my step mom hates me

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jsr1221

jsr1221

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Look,
Maybe it's mental abuse, but it's not something like people said that will last forever. And she hasn't hurt me or my siblings.
I fear that if I try to change this situation it will turn out as every single one before this has and I just can't go through that again, and I can't put my siblings through that.
I love my family.
Every one of them my step mom my father whoever no matter what they've done.
But me and my siblings have always had a special relationship. I am their mother. And I'm not letting them go. And I'm not putting them through a hell hole because I wanted a situation to change for me.
If it's me or my family's well being at stake then I'll always save my family.
I love taking care of them and tucking them in at night and if I need to work a little harder to be able to do the then I will.
I have no problem helping pay with the bills or working and going to school or providing food. If that's what needs to be done that is what I will do.

What I have a problem with is living in a space where I have to constantly put my life on hold to please her and earn her love.
But if my family is at risk then I'd rather stay living like that for for years
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It carries on with you the longer you just try and try to deal with it. And now you're contradicting what you said earlier simply because more folks are saying it's not okay to live like this. It's okay to feel the way you do because no one should go through it. But it's not okay to continue to deal with it. Because one day, it will get worse.
 
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jsr1221 said:
It carries on with you the longer you just try and try to deal with it. Again just look at Celebrate Recovery and what the common theme is for folks.
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Sigh........
 
Fenner

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
There is this councelor from a camp I work over the summer and I talk to her.
She often says she wishes she could adopt me buy is not financially capable. She's in college.
She's not technically nearby but she does fly to visit me occasionally.
I also have my pastor
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Good. I didn't know you played violin. How many years have you been playing?
 
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jsr1221 said:
It carries on with you the longer you just try and try to deal with it. Again just look at Celebrate Recovery and what the common theme is for folks.
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I know.....
 
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Fenner said:
Good. I didn't know you played violin. How many years have you been playing?
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OH gosh I haven't counted that in a while I think around 4 or 5 this year
 
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AuntieAnt

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AuntieAnt said:
Natania, Check these links out and contact someone anonymously and see what they have to offer. Or have an adult you trust contact them for you, if you have any anxiety about it.

Family Crisis Center

Community Crisis Connection

Teen Help Resources and Hotlines - Leading Learners

Colorado Crisis Services
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I lived with horrific foster parents who let my siblings and me know every day that we had little value to them. Times were different then. There weren't all the resources they offer today. Please don't remain in that toxic environment. I pray you and your siblings are able to live in a wholesome atmosphere and enjoy some quality of life. God bless & keep you, dear!
 
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AuntieAnt said:
I lived with horrific foster parents who let my siblings and me know every day that we had little value to them. Times were different then. There weren't all the resources they offer today. Please don't remain in that toxic environment. I pray you and your siblings are able to live in a wholesome atmosphere and enjoy some quality of life. God bless & keep you, dear!
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Thank you......
 
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AuntieAnt said:
I lived with horrific foster parents who let my siblings and me know every day that we had little value to them. Times were different then. There weren't all the resources they offer today. Please don't remain in that toxic environment. I pray you and your siblings are able to live in a wholesome atmosphere and enjoy some quality of life. God bless & keep you, dear!
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I did the last website. I am still talking to someone.
They are doing the whole routine where they try to make me feel understood
 
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Now he's asking if I'm depressed think about suicide all of that stuff
I just asked what he will have to report
 
peacenik

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Just as the title says.
I am not overreacting.
I've tried to ask for love from her. All I get is constant hate.
I've tried apologizing and blaming everything on myself instead of her.
I've tried everything.
I'm about done.
What else can I do?
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Here is one very important thing that you can do: to remember that everyone here (especially me!) ​loves you!
 
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peacenik said:
Here is one very important thing that you can do: to remember that everyone here (especially me!) ​loves you!
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Thank you very much peacenik even though you won't let me win -_- :p
 
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