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Like others have said it depends what the issue is and also if I'm alone or trying to save face.
How do you cry?
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Oh, I know Mark Hamill isn't gay. He's one of the few Hollywood people with a good, long-lasting marriage. I was talking about some other actor...
*cough* Richard Chamberlain *cough*
But that meme really did a good job of showing what I felt.
i gave up face saving.
my reputation is in tatters, anyway (lol), and i'm so tired of the mask wearing.
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Amazing-Grace
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i'm old, so the *cough* guy was sad for me.
I'm just into old movies.
But his character in Shogun actually does remind me of an older, mature Luke Skywalker. Alexander McKeag was perfect, though. 
That was one of the few stories where I actually wanted to cry.
I don't cry over soppy things like most women do.... But underneath that Tempremental and fiery red hair and personality of mine is a very sensitive and emotional
heart....I Try to save my tears, but once I start crying.......Waaaaahhh lol
But I would rather die than be caught crying....I find Crying in front of anyone highly... Embarrassing :/
heart....I Try to save my tears, but once I start crying.......Waaaaahhh lol
But I would rather die than be caught crying....I find Crying in front of anyone highly... Embarrassing :/
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Yahweh_is_gracious
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Although it doesn't work on many occasions as evidenced by my lashing out and my smug and smart-alec replies in some situations, I do actually try very hard to keep a tight grip on my emotions. I heard too often growing up "don't cry you pussy", from "friends" and even from my own parents, so I took that to mean that I shouldn't express emotions. By and large, I don't, or at least not in front of other people, and if something saddens me or makes me upset, the only response a person is likely to get out of me is anger to get them away from me. I'll deal with my sadness in solitude. I'd much rather people in this world dislike me so much they leave me alone entirely than to ever risk openly talking about what bothers me and appearing to be an actual human being.
I wake up some nights with a wet pillow from crying in my sleep, but I never have any memory of what I was crying about. Probably something I sequestered away in my subconscious.
I wake up some nights with a wet pillow from crying in my sleep, but I never have any memory of what I was crying about. Probably something I sequestered away in my subconscious.
yes, i dont think anyone enjoys crying at all-). i didnt use to cry esp in my early marriage yrs. During the last 2 or so, however, i found myself needing to be by myself more often though, for i dont remember crying in another's shoulder at all. it was always alone in a room, then suddenly wiping away the tears or blowing the nose when someone comes in! or just leaving so ppl dont know i cried.
crying when so overwhelmed or finding something too funny is different however. but that is quite rare.
When i mentioned to eye doc once that i could not cry (or no tears that was, for some time), he said to watch telenovellas..-) but i didnt care to. He gave some eye drops for dry eyes, but i doubt watching would have helped.. eyes may just have hurt more, i wonder.
Sure going expressionless would be hard to maintain.
I've never cried watching a telenovela. I can only recall tears actually falling when I watched two movies; The wind that shakes the Barley (which I hated) and Million Dollar Baby. I've teared up to some other movies, but not to the point of them falling.
But I may suggest watching the first two episodes of the 1978 mini series Centennial. I actually regret not crying to that. Maybe you will do better, though.
I enjoy a good cry after a particularly sad song about Jesus or an uplifting testimony. I most definitely prefer not to be seen though
you're just 4 years older than my eldest, so i hope you don't mind that, in a motherly fashion, i find this crushingly heartbreaking.
really, in a human to human fashion!
does anyone have a hypothesis on why people find it embarrassing to cry in front of others?
even those closest to us? like, why are we okay with being angry and letting people see it, but not crying?
is it that grief is so deeply personal? or we don't want pity?
i think in some cultures it's considered okay to cry... is that right?
even those closest to us? like, why are we okay with being angry and letting people see it, but not crying?
is it that grief is so deeply personal? or we don't want pity?
i think in some cultures it's considered okay to cry... is that right?
For me it's because usually I'm crying when I'm at my weakest. When all the stress and resentment and anger have finally finally build up so much that they break the restrains I've put on them. So yes,it is very personal. And then if there are people around, they want to know why you're crying, and the reason is one I would rather not say.
But I don't even like being around other people when they are crying, as insensitive as that sounds. It just feels so awkward. I know that if I were in their place, I would rather be ignored and given my space, but then what of that person would rather be comforted or something?
The exceptions, or course, are crying at movies, since that's really not personal and it doesn't happen hardly ever in my family anyway.
But my mom is very open about crying. Really, she cries all the time, anywhere. It's a little annoying, but I try to remind myself that she has every right to cry whenever she feels like it. Yes, I am insensitive.