How Age Affects Relationships.

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AllysonRose

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So as some know my name is Heather and I have had some dating experiene that i really wish i didnt have.

Please take my advice about this.

I was 12 when i had my first "bf". Now i believe that when your 12 years old you are deff not ready for a relationship with the opposite sex. Its something that is intended to help you find a future spouse.

Im 16 now and between me being 12 and now i have had about 8 relationships, only 2 that i consider serious.

If you aren't ready to get married, then dont go looking for a relationship. I am alot more mature then most 16year olds, so i know that i will not start a relationship with someone unless i can really picture myself with them.

A huge issue alot of people see to is the age thing.

yes, most of my bfs have been 2years-4years older then me. But my maturity is also much higher. As long as you are mature enough to handle it i see nothing wrong with a 16yr old in a relationship with someone who is 19 or maybe even 20.

people say "but that is illeagal" only if you are having sex! and i will NOT have sex before marriage so i see no problem.

I hope you take my advice.

God Bless && Much Love,
Heather Allyson-rose[=
 
MahogonySnail

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girl brain matures about age 23 and guys about 25. Before then, a person can be a totally different person. After those years, you will stay who you are, personalitly wise. So, a 16 girl shouldnt go with a over 25 male. Neither a younger than 25 guy with an over 24 girl. As i'm over 25 i dont look for anyone under 23. But then I'd be ok to go with anyone up to age 35-40 depending upon how wrinkled they are and how much cellulite they have.
 
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lightbliss

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I see it as a you're still a child and he's an adult thing.
 
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ChristianTeen

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I sort-of agree with you, seeing as a couple of my friends date guys 2-4 years older than them. However, they themselves are 18+ years old. It's not a bad thing to date older guys, when you are mature enough. And when you can relate to the things they talk about. For instance, if your boyfriend/girlfriend is in college and you are in highschool, you can't relate to all the challenges, struggles, etc that come with college life. A relationship probably won't last if you can't relate to at least some of the things they are talking about.
 
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lightbliss

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ChristianTeen said:
I sort-of agree with you, seeing as a couple of my friends date guys 2-4 years older than them. However, they themselves are 18+ years old. It's not a bad thing to date older guys, when you are mature enough. And when you can relate to the things they talk about. For instance, if your boyfriend/girlfriend is in college and you are in highschool, you can't relate to all the challenges, struggles, etc that come with college life. A relationship probably won't last if you can't relate to at least some of the things they are talking about.
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Yeah as long as they're both 18+ it's okay ... and a lot less creepy.
 
MahogonySnail

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It's not less creepy if they are over 18 and look 12.
 
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lightbliss

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MahogonySnail said:
It's not less creepy if they are over 18 and look 12.
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So would it be better if they were 12 but looked 18??
Actually as long as they're are 18 then okay.

Also there is nothing wrong with looking younger than your age (if it's natural for you). When everyone else your age is 60 and looks all wrinkled, you'd still look 40 (more or less).

 
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Kay_Kay

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16 isn't so young... but still, I would question a grown man who finds more in common with a 16 year old than his peers. He doesn't need to find "mature" 16 year olds when there are plenty of mature women his own age.
 
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sportygirl

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Kay_Kay said:
16 isn't so young... but still, I would question a grown man who finds more in common with a 16 year old than his peers. He doesn't need to find "mature" 16 year olds when there are plenty of mature women his own age.
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Yeah i agree with this i mean i understand guys like younger girls...girls like older guys, but its slightly depressing when your 20 and all teh guys you want to date are dating 16 year olds....I was a mature 16 year old as well but not mature enough to date a 20 year old, that much i know for sure...things change as you get older,
 
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MahogonySnail said:
girl brain matures about age 23 and guys about 25. Before then, a person can be a totally different person. After those years, you will stay who you are, personalitly wise. So, a 16 girl shouldnt go with a over 25 male. Neither a younger than 25 guy with an over 24 girl. As i'm over 25 i dont look for anyone under 23. But then I'd be ok to go with anyone up to age 35-40 depending upon how wrinkled they are and how much cellulite they have.
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I'm confused
 
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Maddog

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You mean my sister's 15 and 16 year old friends are fair game? That's made my day.
 
