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Your right its easy to say now that im over the addiction . My porn addiction was the worst , tubes, torrents, warez sites, what made it so bad was i had a few porn sites that were making good money so every day it was the same ole song . Now that im over it I have learned to appreciate women better .
start with putting all your porn magazines
videos in the trash where they belong if you have to put computer in a well traveled area of your house like living room so you have less privacy turn data off your cell phone this is addiction so the less chance you have to watch the better chance you have to be rid of this addiction the harder it is for you to behave this way the better it will to work on stopping it go for walks when you get the urge to watch porn or do pushups or something to distract yourself
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"Resist the DEVIL and He Will Flee." Also, "Make no Provision For The FLESH." This means you CAN fight the urge/desire. Each time you RESIST,you are closer to "Overcoming" and if you have to keep repenting, TURNING FROM SIN, REPEAT THE SIN, REPENT, AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN,.THEN SO BE IT. I KNOW YOU CAN GET FREE. IF YOU TRULY DESIRE TO. SEARCH FOR EVERY SCRIPTURE OT/NT THAT ADMONISHES US TURN,TURN AWAY FROM BEHOLDING EVIL. WRITE THEM OUT, CARRY THEM WITH YOU. LOOK AT THEM A.S.A.P. WHENEVER YOUR THOUGHTS TURN TO WICKEDNESS. YOU must desire GOD WITH EVERYTHING IN YOU. PRAY AND ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU PEACE AND FREEDOM. I AM PRAYING GOD WILL ANSWER MY PRAYER FOR YOU TOO!
I've never thought of it as an addiction, but rather a natural desire. You don't have to watch it daily, you choose to watch it daily. Sounds like a bad habit, not an addiction?
Everyone battles the flesh, you bring it under subjection via the spirit and intellect. You think about it, dwell on it, lust for it, desire it, and then give in to it. The reason God provided wives was to fulfill those needs, the problem is that your not content with just that. Its like an over-weight person battling food, the struggle against the flesh is to control those impulses and not let them dictate what we do. We turn ourselves over to perversions by dwelling on them, King David wasn't content to see a pretty girl, he let himself become consumed and had to have her (lust).
When Jesus went into the wilderness, he overcame the devil, the flesh, and the world. Imagine going 40 days without food and having the power to resist commanding stones be made into bread. That's a powerful example of overcoming the flesh (hunger) via the spirit. You might try overcoming your sexual desires by fasting, after 4 or 5 days without food, you'll be so consumed with hunger that you won't think about sex. Defeat the habit and then exercise self-discipline...jmo
You've created pathways in your brain that lead you to this coping mechanism. Probably came out of some insecurity or painful feeling. Porn isn't the problem... same as spoons don't make people fat. My guess is that you use it to escape anxiety or depression. You are unable to process emotional pain in a healthy ways and you turn to an external source for relief from your pain.
I've struggled with this (not porn, but lust). Don't use your phone or computer unless someone else can see what you are doing. Find a hobby that you love and spend your time doing that instead. Get some inspiring Christian music! Also, you could look into some therapy. Most people are afraid to see a therapist because they feel that those services are only for crazy people, but it is actually very freeing to share your problems. I think that you should tell your wife. I understand how terrifying that might sound, but it will be very helpful. When I was 11, I had to tell my conservative, Christian parents that I struggled with homosexual attractions. When I finally got up the courage to tell them, they did everything that they could to help and they just kept reminding me how much they loved me. 11 years later, I am still fighting, but the efforts that they took made my life much easier. I will be praying for you!
No. No one is really ready for this if they are hearing all sorts of things to try (that they haven't yet even given any consideration, or tried). He will need to go give some of these things a try first. When he goes through that phase, and finds a dozen, or so things that don't work, THEN he will be nearer to give the rather substantial investment in time, and a little money that I will recommend.
Brother, partner yourself with someone who has a victory in this area. Ask God to send you somebody who has this detestable habit mastered. It takes an 'Accountability' friend to achieve some wins and victories. Most men make the horrible mistake by fighting by themselves and even though this is commendable it more than likely can end in a failure. Cold Turkey to me is the best prescribe approach, but you have to replace porn with Ministry. Ministry is a way of telling God,"I hate this evil habit so much I am willing to enslave myself to your every command" This strategy has life changing results. Then later you yourself mentor someone who has gotten snared by the same perversion. This is your weakness like many others here and it could be the very thing that keeps you under the wings of the Lord, meaning you cannot afford to stray far from God DUE TO YOUR WEAKNESS...
2 Corinthians 12:9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Other then that...fight and keep fighting because its by porn that Satan tares apart families, but you have Gods word, Christ on the inside and the Holy Spirit to coach you, but brother I say to you, FIGHT!
2 Corinthians 12:9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Other then that...fight and keep fighting because its by porn that Satan tares apart families, but you have Gods word, Christ on the inside and the Holy Spirit to coach you, but brother I say to you, FIGHT!
Before you get your head so far up your behind that you can't pull it back out, use the SEARCH function, and see what I have suggested to many men here. And you just might run across the post where I said I would pay for it myself, if they felt their small investment of $10 was not worth the book I suggested purchasing.
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The best way that I have heard of to overcome this problem is to start with a Christian accountability partner. Someone who understands and can be there and talk to you when the temptation arises. I've said this many times before, but God wants you to let people into your life who can help.
Our church has a men's group to deal with this problem. It was started by a few individuals, and it ministers to many men. Then you need to put child controls on your computer, so you simply cannot access these sites on the internet.
And most important, you do need to dig into the Bible, and prayer. But, don't end up feeling like you have failed God when you cannot resist, but rather talk to your accountability partner, and get them to pray with you. A mentor would also help, but you have to be open and trust them.
This is sadly a very big issue in our society. It is something that does not happen in our homes partly because we are older and porn was always seen as a huge and disgusting obscenity, and my husband never even looked at this kind of smut. But also, because we have always trusted God in our marriage and in our lives.
I do agree that your wife needs to know. But you need to be in the overcoming stage, and have made considerable progress. Praying you find someone or a team to help you overcome this addiction.
PS It is an addiction, because it changes the pleasure responses in the brain, and makes it so you need it in your life. That may mean going through withdrawal, because I do believe cold turkey is the way to go. Why keep feeding this addiction, maybe less, but still doing it. Get a program together of when the child controls go on your computer, when you are going to meet regularly with an accountability partner and get started! It can be overcome!
Our church has a men's group to deal with this problem. It was started by a few individuals, and it ministers to many men. Then you need to put child controls on your computer, so you simply cannot access these sites on the internet.
And most important, you do need to dig into the Bible, and prayer. But, don't end up feeling like you have failed God when you cannot resist, but rather talk to your accountability partner, and get them to pray with you. A mentor would also help, but you have to be open and trust them.
This is sadly a very big issue in our society. It is something that does not happen in our homes partly because we are older and porn was always seen as a huge and disgusting obscenity, and my husband never even looked at this kind of smut. But also, because we have always trusted God in our marriage and in our lives.
I do agree that your wife needs to know. But you need to be in the overcoming stage, and have made considerable progress. Praying you find someone or a team to help you overcome this addiction.
PS It is an addiction, because it changes the pleasure responses in the brain, and makes it so you need it in your life. That may mean going through withdrawal, because I do believe cold turkey is the way to go. Why keep feeding this addiction, maybe less, but still doing it. Get a program together of when the child controls go on your computer, when you are going to meet regularly with an accountability partner and get started! It can be overcome!