ask the world wide web who you should date. In fact, I'd be extremely concerned for you because there's too much of a chance someone might take advantage of your youth. I suggest you ask your parents, grandparents, family guardians, pastor and/or counselor.
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There's nothing sinful about having a preference for older guys. I'm the same way, personally. My dad is significantly older than my mom, and I know of plenty of other instances where people got married in spite of a significant age gap. I think a lot of girls, maybe even most girls, have a preference for older guys because under most circumstances girls grow up faster than guys do, and so the maturity, increased sense of stability, security, confidence, and higher social status is more appealing. I'm not saying that all older guys will match that description, but those traits are more often present in an older guy than a younger guy.
All I can really do is reiterate what everyone else here has already said, and add this piece of advice that an older friend gave me: Be on your guard, be careful. There are good guys, and there are bad guys, and some of those bad guys are seasoned womanizers. They're experienced, know exactly what to say, and exactly how to make you feel in order to control and manipulate you and get what they want. They don't have to be older than you to be this type, but a lot of those guys target younger girls because they're frequently easier to manipulate.
Please note that I did not say all or even most older guys who date younger women are that way. There a lot of really awesome, Godly relationships that have blossomed between older men and younger women (Ruth and Boaz, for example). All I'm saying is, be careful.
Another thing to consider: his past history of relationships, and whether or not there's any serious emotional baggage from them. This is true of anyone, but I feel it's especially true of an older person, given that having lived more life, you are more likely to have had a longer history of relationships.
Generally, I think the whole age gap stigma is cultural. I mean, there are some circumstances that are a bit ridiculous-looking, and there are special complications that can and do occur due to large age differences, but as long as you've very carefully thought it through and have sought God's will and have His approval on it, and have prayed carefully - basically the same treatment as any other relationship, I see no problem with it.
I'm kind of giggling right now, because yesterday I got mistaken for my 40-something year old cousin's wife. *headdesk*
All I can really do is reiterate what everyone else here has already said, and add this piece of advice that an older friend gave me: Be on your guard, be careful. There are good guys, and there are bad guys, and some of those bad guys are seasoned womanizers. They're experienced, know exactly what to say, and exactly how to make you feel in order to control and manipulate you and get what they want. They don't have to be older than you to be this type, but a lot of those guys target younger girls because they're frequently easier to manipulate.
Please note that I did not say all or even most older guys who date younger women are that way. There a lot of really awesome, Godly relationships that have blossomed between older men and younger women (Ruth and Boaz, for example). All I'm saying is, be careful.
Another thing to consider: his past history of relationships, and whether or not there's any serious emotional baggage from them. This is true of anyone, but I feel it's especially true of an older person, given that having lived more life, you are more likely to have had a longer history of relationships.
Generally, I think the whole age gap stigma is cultural. I mean, there are some circumstances that are a bit ridiculous-looking, and there are special complications that can and do occur due to large age differences, but as long as you've very carefully thought it through and have sought God's will and have His approval on it, and have prayed carefully - basically the same treatment as any other relationship, I see no problem with it.
I'm kind of giggling right now, because yesterday I got mistaken for my 40-something year old cousin's wife. *headdesk*
Why not find your life in CHRIST, allowing HIM and the Holy Spirit to abide within you...and you will not have to post these questions here at all......for who but your CREATOR cares more about you than anyone else? You do not have to turn to total strangers on the internet to seek your personal answers to your hangups and confusion. You have an awesome GOD in whom you can pray to, confide in...as a heavenly FATHER....who knows your heart and mind so much better. What are you waiting for? Your life will never ever be fully complete without JESUS involved. Just in case you want to continue to ask questions..now you have an answer......try JESUS...seek HIM..and HIS truths...PERIOD!!!!!!!!
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Just wondering... what happens if a 16 yr old girl has a bf who is 17? Do they have to break up for a year when he turns 18???
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My parents were 10 years age difference and it wasn't a big deal I guess. They didn't really like each other, so maybe they had other issues but I don't think it was their age that drove a wedge between them. I was usually a couple of years older than the women I dated or had as girlfriends, but one time I was the younger of the two by a year. I think it's all how people get along more than the age.
It's not wrong or bad.
However it can have a bad effect if it becomes the only way you measure someone. Perhaps you can ask yourself what you see in older men, what the age means to you. Then learn that not all older men have that quality, and some younger men might... understanding our desires helps us handle them wisely and look at what we really want in a spiritual sense, so we don't get fooled by the surface.
However it can have a bad effect if it becomes the only way you measure someone. Perhaps you can ask yourself what you see in older men, what the age means to you. Then learn that not all older men have that quality, and some younger men might... understanding our desires helps us handle them wisely and look at what we really want in a spiritual sense, so we don't get fooled by the surface.
Well, If you are infact 17 and not 19.. You definitely need to take a step back and reconsider. Though you are a teen, you are still a child at 17. You should really put this out of your head until youre older. When you do in fact hit 19, or whatever, then you could consider it. But you should focus in school and getting ready for the real world.