Honestly, by 11 all my buddies at least KNEW it existed. Most had dealt with it a lot. I'd really encourage you to get that book Willie talked about. Read it for you and really focus on the last section. My parents weren't stable. No disrespect intended, they just weren't. My dad introduced me to porn. It was just absolutely nothing to him. Even after she got saved my mom wasn't super stable and her thought process was "oh my gosh what will people think". Heaping shame on does no good.
If you can instill in your son NOW a desire to protect rather than use women...he will thank you forever. I'm not saying don't use precautions and shelter your kids but deal with the bigger picture too.
I'm happy. I really am. I feel like God took me down a road and yes, I made mistakes but I sort of feel like He is putting it all together to use. But by most peoples standards...my life is screwed. If I can type awkward things and help people keep themselves or their kids from sitting where I sit...I'm good with that lol
This kid that used to live a couple houses us from us had a Father that was sexist and what I call a pig. When this boy was boy was about 8 or 9 his unmarried parents who once told me that they were common law married, they got their tax return so they went on a shopping spree. The kid came over to play with my Son and he had a WWE book with him. We don't watch that but I didn't think much of it, until the boy called me over opened up a page to a woman in a bikini and said look at that. Isn't she hot? I was flustered, the kid is 8 or 9 and telling his friends Mom about a woman in a bikini. I said, buddy (not his real name) you know I don't like this kind of stuff. I asked him, do you think she's pretty? And he said yes. I said, okay, it's fine to think someone is pretty but what she's doing here isn't pretty or nice. She's showing off her body for money and that's not good for her. He said his Dad had a Calendar of women in bikinis and his Mom didn't care. I said that's between your parents and your house but would you want your little Sister to grow up and do this kind of stuff? He said, no. I said I'd like you take that book home and don't bring it here again, ok? Okay.
They moved shortly after that. I feel for the kid, but honestly I was relieved. There was always something going on with the parents. The Dad drank a lot and my Husband was rebuilding our front porch and he wanted to help and bring over beer. He kept pestering my Husband and finally Dave said, I don't want a buzzed person helping me do this ok? They pushed us to all levels of losing our patience. The good thing for the kids was that they lived with her parents and the Grandparents were normal and did majority of the parenting.