getting ready to make a break for it i can not deal with the abuse anymore!!!!
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If you have some chocolate, eat a piece before reading this, because you're going to hate the idea and get a sour taste just reading it.
No, seriously. Eat chocolate before reading the rest.
Okay, now take a deep breath.
Ready? You're going to hate this but read the whole idea and consider it before dismissing it.
Your mom isn't a pleasant person, but she's good enough to take care of your daughter? Can you hack living with her for two years? And, if you can, would she let you move in?
Because you have a mom, she has your daughter, and your daughter is 16, so she's leaving in two years one way or another. (Kids are itching to get out of tough homes ASAP, so she will leave then.) I know it may not give you any more peace to move in with your mom, but you need a place to stay until you can get the degree, and she's not your husband, so you won't have to live with what you have now. And, obviously, you don't get along with your mom, but can you survive her? This seems like a possible way of repairing the relationship with your daughter a bit and keep you both sheltered. And "only two years."
In two years, you'll be done college and your daughter will be, at least, ready to go out on her own, so you'll be more settled in to your own life with a better possibility of giving your daughter a better place to live if the thing keeping her off the handle is the family relationship. (Also, be aware she is 16, so she won't be easy to reach at this stage, but better time trying with her than not being able to try at all because you're struggling.) Sometimes we can only start for lasting relationships, and if you wait until you are settled, your daughter is already on her own.
This seems like it won't be much better, but at least it gives you the time and, maybe, the safety you need until you are ready.
Sometimes we're left with "This sucks, this is suckier, and this is the suckiest." You're already in suckiest. Which sucks less -- living with your mom AND daughter or struggling on your own by starting over from scratch?
(And eat more chocolate after thinking that one over to calm down and remember sometimes life is good enough to give us chocolate.)
No, seriously. Eat chocolate before reading the rest.
Okay, now take a deep breath.
Ready? You're going to hate this but read the whole idea and consider it before dismissing it.
Your mom isn't a pleasant person, but she's good enough to take care of your daughter? Can you hack living with her for two years? And, if you can, would she let you move in?
Because you have a mom, she has your daughter, and your daughter is 16, so she's leaving in two years one way or another. (Kids are itching to get out of tough homes ASAP, so she will leave then.) I know it may not give you any more peace to move in with your mom, but you need a place to stay until you can get the degree, and she's not your husband, so you won't have to live with what you have now. And, obviously, you don't get along with your mom, but can you survive her? This seems like a possible way of repairing the relationship with your daughter a bit and keep you both sheltered. And "only two years."
In two years, you'll be done college and your daughter will be, at least, ready to go out on her own, so you'll be more settled in to your own life with a better possibility of giving your daughter a better place to live if the thing keeping her off the handle is the family relationship. (Also, be aware she is 16, so she won't be easy to reach at this stage, but better time trying with her than not being able to try at all because you're struggling.) Sometimes we can only start for lasting relationships, and if you wait until you are settled, your daughter is already on her own.
This seems like it won't be much better, but at least it gives you the time and, maybe, the safety you need until you are ready.
Sometimes we're left with "This sucks, this is suckier, and this is the suckiest." You're already in suckiest. Which sucks less -- living with your mom AND daughter or struggling on your own by starting over from scratch?
(And eat more chocolate after thinking that one over to calm down and remember sometimes life is good enough to give us chocolate.)
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well I've been called enough names lately to want to kick a can down the road
and cecile was one of those who took liberties...
growing up, I got everything blamed on me...at least it felt that way...I used to say 'if there is an earthquake in Uruguay, you'll blame me for that too I suppose...my mother did not know where that country was and it always evoked an exasperated look...
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Good Idea but it will not work she also has my little brother who is also little living there he is like 29 or something that entire suggestion although good is very bad... I have actually been around my daughter the whole time It i just my mom kept her from seeing me very much for the first 12 years because well she is down right obnoxious... I was not allowed to see my daughter unsupervised because she knew I would tell my daughter the truth about anything and everything and my mother lies and lies and made myself and her father look like horrible people who abandoned her. She basically brain washed my child and alienated her from me and her father as best as she could until her older sister finally convinced my youngest daughter other wise... well that is just a short version of that situation.. So the suggestions is good if i was on even a bit of better terms with her but right at this point I would rather stay were i am at over that and that is pretty sad.... I pick my daughter up and keep her as often as I can and as long as I can now... she stays for weeks at a time now.at least that way I can keep an eye on her..
wow here is my devotion for today from all devotion
Today we believe God wants us to know that you are on the right path.
Keep on walking, and one day you will turn back and see that all was as God meant it for you, - perfect.
now that speaks volumes to me this site has no idea what is going on in my life...it was sent to me at the perfect time..
Today we believe God wants us to know that you are on the right path.
Keep on walking, and one day you will turn back and see that all was as God meant it for you, - perfect.
now that speaks volumes to me this site has no idea what is going on in my life...it was sent to me at the perfect time..