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godsslife
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is it bad that i like ''bad boys'' or that i feel i wanna save them and change them ... ive always liked the idea ... not saying i dont like good christian guys .. just a thought..
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coby2
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It's good but never do missionary dating, tried that, a disaster. Now I just pray for them and don't have contact with them. There's a lot of great evangelists that used to be bad boys. Just date them after they're saved.
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godsslife
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Tintin
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Yes, it's bad. No, it's not unusual. Bad boys may treat you like crap or be terrible influences but at least they're exciting. Hmm... Don't date missionary style. Someone will end up compromising and it won't be the bad boy.
Former "Bad Boy" here.
You are not going to help them or change them. No female can. Only God can do this. The only thing you can do is be a good example of a Christian, but there is absolutely no direct action you can make to change a "bad boy." It's a dangerous thing. Close personal associations with people who do not hold Christian faith or values could drag you away. But if you display a good example of being a Christian unbelievers may take notice and eventually desire to accept Christ.
You are not going to help them or change them. No female can. Only God can do this. The only thing you can do is be a good example of a Christian, but there is absolutely no direct action you can make to change a "bad boy." It's a dangerous thing. Close personal associations with people who do not hold Christian faith or values could drag you away. But if you display a good example of being a Christian unbelievers may take notice and eventually desire to accept Christ.
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godsslife
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well i dont mean bad boys as in those who sleep around .. i mean ... never mind LOL i am too tired to explain
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godsslife
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i will give a good example... maybe ill stay single all my life cause the type of man i want has too many things and god cant find him LOL
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coby2
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LOL don't be so naive. Bad boys are not gonna wait 'til marriage and they'll lie that they're saved and interested in God.
So better let guys do outreach to them. I did with a collegue, but after that I had to cut off the contact because he'd ask me to come over and take my tooth brush with me.
I fell from my faith because of one I missionary dated. The devil is not stupid.
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Ultimatum77
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Yes make sure that you have adequate bail money when the "bad boy" gets arrested by the cops....XD but seriously if you ever seen COPS you don't want to date any bad dude....
Yes make sure that you have adequate bail money when the "bad boy" gets arrested by the cops....XD but seriously if you ever seen COPS you don't want to date any bad dude....
Cant have your cake and eat it too. Don't make anyone a "project". You should ask yourself whose interest you have in mind. Are you wanting to save them so you can be with them? Remember, its God's will, not yours. You can lead someone to Christ but THEY have to make the choice for themselves. If they are going to come to Christ, they will do it in time, His time.
I would give up on the idea of trying to change a bad boy into a good boy. That's not going to work. Only God can change those that desire change. No, it's not bad that you prefer bad boys, that's just is where your thought process is at this early stage of your adult life. God can change you too.
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kaylagrl
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Only immature people go for "bad boys" sorry but thats the straight truth. A mature woman wants a man that will treat her like a lady. She wants a man that is responsible and a gentleman. A "good guy" is never boring. A "good guy" will be there when the "bad guy" has broken your heart and moved on to the next woman. No woman has a good story about a relationship with a bad guy. I think you need to save dating until you mature a little more.
Bad boys and bad girls are not suitable life partners. Now I speak from total ignorance as I have never had a relationship of my own, but that has been by my own choice to remain chaste my entire life. However, I have seen colleagues and co-workers of each gender chase the "bad" ones, and it never turns out well.
I think there is a saying "you can't make a ho into a housewife". I'm sure it works for making a bad-boy into a decent husband too.
I think there is a saying "you can't make a ho into a housewife". I'm sure it works for making a bad-boy into a decent husband too.
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I think you'd be doing yourself a favor if you stayed away from the "bad boys." You might think you are going to change them, when they wind up changing you.
They like being bad so let them be bad by themselves and throw them out of your life. I dated a bad guy and I think I failed in that missionary dating scene but I did my best. Maybe God is not done with him yet but I am. I tried but its not in my power to change him so I gave up but still praying for him to change because I think he is not really that bad but a good person who is very weak spiritually.
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godsslife
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Who said anything about dating? I just said my preference is bad boys .. Specially good looking ones... I know it may sound immature or so teenage wise but i think yes i have to wait a bit more to be stronger in faith then try to change a bad boy so i can be with him .. Life gives us many paths
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godsslife
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I think if your faith is strong anything is possible.. I used to be a bad girl myself and yes i have good and bad memories but i changed ..
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coby2
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It was funny. On another site there was a guy who was atheist and they discussed if it was smart to date an unbeliever and try to change him. He said if you'd try to do that with me I'd turn you into an atheist.
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