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As I've grown in my faith and have shifted my priorities when it comes to the type of woman I want to be with (and therefore the type of woman I am attracted to) I've started thinking about the way I present myself (and how that affects the kind of women I would attract) and the way women present themselves. Whether it be with makeup or their clothes or their choice of language...etc. Simply put I want to dress modestly and am now more attracted to women who dress modestly as well, but I'm not sure what I should consider modest nowadays.
I've seen people say that "it's about not causing the opposite sex to lust after you". Well even what most women consider modest today would have been considered immodest in the past. Just 100 years ago a girl showing her ankles was considered just as risque and immodest.
So, if what a person considers to be modest and immodest is subjective, where do we (or should we) as Christians draw the line? I know there are specific passages in the Bible that talk of this or that, but it seems like most posts I read everyone kind of has their own idea of what it means. Should I just decide for myself?
Also I was at the beach recently for vacation and I noticed that literally every girl was wearing a bikini. I can't remember it always being like that, and I know this is pretty commonplace in our society today, but do Christian women wear bikinis? They seem very immodest to me, but then again I could be considered immodest wearing thigh shorts and no shirt. So let's say I met a Christian woman who wears bikinis, or even regular clothes that I thought were immodest, is that something that I should just get over? Is that just me being judgmental? Shouldn't she have the say in what she considers to be modest or immodest? I don't know I'm just thinking out loud here now.
I'm just looking for some insight/advice on how I should think about this issue in my personal life. Thanks for reading if you did!
(and yes I know men can be just as immodest, but as a male I am speaking from my POV, so please don't freak out and think I'm acting all high and mighty here as though men can't be immodest, they can be, but again I'm just speaking from a man's POV and what I should look for)
I've seen people say that "it's about not causing the opposite sex to lust after you". Well even what most women consider modest today would have been considered immodest in the past. Just 100 years ago a girl showing her ankles was considered just as risque and immodest.
So, if what a person considers to be modest and immodest is subjective, where do we (or should we) as Christians draw the line? I know there are specific passages in the Bible that talk of this or that, but it seems like most posts I read everyone kind of has their own idea of what it means. Should I just decide for myself?
Also I was at the beach recently for vacation and I noticed that literally every girl was wearing a bikini. I can't remember it always being like that, and I know this is pretty commonplace in our society today, but do Christian women wear bikinis? They seem very immodest to me, but then again I could be considered immodest wearing thigh shorts and no shirt. So let's say I met a Christian woman who wears bikinis, or even regular clothes that I thought were immodest, is that something that I should just get over? Is that just me being judgmental? Shouldn't she have the say in what she considers to be modest or immodest? I don't know I'm just thinking out loud here now.
I'm just looking for some insight/advice on how I should think about this issue in my personal life. Thanks for reading if you did!
(and yes I know men can be just as immodest, but as a male I am speaking from my POV, so please don't freak out and think I'm acting all high and mighty here as though men can't be immodest, they can be, but again I'm just speaking from a man's POV and what I should look for)
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