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Not to worry. I don't want to learn how to flirt either, I'm just trying to get what others see in it.
Is it good or bad?
And, if it's "bad," then what makes it bad? The two worst cases of flirting I ever heard that worked were,
"You like peanut butter. I like peanut butter. Let's _____." (Vulgar word for what many college students were after back when I was in college.) It worked! I'm thinking, "What? Are you nuts?" But the roommate telling me this story was all excited about what she did the night before with the guy that gave her that flirt.
And then there is the "Nice ___", said to Maria Schiever. Personally, when a guy used that line on me back in the day, on a good day, my comeback would have been, "You'll never know." On a bad day, I don't know how many blanks I'd have to use to write that sentence, even if it was Arnold Schwarzenegger. (And it was. And she married him.)
So is it bad flirting only if it's someone you're not attracted too? Or is it always bad? And, I really never got flirting, so explain that answer too please.
Because I don't flirt, I have a way of stopping people from even trying to flirt with me. (Yeah. 60 years old and some still try. Weird, huh?) I tend to tell them, "I don't flirt." And because I don't flirt, you'd have to be obvious in your flirting to get me to notice you are flirting, before I got to that sentence. Ad if you kept trying after that, my next line, subtle as I am, is "I don't flirt, so knock it off." I don't think it ever continued after that, but I have one next line, "If you don't knock it off, I have a knee and know how to use it."
But, I'm not subtle and I married a guy who really couldn't flirt either, but, man! I could see his interest in me from across the church building. (Big guy stumbling over folded chairs, wiggling through groups of people talking in the aisles, and occasionally giving someone a "I can't talk right now" gesture coming barreling at me. His version of "subtle." Yup, I married right.)
But before I came along, he was a bodybuilder. (He took up running a year before and loss the mass, so I've never seen him in bodybuilding form, which is cool since bodybuilders don't interest me.) Women would flirt with him and the only way he knew they were is when a buddy would tell him. I personally think a woman hanging on your arm is an obvious sign, so I guess he's worse than I am at catching it.
Life is easier without flirting, but what I don't understand also is if someone is flirting with you and you're not interested, what is it about this flirting thing that people just can't say, "knock it off"? Unsubtle works easier. I just hung aroung the guy until he got the nerve to ask me out, and didn't pause with the "okay." He could have asked me to eat liver, lima beans and tequila straight up (don't even like it in a sunrise), and lo and behold, because I was already interested, I would have. (Drank hot chocolate three times before letting future-hubby know I HATE hot chocolate. lol)
Needless to say, I was never helpful with hysterical roommates who were upset because some guy flirted. For some reason, they thought my advice wasn't the answer and I didn't understand.
So, okay. Can anyone help me understand about flirting?
Is it good or bad?
And, if it's "bad," then what makes it bad? The two worst cases of flirting I ever heard that worked were,
"You like peanut butter. I like peanut butter. Let's _____." (Vulgar word for what many college students were after back when I was in college.) It worked! I'm thinking, "What? Are you nuts?" But the roommate telling me this story was all excited about what she did the night before with the guy that gave her that flirt.
And then there is the "Nice ___", said to Maria Schiever. Personally, when a guy used that line on me back in the day, on a good day, my comeback would have been, "You'll never know." On a bad day, I don't know how many blanks I'd have to use to write that sentence, even if it was Arnold Schwarzenegger. (And it was. And she married him.)
So is it bad flirting only if it's someone you're not attracted too? Or is it always bad? And, I really never got flirting, so explain that answer too please.
Because I don't flirt, I have a way of stopping people from even trying to flirt with me. (Yeah. 60 years old and some still try. Weird, huh?) I tend to tell them, "I don't flirt." And because I don't flirt, you'd have to be obvious in your flirting to get me to notice you are flirting, before I got to that sentence. Ad if you kept trying after that, my next line, subtle as I am, is "I don't flirt, so knock it off." I don't think it ever continued after that, but I have one next line, "If you don't knock it off, I have a knee and know how to use it."
But, I'm not subtle and I married a guy who really couldn't flirt either, but, man! I could see his interest in me from across the church building. (Big guy stumbling over folded chairs, wiggling through groups of people talking in the aisles, and occasionally giving someone a "I can't talk right now" gesture coming barreling at me. His version of "subtle." Yup, I married right.)
But before I came along, he was a bodybuilder. (He took up running a year before and loss the mass, so I've never seen him in bodybuilding form, which is cool since bodybuilders don't interest me.) Women would flirt with him and the only way he knew they were is when a buddy would tell him. I personally think a woman hanging on your arm is an obvious sign, so I guess he's worse than I am at catching it.
Life is easier without flirting, but what I don't understand also is if someone is flirting with you and you're not interested, what is it about this flirting thing that people just can't say, "knock it off"? Unsubtle works easier. I just hung aroung the guy until he got the nerve to ask me out, and didn't pause with the "okay." He could have asked me to eat liver, lima beans and tequila straight up (don't even like it in a sunrise), and lo and behold, because I was already interested, I would have. (Drank hot chocolate three times before letting future-hubby know I HATE hot chocolate. lol)
Needless to say, I was never helpful with hysterical roommates who were upset because some guy flirted. For some reason, they thought my advice wasn't the answer and I didn't understand.
So, okay. Can anyone help me understand about flirting?
