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coby2

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Lol a girl in my students' home, her mom and dad visited and her mom talked so much, she didn't stop. She was the only one that talked on and on and on and on and on LOL and the dad just sat there, reading a book. He had heard those same stories a million times. It didn't even bother him nor her that he didn't pay attention.
 
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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
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Do like my brother always did. He always gave me the idea that someone listened to me while I knew he didn't. He'd say: hmm hmm, hmm hmm, that can mean yes, no or I don't know. He didn't have to listen and I felt happy that someone listened to me. Used to call him hmmmm.
 
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ember

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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
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uh....you are the reverse couple of my husband and I LOL!

now why don't you ask your wife what drives her nuts...somebody else might not care if you get crumbs on the floor cuz the dog will get em
 
tourist

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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
PepperJack
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A clever wife will be able to teach an old dog new tricks. It is best not to keep the dog on a short leash though.
 
santuzza

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Well, hubby and I are completely opposite from you and your wife -- hubby talks constantly! I feel like I never have any quiet time. He has learned over the years, however, that if I'm watching TV, he'll wait until the show is over (unless it's real important).

The thing is this: married couples drive each other nuts in many ways, and each marriage is unique. Hubby and I don't fit the usual "modes" in relationships. I actually have more of the masculine traits, and he has more of the feminine. But it's all good because we complement each other. I'm sure you and your wife do, too.

Just a bit of advice (coming from someone married to a talker), it's really important to take the time to really listen to your partner -- don't just phone it in and half listen -- that makes him/her feel very insecure. If you take the time to listen, you'll have more time to yourself.
 
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tourist said:
A clever wife will be able to teach an old dog new tricks. It is best not to keep the dog on a short leash though.
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I thought the old dog keeps the wife on a short leash. lol
 
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at this point in our journey/relationship with Jesus and our relationship with each other,
nothing in this fallen world comes before or between...
 
Joidevivre

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Can't think of anything that bothers me that men do that I don't see in many women too. Really not a matter of gender.

I'm not a talker so was sometimes bothered when my husband wanted to go on and on and on. I even choose my friends who are more of a 2nd gear type of person. When anyone never leaves a space in conversation for some silent thought, they completely tire me.

I like what Santuzza said. When you do listen to your wife, make good eye contact with her. That way, even 5 minutes will seem like maybe 15 min. to her.
 
zeroturbulence

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The solution is simple...

1. Buy her a computer

2. Introduce her to facebook and pinterest.

You might never hear from her again.... :rolleyes:
 
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zeroturbulence said:
The solution is simple...

1. Buy her a computer

2. Introduce her to facebook and pinterest.

You might never hear from her again.... :rolleyes:
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Didn't work. FB seems like a nonstop graffiti board, and Pinterest seems like the same board but prettier.
 
PennEd

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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
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Scientists have discovered why men are attracted to women with a raspy voice.

They figure they have most of their talking out!

I'm sorry, I heard this joke at a date night at our Church by a commediene. I dared not laugh!
 
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Joidevivre said:
Can't think of anything that bothers me that men do that I don't see in many women too. Really not a matter of gender.

I'm not a talker so was sometimes bothered when my husband wanted to go on and on and on. I even choose my friends who are more of a 2nd gear type of person. When anyone never leaves a space in conversation for some silent thought, they completely tire me.

I like what Santuzza said. When you do listen to your wife, make good eye contact with her. That way, even 5 minutes will seem like maybe 15 min. to her.
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(( "When anyone never leaves a space in conversation for some silent thought, they completely tire me."))

this has been one of my biggest challenges, as both of us have seen in the last very few years,
more and more of those we know and newly meet, they seem to have a great need to be heard, and
really don't even seem to be aware of their manner of speaking...
of course we understand that this is a mechanism for coping and this is how we have developed our
patience with such - (spaceless-onward-speakers) who speak without a break or seemingly a need for a reply...

we have also learned, that whether we are in the silent part of Faith or the spoken part of Faith, that we
have to draw closer to Christ and learn to do His will....this has definitely been very trying and has
taken a lot of work on our parts to be earnest listeners....we don't take it personally, but we so see
the human-condition in so many ways, getting worse and worse.....
 
Utah

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PepperJack said:
A question for all you Christianchat ladies.

One of the things my wife does that drives me nuts is to talk and talk and talk when I'm trying to watch a t.v show or watch a movie.

Now in order for this not to be a lopsided conversation, I want to ask all of you Christianchat ladies, what is it about us men that drive you all nuts?

I'm asking this in order to learn how I can improve myself in my marriage. Perhaps some of your answers will hit me like a ton of bricks, in which I say, I'm quilty of this or that. Perhaps some other husband may say, that ton of bricks have gotten me also.
PepperJack
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Mute! :cool:









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LiJo

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So Utah prayed for a mute woman and God answered his prayer with a mute dog instead!!!!
 
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LiJo said:
So Utah prayed for a mute woman and God answered his prayer with a mute dog instead!!!!
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A mute dog and my girlfriend is my best friend. Go figure! ;)
 
Joidevivre

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oldethennew said:
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(( "When anyone never leaves a space in conversation for some silent thought, they completely tire me."))

this has been one of my biggest challenges, as both of us have seen in the last very few years,
more and more of those we know and newly meet, they seem to have a great need to be heard, and
really don't even seem to be aware of their manner of speaking...
of course we understand that this is a mechanism for coping and this is how we have developed our
patience with such - (spaceless-onward-speakers) who speak without a break or seemingly a need for a reply...

we have also learned, that whether we are in the silent part of Faith or the spoken part of Faith, that we
have to draw closer to Christ and learn to do His will....this has definitely been very trying and has
taken a lot of work on our parts to be earnest listeners....we don't take it personally, but we so see
the human-condition in so many ways, getting worse and worse.....
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I understand what you are saying. I am a Christian counselor so spend much time listening. I like that you called it the silent part of Faith. I will remember that.

But when it comes time to pick my friends - those I spend time with - I am more selective. I avoid the endless talkers. But then again, I love silence. Even at home, I hardly ever turn on the music or T.V. that will break the silence that seems to nurture me. After spending time with these talkers, they make me feel fragmented. But silence seems to bring all the pieces of me back together again. (For lack of a better explanation).
 
ArtsieSteph

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The one thing I dislike is the silent treatment. I am a very insecure person at heart, and to me silence equals disapproval. So when a you ask someone a question and they just don't respond with something it bothers me.

Of course if it's like an activity such as watching tv like you said, I can handle silence. But I do also like to talk about what is going on in the show. So maybe being able to keep the conversation more topical helps for me not to get a non response.
 
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