Dating a Christian Man
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Ultimatum77
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Hopefully you didn't uncover some of the BDF litter
some of those zombie never die threads get full of rage.....and then people leave for a few mins then resume raging on the same thread again lol....usually people come to SoC thread and say "oh man bdf is such a nightmare" then the same person is seen 5 min later in BDF swashbuckling away like a buccaneer with a cutlass....lol too funny....
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NewWine
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My parents gave me good advice when choosing "men" to date (I was a teen at the time so the word men was used loosely then). Mama said a good man is tough as nails on the outside and soft inside when it comes to the lady he loves. My daddy said watch how a man treats his mama, someone smaller than he, and children; that will tell you a lot about him.
As for a man being a strong Christian, well a lot of men will surprise you as you learn their true hearts, both good and bad surprises. Don't leap with your eyes shut. In fact, don't leap at all, but grow into things. It's not a sprint after all.
As for a man being a strong Christian, well a lot of men will surprise you as you learn their true hearts, both good and bad surprises. Don't leap with your eyes shut. In fact, don't leap at all, but grow into things. It's not a sprint after all.
He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much; and he who is unjust in what is least is unjust also in much.
Lu 16:10 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/luk.16.10.NKJV
A righteous man regards the life of his animal, But the tender mercies of the wicked are cruel.
Pr 12:10 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.12.10.NKJV
That's what I tell my girls. Watch how he treats those who can't defend themselves against him.
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HisHolly
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HisHolly
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Newine has a great point: its not a sprint. And your folks were right, especially your dad. How he treats his sister, mom and people he interacts with daily, is a useful indicator.
You'd be surprised how many times I've heard people in an office setting (during my software support days) utter comments like, "No way! He's a Christian?? You mean he actually goes to church?" They will be discussing a person whom it appears has "come out as a closet Christian" [emphasis on "closet" as it appears the Christian life style has somehow never seen the light of day]. People must be able to say something about his fruit. So many men (women too) are sadly Christian in name only.
So potential is great. really awesome. In fact I'd even recommend potential if "he" happens to be a Jack Russell or Border collie pup. Otherwise decide before hand that you want fruit.
Humble yourself before the Lord and He will hook you up.
You'd be surprised how many times I've heard people in an office setting (during my software support days) utter comments like, "No way! He's a Christian?? You mean he actually goes to church?" They will be discussing a person whom it appears has "come out as a closet Christian" [emphasis on "closet" as it appears the Christian life style has somehow never seen the light of day]. People must be able to say something about his fruit. So many men (women too) are sadly Christian in name only.
So potential is great. really awesome. In fact I'd even recommend potential if "he" happens to be a Jack Russell or Border collie pup. Otherwise decide before hand that you want fruit.
Humble yourself before the Lord and He will hook you up.
Can Roh, Lynx, Zero, Ultimatum77 and I take this as a compliment? I know we may be really stretching its original intent but it would brighten our day somewhat. Sorry. Gotta keep beating that pride. Its an Alpha male thingI repent.... *sackcloth n ashes
You are really humble and proud to say it. Lol! That goes to all CC men who are worthy of respect.
You are funny. I meant it btw so don't burst his bubble.
I have observed that digging up has become a habit of yours.
What if the mother is abusive? How do you deal with that? Can you blame him if he wants to stay away to preserve his sanity? How he treats women in general should be more appropriate becasue Mama's boys who are only concerned in pleasing their mothers more than pleasing their wives are also disgusting.
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NewWine
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Staying with an abusive mother is enabling her, not showing her respect and love.....Abuse is not love.
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Ultimatum77
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"Humble yourself before the Lord and He will hook you up" lol brother you are hilarious now you're redoing Bible verses ;D
Blasphemy! You have a good eye to notice his subtle way of twisting the scripture. Lol!
And I thought that I was just giving that phrase a context.
I plead "not guilty" maam. Please put away those rocks and ask the crowd (Ultimatum et al) to return to their homes.
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Ultimatum77
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And I thought that I was just giving that phrase a context.
Lol, what version of the Bible are you reading bro? B/c I can't even google that verse as being in the Bible?
I'm just kidding man, I don't throw rocks by the way, I throw boulders....like Arnold...jk.....no throwing anything at fellow believers....well except the Word of God when needed lol.....
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jeremyPJ
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I have to admit this is part of the reason I quit going to the church I attended. I found that the men weren't exhibiting Christian behavior (well, most of them). Many of the women did, but not all. I was actually quite disappointed. Especially with Pastors, and one leader of a Wed. night prayer session.
It made me question things, even made me feel doubtful of, things. Hard to explain.
And the funny thing was they put so much emphasis on Sundays, of not just being a Christian on Sunday, but every day.
"shrugs shoulder, extending hand/arm like what the heck?"
I feel better worshiping him at home, in my room when I feel the need. I do need to read the good book more often.
It made me question things, even made me feel doubtful of, things. Hard to explain.
And the funny thing was they put so much emphasis on Sundays, of not just being a Christian on Sunday, but every day.
"shrugs shoulder, extending hand/arm like what the heck?"
I feel better worshiping him at home, in my room when I feel the need. I do need to read the good book more often.
Yeah, men like that sometimes are really going to church to find a good woman, not to be a good man. And it shows. :/
You are called to follow Christ, not Christians. Consider a new church or just shine where God puts you. At least invest as much time in finding a fellowship as you would in buying a home. The word says that your to "give ' yourself continually to the disciplines of the faith, not when you feel the need or maybe more often.
And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.
Heb 10:24*-25 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/heb.10.24-25.NKJV
And they continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, in the breaking of bread, and in prayers.
Ac 2:42 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/act.2.42.NKJV
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.
1Jo 4:20*-21 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/1jn.4.20-21.NKJV
Indifference is the opposite of love.
You're half right. You left out the, "your own personal walk and holiness part." The closer that YOU walk with the Lord the less appealing the disingenuous believer will be to y you. And the less you will be around them, bc, YOU will be where you're supposed to be. God bless you in your own personal walk.