Please pray for my family. I have not shown my husband God's love at all throughout our 2 yrs of marriage in just seeing that as divorce has been brought up. I have countlessly nagged him , woke him up early while I was angry (only time he is home) and try to put things in his face that he needs to help us out with, and bring up that I'm terrified of him going to hell . I also have not trusted him at all due to my past issues . This has taken a toll on both of us. On the other hand, my husband does not spend time with our daughter due to school and work full time . She barely knows him. He tends to play a games or eat dinner with me yet not be a husband but a roommate. I want to keep our marriage but he has given us a week to decide if this will work or not . If I am not here 100% with him: trusting , honest, respectful of his beliefs - he does not want me.
Please pray for God's will to be done.
Also any advice would be great. I didn't have the best romodels (not an excuse) Any advice to save my marriage I would be grateful for
Hi Callie dear, I see that you’ve started four different threads regarding your husband giving you an ultimatum about your marriage. My heart goes out to you in that you say you have no role models.
Jesus Christ is our only role model. He says, "Treat people the way you want to be treated," and "Love one another." He would never have us nagging people about going to hell. As soon as we start creating rules and regulations for others, we are in error. Jesus didn’t come to condemn people but to make them free from guilt and shame. You have shamed your husband for two years that he’s not good enough as he is, and that he should live according to your standards. It’s a miracle of grace that he’s giving you a week to stop humiliating and condemning him.
Jesus was strongly opposed to the way the Pharisees inflicted their rules & regulations on others. Putting religious demands on people is the exact opposite of being a living testimony of the love of God. I don’t know what kind of church you attend, but if they’re teaching you to preach the hell out of folks, they are in error. All your husband has heard for the last two years is that neither you nor God accepts him as he is, that he is unlovable, unapproved of, and that he should change himself according to your “holy” standards. That would shatter my heart to pieces as a mother if any of my children were treated that way by their spouse. I would not want them to live in that environment.
I always advise people in marital conflict to get professional counseling ASAP. But you have only six days to show your husband how sincerely sorry you are about condemning him. He has given you a week to prove you genuinely love him. The only way you can do that is to believe in your own heart that Christ loves us as we are, your husband included. And find another church or support group that teaches the life of joyous liberty we have in Christ Jesus.
I’m praying for you & your precious family, dear sister. Nothing is impossible with God. Trust the LORD, don't put your trust in man's rules & regulations. The LORD is faithful and true.
