Why we still single?

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Because (still) doesn't apply whereas (again) does. It is whether you see Righteousness in me as beautiful, or as a crutch, but I will no longer lay down my Jesus in anyway again.In other words; unequally yoked need not apply. If your spouse is kind of a Christian starting out, after 29 years that kind of will either become (is a) Christian, or it will become (no thanks I wanted it but it's not really working I believe morality has more options). And that for the Christian in the home can be devastatingly disruptive. Christianity; cup half full or half empty? As for me and my house.....I will serve the Lord!

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Only dated a couple people and still pure. ?? I maybe he wrong but that's my definition.
For the most part that's my view. Having a partner (or maybe even two) wouldn't be a deal breaker, given my age and also because I've been with one person myself (sorry if that's TMI). I've redicated myself since then and I want to do things the right way.

The reason why I don't date much isn't for lack of options or opportunity, but finding the right one just seems harder than it used to be. I could have entered into several short term dating relationships like is the norm nowadays, but I date with a higher purpose in mind.

Also I don't believe in divorce AT ALL so I definitely want to do things right the first time around.
 
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Just waiting for a girl to propose me! HeHe
I had a couple girls ask me out in college. Also my last relationship actually ended at the point where I got the ultimatum of marrying her or breaking up. The grass isn't greener on the other side Danny. :/
 
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I had a couple girls ask me out in college. Also my last relationship actually ended at the point where I got the ultimatum of marrying her or breaking up. The grass isn't greener on the other side Danny. :/
You wish that you had married her?
 
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You wish that you had married her?
I would have to say no. This was definitely one of the hardest decisions I've ever made. She literally felt like I was her soulmate and I know for a fact that she still loves me with every fiber of her being. I didn't feel that she was my perfect match, although she was very close.

I believe that many people would have gotten married in that situation, however I have the utmost faith that God has something better coming down the pipeline for me.
 
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For the most part that's my view. Having a partner (or maybe even two) wouldn't be a deal breaker, given my age and also because I've been with one person myself (sorry if that's TMI). I've redicated myself since then and I want to do things the right way.
I've never even dated anyone so I don't know what category I'd fall in if having one or two relationships is conservative. Funnily enough most guys see that I haven't dated at all as bad, why I'm not totally sure. Maybe lack of experience or they believe it shows immaturity or that I'm not ready for a relationship but the truth is I am ready for all of it the good and the ugly and the in between but no guy has ever wanted to give me the time of day relationship-wise.
 

cinder

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I would have to say no. This was definitely one of the hardest decisions I've ever made. She literally felt like I was her soulmate and I know for a fact that she still loves me with every fiber of her being. I didn't feel that she was my perfect match, although she was very close.

I believe that many people would have gotten married in that situation, however I have the utmost faith that God has something better coming down the pipeline for me.
I don't know enough to say that you did right or wrong, but I do know that holding out for perfect when really good is in front of you is a recipe for a long and lonely single life. Lots of lonely singles masking their pain with a "God must have something better for me."

well, women still don't like me.
Ok brutally honest cinder mode initiating. If your online behavior and demeanor is any indication, you don't give anyone a chance to like you. You are consistently extremely negative and seem like you've built a huge wall around yourself to keep people out. I have no idea what happened in your past to bring you to such a point, but it seems quite illogical for you to keep highlighting the fact that people don't like you when you seem to be doing everything you can to make yourself inaccessible and unlikeable. I have a hard time believing you're really as unpleasant as the persona you project, but I have to admit that such a persona kills any motivation I (or probably most anyone else) have to actually find out the truth of who you are under the negativity.
 
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Ok brutally honest cinder mode initiating. If your online behavior and demeanor is any indication, you don't give anyone a chance to like you. You are consistently extremely negative and seem like you've built a huge wall around yourself to keep people out. I have no idea what happened in your past to bring you to such a point, but it seems quite illogical for you to keep highlighting the fact that people don't like you when you seem to be doing everything you can to make yourself inaccessible and unlikeable. I have a hard time believing you're really as unpleasant as the persona you project, but I have to admit that such a persona kills any motivation I (or probably most anyone else) have to actually find out the truth of who you are under the negativity.
To get in the wall, you must have a valid visa. visa application must be filled out and submitted to the department of allow this person inside the wall or not. application will be reviewed and you will be notified if you have been accepted or denied entry.
 
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@spiritleadme23

This is one of the weirdest things that I just don't understand about today's young people. I was with some of my more secular friends and one of them proposed the questions of "Would you rather be with a virgin or a girl who has been with a few people?" Basically all of my friends said they'd choose the girl who had "experience". I was BAFFLED!!!!

I believe it proves the exact opposite. I think it takes great maturity and strength to not date just any and everyone. My Christians friends agree with this sentiment for the most part as well.
 
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@cinder
I know exactly what you mean and this was something I took into account at the time. The relationship had a multitude of issues that we had been working through for awhile with no success. I'm sure I made the right call.
 

cinder

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I know exactly what you mean and this was something I took into account at the time. The relationship had a multitude of issues that we had been working through for awhile with no success. I'm sure I made the right call.
Yeah you sound like a smart guy with your head on straight. Good to have you here around singles. I'm predicting you'll be a valuable addition to our community.
 
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HolySpiritguided

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I couldn't have said it better myself. Your situation is EXACTLY my situation. From the lack of self worth, to the rebellion, to the expanded years of singleness as God broke me only to mold me into the woman of Christ for His will and glory. I wouldn't have had it any other way because I am a better woman today for it.

My sister, may our Heavenly Father shower down abundant blessings as He honors your obedience. And I pray His favor on your future marriage, it's coming as I believe your God-sent-husband he being prepared for you as God prepares you for him. God Bless my dear, and keep the faith!
 
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D4J

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Because I'm scared of getting hurt again
 
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wanderermish

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Well before becaus of my past relationsgip and my health conditions I almost give up of everything

My Hopes and Believes were gone because I judge myself
that in my situations Nobody would dare to love me nor to marry
I will just be a burden to Him (Future Partner) So I ignore anyone who shows likeness to me I immideately turn them down esp if their non believer .

but God makes me free for all my worriers.
He removed all my insecurities and fears and Now I admit that I am ready tp entertain but no one is coming ! haha
Its not frustating but I was kinda wondering that people around me knows what Ive been through and nobody wants to be with me

well I trust the Lord for my future partner
I will not closed my door anymore and keeping my standards more on Godly Standards bec I am a precious Daughter of God.

Whos with me?! ヽ(°◇° )ノ​
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Been almost a year now and it's quite nice. It does make me ponder what dying alone will be like, though.
 

VCO

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well, women still don't like me.
Now, I am speaking as one Christian brother to another. I have never seen many women who are thinking about settling down and getting married, who are attracted to wild hair styles. A serious change in hair styles could attract a lady seeking a serious relationship. Look at the men who attract the most attention from women:



If that picture you use is the way your hair really looks, my guess is that the hair is what is turning women away. I suggest you lose the statement you are trying to make with the hair and any attitude that goes with it, and TRY AGAIN.

Then remember the song, "Looking for in all the wrong places."; and try a Bible Study Group for Singles.