my step mom hates me

[Depleted]

Western Union?

Back in the olden days -- before internet -- when someone needed money but the only people that would give any lived far away, they could send it through Western Union. (The same people who did telegrams for people.) Nowadays, most people send it checking account to checking account through PayPal. But you have to have a checking account and trust the person enough to give away your personal information. Never a good idea online with strangers.

Big surprise. Western Union still sends money. The only sensitive info you have to give out to strangers is where is your local Western Union. They serve a large area, so it might just be as simple as "in Colorado." The other thing needed is the answer to a question so WU knows that money really belongs to you. Personally, I usually tell people that the question is "What's her teddy bear's name?" That way I'm giving out the personal information, (he's Spaulding), not them. And then there is a ID number needed. So, you wouldn't be getting money straight to you from people you don't know in real life. You'd be going to your nearest Western Union location to pick up money. Start reading signs around you. Quite often Western Union locations are in convenience stores and check cashing places.

It's just something no one notices until they need one.

 

[Fenner]

I think that's your step mother talking. If someone keeps telling you that you're a burden, sooner or later, you're going to believe it. At 14 you're supposed to be a very happy burden to carry.

You ain't heavy. You're my sister.

In those days when I was trying to figure out what to do for my little brother this song was a hit. I pass it on to you. (Warning. You will need tissues, because you so get it. And, yeah, the load does weigh us down. That's why we need God.)
[video=youtube;Jl5vi9ir49g]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jl5vi9ir49g[/video]

That makes me want to cry Lynn, I love that song. It's so sweet. My oldest of my three brothers was protective of me. When I was upset about something he'd make me laugh. Or when my parents punished me he'd talk to me about it and make me understand why I shouldn't do that. My Dad had died long before I got married, so he's the one who gave me away.

 

[Depleted]

Ill accept money.. as long as I don't need to give any haha

Me too! lol

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Back in the olden days -- before internet -- when someone needed money but the only people that would give any lived far away, they could send it through Western Union. (The same people who did telegrams for people.) Nowadays, most people send it checking account to checking account through PayPal. But you have to have a checking account and trust the person enough to give away your personal information. Never a good idea online with strangers.

Big surprise. Western Union still sends money. The only sensitive info you have to give out to strangers is where is your local Western Union. They serve a large area, so it might just be as simple as "in Colorado." The other thing needed is the answer to a question so WU knows that money really belongs to you. Personally, I usually tell people that the question is "What's her teddy bear's name?" That way I'm giving out the personal information, (he's Spaulding), not them. And then there is a ID number needed. So, you wouldn't be getting money straight to you from people you don't know in real life. You'd be going to your nearest Western Union location to pick up money. Start reading signs around you. Quite often Western Union locations are in convenience stores and check cashing places.

It's just something no one notices until they need one.

I don't know.....

 

[Demi777]

Me too! lol

*High five
Well so if I catch any spammers who SEND money Ill share with you!!

 

[oyster67]

Well,
Thank you.
We talked for about 30 minutes about fixing my "depressive thinking "
I literally just argued with her.
Poor girl. She has so much patience

Yes, but did she ever once bring God into the equation? If not, then it was she who needed counselling. I suspect that you are far wiser than any of your councilors. Your choice of nickname proves it. You see the bigger picture. Many don't even know that a bigger picture even exists.

(1Cor 15:19 [KJV])
If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable.

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

https://youtu.be/XtmCCNB8wqc


I'm stuck on this song lately
(Magenta if you listen the violin is Lindsey )

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Yes, but did she ever once bring God into the equation? If not, then it was she who needed counselling. I suspect that you are far wiser than any of your councilors. Your choice of nickname proves it. You see the bigger picture. Many don't even know that a bigger picture even exists.

(1Cor 15:19 [KJV])
If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable.

Aw thank you

 

[GodisGlorious]

Hey,

My step mother hated me too. Its difficult enough being a teenager without all the stuff you got going on. My advice would be to keep your head down and stay outta her way as much as possible. And spend a lot of time in prayer and build strong relationship with Christ. Always remember none of the treatment of you is personal or because you are not loveable. Your stepmother is probably struggling with her own baggage, thoughts and stuff and its human nature to blame and dump on the nearest.

Do you go to church? Is there a pastor or someone you can trust there who can help you through this time??

Little things may help too. You're stepmother may be dealing with overwhelm of emotion and duties. And resentment may be present in her thoughts regarding looking after you? Do you help round the house? Sometimes helping can take the pressure off?

