How to beat the loneliness

[Faith-n-Christ]

I am very new to Chat rooms. Not sure how this really all works. But here goes. How do you beat the loneliness. I am a Christian woman, I pray and Thank God, I work and am around folks all day. I go to church, go to my small group when not working, yet I still find myself lonely.

 

[wwjd_kilden]

Hmmm. I am a lone wolf, so I tend to enjoy solitude, and am currently living with my parents until I can get a full time job.

When I do get lonely I tend to go to town and just be where people tend to be. (ie a cafe, or the seaside summertime).
I also spend time on CC. The crowd here in the singles forum is very friendly, so they feel like any other friends.

 

[Faith-n-Christ]

Thank you, how does this chat room work? is it live chat or more like email? I work night shift in an ER so most things are closed when I get off. that is why I was seeking a chat room.

 

[wwjd_kilden]

It's a live chat
Click the banner saying Christianchat on top, you will get some dropdown boxes
select whether or not you want to use webcam / hear people and click "chat now"

 

[Lynx]

Have you ever gone to a restaurant/pub/diner/cafe/whatever and sat there just listening to people around you? Not spying, just being part of the atmosphere. I don't mind being alone so I don't do this, but some people come to where I work and just sit there at a table sipping coffee for hours. Not playing on their phones, not reading a book, just sitting there being part of the group.

It can work at any place where people come to eat or get coffee. Try your local McDonald's or Burger King or whatever. If you don't like the atmosphere at one place, try another.

 

[LiJo]

Have you ever gone to a restaurant/pub/diner/cafe/whatever and sat there just listening to people around you? Not spying, just being part of the atmosphere. I don't mind being alone so I don't do this, but some people come to where I work and just sit there at a table sipping coffee for hours. Not playing on their phones, not reading a book, just sitting there being part of the group.

It can work at any place where people come to eat or get coffee. Try your local McDonald's or Burger King or whatever. If you don't like the atmosphere at one place, try another.

You can also go to Walmart and people watch, that can be entertaining as well....

 

[lastofall]

As followers of Christ we can be found isolated, not only from the world, but from those of our own household: but as followers of Christ, let us be with the same mind, for He Himself mentioned: "Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me." (John 16:32)
We also may be left alone, yet we also are not alone, because the Father is with us as well.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

I honestly don't believe many of us can "beat" it, despite what Michael Jackson says (catchy song, though).

An existential loneliness just seems to be in the stars for most people, albeit in varying capacities. It's part of the human condition, I suppose. You can feel it when alone, and you can feel it in a group of people.

I don't know how to fix it, but I believe we can learn to cope with it; sometimes we may even find someone that relieves us from suffering it.

 

[Lynx]

Or sometimes it can be nice to be alone. Nothing against people, but solitude is nice too.

 

[Dan58]

I am very new to Chat rooms. Not sure how this really all works. But here goes. How do you beat the loneliness. I am a Christian woman, I pray and Thank God, I work and am around folks all day. I go to church, go to my small group when not working, yet I still find myself lonely.

Sounds like your lonely but your seldom alone... That's not unusual... Loneliness often stems from an emptiness or a lack of fulfillment or purpose. Try to discover that hole in your life and fill the void. Or maybe your lacking a close or intimate relationship? Do some soul searching the next time you feel lonely and ask yourself why you feel that way. Usually self-diagnosis will reveal the cause, then you can address the cure.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I am very new to Chat rooms. Not sure how this really all works. But here goes. How do you beat the loneliness. I am a Christian woman, I pray and Thank God, I work and am around folks all day. I go to church, go to my small group when not working, yet I still find myself lonely.

When I'm feeling very down or lonely I go out and buy some very unhealthy junk food, put on a movie or favorite tv show and have myself a one-man pity party. Not good for the waist but it gets the job done.

If its nice out I might go for a drive and do some window shopping and/or grab some decadent, overpriced and messy fast food (think cheesesteaks, pastrami burgers, etc..), browse the bookstore or go to the gym.

 

[Born_Again]

One of my favorite lonely/single things to do is go buy a new movie, get take-out, and hunker down for the night! As others have posted, you learn to cope/deal with it and eventually embrace it. Yea, I can get lonely (bored is more the word) but I prefer my personal space and solitude. I read a lot. I study apologetics, theology, and philosophy. It keeps me busy. And occasionally, i just go for walks. I should note though, I am not looking to remedy any of this bordem/ loneliness, so its not like I am looking for solutions or a partner.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

I kind of like what May Sarton wrote about this:

"Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is richness of self."

 

[G4JC]

You can also go to Walmart and people watch, that can be entertaining as well....

This right here is very amusing pastime, you'll never know what you see! I've spent hours just watching the random people that go in and out of malls and Walmarts. Also helps if they have free wifi, since you can watch people whilst downloading Windows Updates etc.

Beyond that, only God can fulfill loneliness. I've given up on people to fulfill that spot.


Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
- Matthew 11:28-30

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I dont think you can beat loneliness or is it meant to be overcome?

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English version

THE HABIT

You, for what you give me,
That extra emotion,
In every word…

You, probably, you
Have been till now
Too long alone
Till you’re convinced, like me
You can stay alone

Because loneliness
Which never smiles
Becomes a habit
And not a choice you made

But now you’re here
The wind will change
It’ll seem a whole lot easier
The weather that comes our way

Life can surprise you
In every little way
And where you don’t imagine
You can meet happiness

And I’ m here with you
And I won’t leave you
I’m asking you to stay here
And spend your time with me
and spend your time with me

Yes, now its you
In my dreams and plans
And in my fantasies
You, who’s close to me
so close to me
Who’s part of me
so inside of you
Like a feeling
You’re the words and the music
For a new song

Because loneliness
Won’t take away again
The desire to smile
not now…
And happiness
if you’re there…
For what you are
and you know…
For what you give me
and you too…
For a simple kind of love
But deeper than ever before

And it’s not a habit
The good you do me
and you too
And the joy of being with you
for as long as you want…
Of having you beside me more than ever!

And now we are together
me and you
Together just us two
just us two

Sure we’ll never lose each other
Never let each other go
Loneliness again
Will never come our way
And you won’t go away
Never

 

[jeremyPJ]

After what I've been through, I'm still cherishing my singleness.

Hoping to someday meet someone special. Not fond of the feminist attitudes in present American society. May be relocating far away, so i can be a man for once. And have a truly appreciative, loving wife. Not saying it isn't possible in America, but the light has really dimmed over the last 20+ years here in my eyes, it's shameful.

But it's going to cost me a lot to ship my antique car where i'm going. The only downside. May have to build myself a very sturdy raft! LOL

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

Hey jeremy! I haven't seen you around these parts much. Hope you're doing well.

 

[Faith-n-Christ]

Thank you, I found it

 

[Faith-n-Christ]

Thank you. I do plenty of people watching at work. Because it is part of my job. Doing that in my free time just does not seem that appealing. I am grateful for the thought and idea.

 

[Faith-n-Christ]

Dan58, That is something to think about. It has taken me a couple of days to consider. My life is way too long of a story, but it does seem that I have lost site of any passion, or purpose. I help folks all day long and usually enjoy helping folks, But Something is missing. I have Christ in my life, and am growing daily with my walk in him. I just can't seem to put my figure on it.