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lil-rush

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MahogonySnail said:
girl brain matures about age 23 and guys about 25. Before then, a person can be a totally different person. After those years, you will stay who you are, personalitly wise. So, a 16 girl shouldnt go with a over 25 male. Neither a younger than 25 guy with an over 24 girl. As i'm over 25 i dont look for anyone under 23. But then I'd be ok to go with anyone up to age 35-40 depending upon how wrinkled they are and how much cellulite they have.
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My mom married my dad when he was 21, I believe, and she was 27. They're still married 25 years later.
 
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Kay_Kay

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Is circling the local high school parking lot considered creepy if I'm scouting for mature 15 and 16 year olds?
 
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Kuroko

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Yes Kay_Kay...

I mean if they're mature and all shouldn't they be circling your work scouting for you? :p
 
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BellaFlor

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sportygirl said:
Yeah i agree with this i mean i understand guys like younger girls...girls like older guys, but its slightly depressing when your 20 and all teh guys you want to date are dating 16 year olds....I was a mature 16 year old as well but not mature enough to date a 20 year old, that much i know for sure...things change as you get older,
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That's just more a myth between the genders that girls like older guys and guys like younger girls. It isn't always how it is. My husband tells me that when he was like 17 years old he already thought that if he would have a girlfriend he would like her best if she was his age or some years older than him, since he thought them more mature and wiser. It all depends on the person.
 
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nobadee

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AllysonRose said:
I am alot more mature then most 16year olds
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If only I had a nickel for every time a teenager said that to me. ha ha I'm not saying you aren't; it's just something that I hear often.

At least you are formulating a posture on the differences in ages. You should probably know that over 85% of all relationships before the age of 20 do not last. Now combine that with a 50% divorce rate in the United States and you can see that things are rather bleak in the world of relationships.

Age difference does play a very large role in how people react towards one another and also what they want from a relationship. At 12 - 20 most people simply want affection and lots of it; but, as they mature and establish more of an individual identity in the world, they require more than just affection to stay happy. This is when people start to identify the complexity of their ideal mate, what things they like to do, do they know what humor is and can they solve a simple riddle using common sense?

It's easy for an older guy to want to be with a younger girl; that is because their idea of a relationship is so simplistic! They feel in love and that's all there is too it! What person wouldn't want that, right? If only it were that simple as we grow older and cynical. We want there to be 9,000 dimensions to every one we meet. Suddenly we start to envy the youthful take on love that the younger crowd have; but, it's too late because we are aware now that love is more than a mutual feeling.

Finding the right person is always a work in progress and when you finally meet that right person, it only gets harder. We can never say for sure who is suppose to be with who; unless they are obviously just bad for each other; but, it helps if the two people are on the same page in life.
 
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nobadee

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Kay_Kay said:
Is circling the local high school parking lot considered creepy if I'm scouting for mature 15 and 16 year olds?
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Only if its a woman behind the wheel. rofl :rolleyes:
 
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BellaFlor said:
That's just more a myth between the genders that girls like older guys and guys like younger girls. It isn't always how it is. My husband tells me that when he was like 17 years old he already thought that if he would have a girlfriend he would like her best if she was his age or some years older than him, since he thought them more mature and wiser. It all depends on the person.
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I would prefer finding someone close to my own age, although I wouldn't have a problem if there is a gap between us. With that in mind I've found that the woman my own age aren't interested in me and its the younger women who trip over each other trying to get my attention. Is this the same for all you other guys?

If this is true for the rest of you, I'd like to know why. What am I doing wrong that women my own age don't want me but all the 20 yr olds do. Or am I dong it right? Just general interest more than anything compells my to ask that. Is it just one of those female venusian thing us martian's will never understand?
 
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Narn

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So what do you think about guys marrying girls 5 years older or more than themselves?
 
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lightbliss

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Narn said:
So what do you think about guys marrying girls 5 years older or more than themselves?
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Its different when they're both adults.
 
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