I have a boyfriend (who I am pregnant by) and a female friend. And I feel rejected every time I am with them (I've gotten a lot better). He pays so much attention to her (but then again they have more in common). Now we get along great (a small problem though). It's like I don't know how to trust them completely. It's like we are all christian but yet I am the one who feels lonely and ugly (some times) while they are around.
And there is no way they could understand. They don't suffer the same social issues that I do. I am just now learning how to heal from a lot of past problems. And what hurts Is my boyfriend doesn't really come across like he's interested in me to much. I need help, therapy which I am seeking. And a support group which I have Joined one. And I have added scriptures, prayer time and sermons to my list of Improvements. I am determined to heal from feeling so rejected. Any suggestions and or help?
Hi
Don't worry I am not here to point the finger, but you are pregnant by your boyfriend, and you are Christians. Are you living together now?
I know from personal experiance that nothing works out if we are not living as God wants us to. Believe me, God loves you so much more than anyone else ever could, but He has rules, and when we do not live by them our lives suffer. I know mine did for many many years.
I don't know if you and this man intend to marry, but living in sin can have tragic consequences. If God allowed you to be happy while this is happening He wouldn't be a God of love, but He is. If when we do not live as we should God allowed us to be happy, we would not turn to Him and desire to change, and we all have to.
ThAt said. I am sorry to hear of the problems you have had in the past. I too had problems that led to a really painful childhood. But you know God can heal you of them and use your pain for His good. He can use you to help others and sympathise with them who have pain themselves and are searching for a saviour. But firstly you will need to live according to God's rules. I don't know if you intend to this man. If you are both in love and Christians, you should. But I have found there is no love without trust.
You need to pray a lot about this.; It is not always easy, believe me I know, but your answer is to put God first. If you do I can asure you you will be happy.
People like us who have had problems cannot appear to get away with playing games with God. No-one can but for us the hurt becomes severely acute due to our problems. Someone prayed with me once and said. 'God will not take anymore playing games and hiding behind trees in your life.'
I did play games and suffered greatly for it, don't you. God can heal you, therapy can only help to an extent, but God can completely heal you, but you need to come to him and put him first, or tell him you are willing to, but need his help, he will gladly give it.
I will pray for you, but you do sound somewhat like me a few years ago. At the end of the day your happiness will be determined by your commitment to God, andf I am not talking about earthly perfection, but a willingness to live as he wants, and to give him the place in your life, you deep down know he wants. The longer you fight this, the more unhappy you will become.
But God loves you so much. I threw away love like that for many years, don't you. He will never leave you or reject you, live as he wants, be happy
God Bless.