I will be praying for you

Remember you have a Lord who loves you no matter what!

Love

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Hey,

My step mother hated me too. Its difficult enough being a teenager without all the stuff you got going on. My advice would be to keep your head down and stay outta her way as much as possible. And spend a lot of time in prayer and build strong relationship with Christ. Always remember none of the treatment of you is personal or because you are not loveable. Your stepmother is probably struggling with her own baggage, thoughts and stuff and its human nature to blame and dump on the nearest.

Do you go to church? Is there a pastor or someone you can trust there who can help you through this time??

Little things may help too. You're stepmother may be dealing with overwhelm of emotion and duties. And resentment may be present in her thoughts regarding looking after you? Do you help round the house? Sometimes helping can take the pressure off?

I will be praying for you

Remember you have a Lord who loves you no matter what!

Love

I go to church when I can yes.
Yes he can help in limited ways.

Yes I do help around the house.

Thank you for your kind words!

 

[jaybird88]

i had a step mom that hated me, she was crazy. she once even stole my football jersey to get me in trouble with the coach, no joke. she did all kind of stuff like that.
but . . .we are close friends now and dont hate each other anymore. so just give it about 20 years and all should work out.

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

i had a step mom that hated me, she was crazy. she once even stole my football jersey to get me in trouble with the coach, no joke. she did all kind of stuff like that.
but . . .we are close friends now and dont hate each other anymore. so just give it about 20 years and all should work out.

Fingers crossed

 

[Fenner]

I hope you're having a good day today Natania.

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

I hope you're having a good day today Natania.

I am having an okay day
Just doing chores and homework
I hope you are also having a good day!

 

[blue_ladybug]

Well, I'm not suggesting you do. Would you accept it from Western Union though?

That won't work. She has to show ID..

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Probably not Lynn....

 

[PeterJens]

Natania, I am just saying simply what you are sharing is very painful.

You are a very accomplished 14 year old and as my 17 year old would say, what are
you doing on cc - your friendship group, should be the place of your real focus.

You are taking on responsibility as a parent for a situation you are not meant to cope
with. It leads to so much damage and scars. If I could I would take you out of such
a situation, but I know life is not that simple.

How is your pastor and church support? I am sure a lot of people either do not
understand or want to get involved, because it is so complex and volatile.

One young man in our church at 16 left home because the lack of acceptance of
his view of life and the way the family was living was just too different.

One of the problems of these forums is there are many trolls who appear as one
thing but play a different game. One pretended to be a woman in an affair with an
abusive partner, and how she could not leave his influence.

I wish you well, but there is so much more in the real world and in the people of God
when you have real open fellowship one to one. So I would recommend you find contact
there and ask the Lord to show you someone who you can share with.

You have nothing to prove to me, but so much of this is just not appropriate, and advice
cannot be given without knowing so much more. I pray and hope the Lord shows you
His love and depth of care in this difficult place you find yourself in.

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Natania, I am just saying simply what you are sharing is very painful.

You are a very accomplished 14 year old and as my 17 year old would say, what are
you doing on cc - your friendship group, should be the place of your real focus.

You are taking on responsibility as a parent for a situation you are not meant to cope
with. It leads to so much damage and scars. If I could I would take you out of such
a situation, but I know life is not that simple.

How is your pastor and church support? I am sure a lot of people either do not
understand or want to get involved, because it is so complex and volatile.

One young man in our church at 16 left home because the lack of acceptance of
his view of life and the way the family was living was just too different.

One of the problems of these forums is there are many trolls who appear as one
thing but play a different game. One pretended to be a woman in an affair with an
abusive partner, and how she could not leave his influence.

I wish you well, but there is so much more in the real world and in the people of God
when you have real open fellowship one to one. So I would recommend you find contact
there and ask the Lord to show you someone who you can share with.

You have nothing to prove to me, but so much of this is just not appropriate, and advice
cannot be given without knowing so much more. I pray and hope the Lord shows you
His love and depth of care in this difficult place you find yourself in.

My pastor is good.
I haven't told him fully about the home situation, but I probably will after seeing the things people said to my situation. He comes back tomorrow anyway.

Yes, I understand the whole trolls matter.
All we can do is pray for them.
I understand why you might have doubts but I am not here to try to make anyone believe my situation :/
I assure you (and you can choose to believe this or not) I am not a troll.


Thank you for all of your advice!

 

[TemporaryCircumstances]

Tomorrow is the 21st correct?

 

[Ariel82]

For the USA, that is correct.