update on having a long talk with hubby
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I got to get in this. Blue lady, feel free to blast me if you wish.
Divorce is nothing more than an instrument to marry another person and not run afoul of bigomy laws that are generally punished as a felony crime in most jurisdictions. The thing is that Jesus said if you divorce your spouse and marry another, it's adultry. Paul wrote that if your spouse isn't a believer but is willing to stay, you should stay. God stated he hates divorce. Before anyone goes all old testament about being able to divorce, read what Jesus said about that when asked by the pharasees. He told them Moses permitted it. Jesus didn't say God permitted it. Jesus stated you could divorce for adulry, but does that really give you authority to remarry? Blue lady is right, separation and divorce is different. If you are being physically abused get safe, but it doesn't require a divorce. Jesus said it would be hard for people to accept, but the goal is not happiness, it's to be Holy.
Divorce is nothing more than an instrument to marry another person and not run afoul of bigomy laws that are generally punished as a felony crime in most jurisdictions. The thing is that Jesus said if you divorce your spouse and marry another, it's adultry. Paul wrote that if your spouse isn't a believer but is willing to stay, you should stay. God stated he hates divorce. Before anyone goes all old testament about being able to divorce, read what Jesus said about that when asked by the pharasees. He told them Moses permitted it. Jesus didn't say God permitted it. Jesus stated you could divorce for adulry, but does that really give you authority to remarry? Blue lady is right, separation and divorce is different. If you are being physically abused get safe, but it doesn't require a divorce. Jesus said it would be hard for people to accept, but the goal is not happiness, it's to be Holy.
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1 Corinthians 7:12-16 ESV / 3 helpful votes
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
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Other marriage verses..for anyone interested...
1 Peter 3:7 ESV
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Romans 7:3 ESV
Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
Romans 7:2 ESV
For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage.
Ephesians 5:28 ESV
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33 ESV
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1-40 ESV
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ..
1 Peter 3:7 ESV
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Romans 7:3 ESV
Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
Romans 7:2 ESV
For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage.
Ephesians 5:28 ESV
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33 ESV
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1-40 ESV
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ..
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I strongly recommend this book on Christian marriage
You and Me Forever
It's a free download by Francis Chan and his wife
You and Me Forever
It's a free download by Francis Chan and his wife
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Jennifer, I really hope you've learned to divide the advice given to you by now. You are getting some help. (I'm praying for God to make himself clear to you through his word only, because this one is something you do have to decide without help from the choir online.) Just don't count personal bias as advice.