See, this is why I'm not keen on being approached on-line for the purposes of dating by guys who live more than an easy drive from me (and I'm willing to be pretty flexible with my definition of "easy drive") a little... I don't want to say "irritating," I don't really know what word I'm looking for. The barometric pressure is falling and I feel really yucky. Anyway, when I'm approached by (or I approach) a guy on-line for the purposes of dating, this is how I see things playing out. We e-mail back and forth a few times and then we get together for coffee, then... we may or may not see each other again, and if so, we may decide to be friends or maybe we eventually decide to be more than friends, and if we are more than friends we might end up in a serious relationship which might lead to courtship then engagement. However, if someone lives really far away, and they want to date me, then I wonder how they see things playing out. See, I firmly believe that you don't really know someone unless you've met them in person. This is why I'm only interested in a few casual e-mails before I actually meet a guy. Furthermore, I believe that relationships (ie romantic relationships) require a lot more in person interaction than a friendship, ESPECIALLY if you want it to lead to marriage. See, I just.. I don't know, I just... think there's so much more to a person than what they can put in an e-mail. So anyway, like I said, I wonder how they (guys who live far away who have approached me on-line for dating) see things playing out. I imagine it's the following: we e-mail back a forth for awhile and if it works out we may meet in person and eventually he expects me to give up my job and move to where ever he lives just so I can be near a virtual stanger. Does that sound weird to anyone else but me? See, when I'd get e-mails from guys who lived far away, unless they just wanted to say hi, I'd never respond very enthusiastically (although I was always polite). Either they just wanted to be friends, in which case we were looking for different things, he'd expect me to (I mean eventually, if we hit it off on-line) move to him, or he'd be willing to move to me, and I have my doubts if I could respect a guy who'd be willing to move somewhere just because he likes a girl who lives there.
I'm going to post this.