A question for all Christianchat ladies

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PepperJack

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A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
PepperJack
 
Magenta

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It sounds like your wife is wanting more of your attention, and TV time is when you are available, though of course that does not really work, does it? Probably not for either of you. Do you still have date nights, or set time aside to specifically talk about things and/or whatever? Maybe that would help :) God bless you!
 
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Hellooo

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Watch the movie when your wife is too busy to interrupt or when you're alone.
 
Tinkerbell725

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When men retreat to their caves. When they don't want to communicate, its the most annoying. Whatever you do, don't ever ignore your wife or gf. If we feel we cant talk to you we feel isolated and alone and worst we feel not valued and not loved.
 
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Perhaps set a time aside each day to devote to talking to her. And then set time aside, which she knows and understands, is your 'relax time' when you watch tv undisturbed.

And yes, you said for ladies, but i've yet to see a single thread aimed only at one gender stay that way long.

But i have known people that talk through tv. My dad is one. Drives me nuts. Because he's watching it too, and still talks. Then he gets lost and asks me what's going on. :mad:
 
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coby2

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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
PepperJack
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Say that I have to shut up, it turned me into the deaf and dumb Indian from One flew over the cuckoo's nest for years.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Ugly said:
Perhaps set a time aside each day to devote to talking to her. And then set time aside, which she knows and understands, is your 'relax time' when you watch tv undisturbed.

And yes, you said for ladies, but i've yet to see a single thread aimed only at one gender stay that way long.

But i have known people that talk through tv. My dad is one. Drives me nuts. Because he's watching it too, and still talks. Then he gets lost and asks me what's going on. :mad:
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One of my friends does that. I've started telling him I won't tell him what's happened if he can't focus :p
 
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coby2

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wwjd_kilden said:
One of my friends does that. I've started telling him I won't tell him what's happened if he can't focus :p
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Lol as a kid I had a friend and we only watched tv on wednesday, kids programs, but when she came over to play she said: oh I have seen that movie. Now this is going to happen and then that and she'd tell me how it ended.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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OP

How much TV do you watch? (An hour a day? Several hours? All evening? All day?)
How much time do you spend together, without TV or other stuff interfering a day?
(Do you ever put away TV, phones etc and just be together?)
 
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bikerchaz

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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
PepperJack
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So when you pray does Jesus fob you off and get annoyed? Grow a pair man and get your act together. Your Wife and you are 'one flesh' give her some attention.

If my ear itches I scratch it I don't ignore it, then if by scratching I hit a zit or something else it means that I need to wash behind my ears, or give the reason for the itch some attention. I am glad Jesus does not treat us the same way you seem to treat your wife.

There, hows that for a ton of bricks
 
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lost_suzie

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A woman needs to be heard. Its how we can tell if we are loved. I am not saying you don't love your wife. im sure you do. but sometimes we need to switch off all electronics to come to reality and go to the basics. and im saying not just men, but us ladies too. sometimes we are lost in technology. so make a schedule together and say, when im whatching tv, I want to focus on that, and when it is an emergency, tap me and say, please honey, I need you. and schedule a time when you both switch of all electronics and bond over everything and nothing. I am currently single so im driving myself nuts. so goodluck
 
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lost_suzie

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that's not really nice... he knows he is wrong, lets help him instead of throwing a ton of bricks. remember: WWJD!
 
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coby2

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lost_suzie said:
that's not really nice... he knows he is wrong, lets help him instead of throwing a ton of bricks. remember: WWJD!
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Throwing bricks is more fun. He'll run away from the horrible chat ladies and appreciate his wife more LOL.
 
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lost_suzie

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But still. I would like to think i joined a judge free chat site...
 
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Ultimatum77

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coby2 said:
Say that I have to shut up, it turned me into the deaf and dumb Indian from One flew over the cuckoo's nest for years.
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I hope you don't plan on throwing a water fountain out the window....XD
 
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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
PepperJack
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(I wonder if it's okay for me to answering, being a woman, yet no lady.)

Alas, woman or lady, who can shut me up? (Please don't take that as a literal question, Lord.)

All kidding aside, I find I am best at being quiet during TV shows and sports, if hubby gives us time earlier in the day to talk together for quite some time.

As for what drives me nuts about guys?

"No."

Just that. "No."

I mean, come on already, you are free to disagree with me, you may well be right, but give me a bit more to gnaw on than a simple monosyllabic word like "No."

Men just don't explain stuff. They tend to think "No" ought to do it for me. It doesn't.

(You are now free to go back to your show around me. Sadly, I'm not your wife, so that didn't help you at all. lol)
 
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Ugly said:
Perhaps set a time aside each day to devote to talking to her. And then set time aside, which she knows and understands, is your 'relax time' when you watch tv undisturbed.

And yes, you said for ladies, but i've yet to see a single thread aimed only at one gender stay that way long.

But i have known people that talk through tv. My dad is one. Drives me nuts. Because he's watching it too, and still talks. Then he gets lost and asks me what's going on. :mad:
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Eeek! hubby and I are both like your dad.
 
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bikerchaz said:
So when you pray does Jesus fob you off and get annoyed? Grow a pair man and get your act together. Your Wife and you are 'one flesh' give her some attention.

If my ear itches I scratch it I don't ignore it, then if by scratching I hit a zit or something else it means that I need to wash behind my ears, or give the reason for the itch some attention. I am glad Jesus does not treat us the same way you seem to treat your wife.

There, hows that for a ton of bricks
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Did you just call women zits?
 
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lost_suzie said:
But still. I would like to think i joined a judge free chat site...
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Lessee here -- judge someone and then say that? If this was a judge free chat, it stopped when you joined.

But good news. We judge like crazy! :D
 
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