Financial matters in marriage

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Who should handle the income in the family?

  • Wife

    Votes: 2 25.0%
  • Husband

    Votes: 3 37.5%
  • Each spouse handle his own money

    Votes: 3 37.5%

  • Total voters
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#2
LOL, in my world the perfect plan is give my money to the wife and she handles everything :) I seriously don't know what is paid into my bank account every month. To me money is not important but we always discuss large expenses...
 
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constantinr

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#3
Until this year I havent even considered marriage an option. Since I became a christian its obviously the only option. With girlfriends before I never wanted to cohabitate, pull incomes together (liked my independence). When I will marry I think I will want to handle the financial matters. Which doesnt means I will not listen to my wife, the final decision will be up to me though.
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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#4
It depends on whether or not she is rich. I'm totally okay with being a kept man and letting her keep tabs on her trust fund. No worries.
 

Tinkerbell725

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Until this year I havent even considered marriage an option. Since I became a christian its obviously the only option. With girlfriends before I never wanted to cohabitate, pull incomes together (liked my independence). When I will marry I think I will want to handle the financial matters. Which doesnt means I will not listen to my wife, the final decision will be up to me though.

You will listen to your wife but the final decision will be up to you. Did you mean that even if the wife does not approve the final decision will still be up to you? Would it be better if you both agree on the best decision?
 
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constantinr

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You will listen to your wife but the final decision will be up to you. Did you mean that even if the wife does not approve the final decision will still be up to you? Would it be better if you both agree on the best decision?
Ideally yes, of course. But the final decision will be mine regardless of her approval. It's just when I get married I will take care of the family. I will provide and I will plan (together with wife of course) where we are going as a family. I have always been like this and the girls also liked this. So no need to change this I believe. Besides women are emotional beings. This is not to put them down, its just a fact. And financial decisions (especially big ones) are better dealt with cold hard logic.
 
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#7
He handles the income... she enjoys the outcome...:rolleyes:

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Ariel82

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#11
We make joint decisions on big items (mostly biking and camping gear recently), Christmas presents, etc. I do most of the grocery shopping, kids clothes.he has our bills on direct pay from our checking account. I occasionally have to write checks for health bills.
 

mailmandan

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My wife mainly handles the finances and does a great job! One thing I have discovered though--"the more I make, the more she spends, so why row the boat harder only to get the same distance?" :eek:
 
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kaylagrl

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#13
Ideally yes, of course. But the final decision will be mine regardless of her approval. It's just when I get married I will take care of the family. I will provide and I will plan (together with wife of course) where we are going as a family. I have always been like this and the girls also liked this. So no need to change this I believe.Besides women are emotional beings. This is not to put them down, its just a fact. And financial decisions (especially big ones) are better dealt with cold hard logic.

Quote "Besides women are emotional beings. This is not to put them down, its just a fact. And financial decisions (especially big ones) are better dealt with cold hard logic."

This is a generalization and doesn't always hold true. With my parents my father is the one who spends unwisely and my mother worries over the bills. I was staying at their house the other day and the water suddenly went off. When she checked into it,my father hadn't paid the water bill in two months. He's made several big purchases that were a mistake that my mother warned him of. So no, it doesn't always hold true that men are better with money and decisions.In my marriage my husband pays the bills but all decisions about how the income is spent is made between us.
 

wolfwint

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Who should handle the income in the family?
Good question, when i am in the supermarket, i see the most time that the womans are paying the bill, while the man carry the stuff :)
In our marrige I manage most time the money (and let my wife carry the stuff). The man should have the responsibility, who is handling with the money is sometimes a question of the ability. My wife dont like to handle with it. In greater and important things we decide together, and i must confess in the most times my wife has more the overview than me.
 

Tinkerbell725

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#15
Quote "Besides women are emotional beings. This is not to put them down, its just a fact. And financial decisions (especially big ones) are better dealt with cold hard logic."

This is a generalization and doesn't always hold true. With my parents my father is the one who spends unwisely and my mother worries over the bills. I was staying at their house the other day and the water suddenly went off. When she checked into it,my father hadn't paid the water bill in two months. He's made several big purchases that were a mistake that my mother warned him of. So no, it doesn't always hold true that men are better with money and decisions.In my marriage my husband pays the bills but all decisions about how the income is spent is made between us.
So whoever is the wise spender or better with money should handle the finances. Because not in all financial decisions you have time to discuss with your partner, only the major ones.
 

Tinkerbell725

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#16
My wife mainly handles the finances and does a great job! One thing I have discovered though--"the more I make, the more she spends, so why row the boat harder only to get the same distance?" :eek:
Accounting is complicated and stressful so better let the wife handle it. Good choice! ;)
 
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#17
With everyday expenses we don't consult because that is just not necessary (in my view) but when it get to things a bit more expensive we consult, price shop, consult again and then..... pull the trigger :p
 
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#18
Accounting is complicated and stressful so better let the wife handle it. Good choice! ;)
Mailman Dan should get the award for the wisest man on CC because he knows that a happy wife make life easier :D

I am an accountant but my wife balance the bank account :p