He says that he will leave if I don't support him and his children financially.....

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I'd say stop solving problems and just tell them about Jesus. There is nothing we can do for someone who isn't willing to help themselves. We can pray and just share the love of Jesus.
 
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What's even more amazing is a similar situation like this pops up every other month or so...same income amounts, same story. Oh well, whadya gonna do, eh?

Happy late Thanksgiving.
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My duty or responsibility is to give an advice, help or comfort when somebody asks me for it, and when I'm able to give it. That's the way I see it.
If somebody is making up the stories and misuses the credulity of the others, it's a question of their conscience, not mine.
On the internet it's sometimes hard to recognize a "troll" but who am I to judge, who's in the need of help and who's just bored?
If I was in the situation of relatiosnhipdrama, I would write here for advice too, no matter if I'd be the third in a week or in a year.
Does that make me a troll?
 
Namiette said:
My duty or responsibility is to give an advice, help or comfort when somebody asks me for it, and when I'm able to give it. That's the way I see it.
If somebody is making up the stories and misuses the credulity of the others, it's a question of their conscience, not mine.
On the internet it's sometimes hard to recognize a "troll" but who am I to judge, who's in the need of help and who's just bored?
If I was in the situation of relatiosnhipdrama, I would write here for advice too, no matter if I'd be the third in a week or in a year.
Does that make me a troll?
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Goodness no, that doesn't make you a troll. Just made a comment that this exact same scenario - down to the income amounts even - pops up every other month and drags on for a while. Simply amazing.
Have a great day.
 
So, he says that he still loves me and is destroyed without me -- but that he can't be with me because his family (everyone) doesn't approve of me. He says that he wishes he could turn this around, but he can't.

He says he's broke and destroyed and that I have ruined his life and he can't possibly deal with drama anymore. I didn't respond to these texts and then i sgtarted getting calls from random local phone numbers. It was him calling to see where I am at and what the background noise was.. and now says he believes i am with another man..

I am at work and I am trying not to cry -- I am dying inside. I loved this man so much and he says he loves me -- but he's done. And the reason? I truly believe it's because his family is supporting him financially now and he said they will cut him off if he goes back with me.
 
Good. He's made the decision for you. No big loss, since he's been playing you for a fool all along. Good riddance to him..
 
i am trying so hard -- i need to remember that no matter what he says -- he will never be the knight and shining armour that I have built up in my head. He was amazing at times.... but he can be SO MEAN. The words he has used and the pain that has has caused me -- because he says EVERYTHING is my fault.

I am not okay -- I am so very destroyed... I am trying to beg God to take this pain away. I need to pray harder I guess...
 
God is yelling at you right in your face, to leave this relationship. You're not married to this guy, and all he does is treat you like dirt, and to him, that's what you are: dirt on a doormat. The sooner you realize that this guy is a manipulative greedy bum and is using you ONLY for your money, the better off you will be.

And the next woman will get treated like dirt also. Like you, she will be naive and foolish enough to think that because he buys her presents WITH HER MONEY, that he's treating her good. Absolute baloney. He won't ever change, not for you, and not for the next sucker he finds. End the manipulation NOW and kick him to the curb. Stop rationalizing, and stop thinking about who he used to be. Wake up and smell the reality..
 
It would be best for you to discontinue the relationship with him & solely focus on your relationship with God. He will heal & comfort you but you have to take yourself out of that situation of being hurt again. Also pray for him and don't develop any bitterness towards him. As the lord told us to pray & forgive those who mistreats us.
 
Honestly, part of me wants to get the protective order against him (since he keeps calling me from random numbers and hanging up and accuses me of being a cheater - even though we have been broken up for 2 weeks)

I want to give him some sense of responsibilty for what he's done.

He told me today via text that he's going to see a MONK tomorrow to see if he can help lift the evil spell he has on him....

He is Catholic, but not practicing and he's the type that only turns to God when it's out of necessity and I don't even really believe he truly turns to him.. he can be so mean and cold. I don't see much humility at all in him.. . of course I'm not saying i'm perfect...
 
This right here..

Stop rationalizing. Stop procrastinating. Let him go to a monk. Let him go, period. You're acting like a lovestruck puppy, waiting for someone to pick you up and take you in. Well, he took you in, all right. And he used you and manipulated you. Now it's time to grow up and cut the cord with this idiot once and for all.


Tommy379 said:
Bull crap.
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Who goes to a monk for anything other than beer, wine, and cheese? The op is a total nut.
 
blue_ladybug said:
She's referring to a catholic priest, I think.. And there's no need to call the OP a nut..
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Do you have any male relatives? Maybe a protective father or brother who owns a shot gun or who knows Kung Fu? Maybe you could go stay with a father, uncle, or brother for a while, or get a place to stay and have him come stay with you.
 
Umm, I think you replied to the wrong person, presidente. lol


presidente said:
Do you have any male relatives? Maybe a protective father or brother who owns a shot gun or who knows Kung Fu? Maybe you could go stay with a father, uncle, or brother for a while, or get a place to stay and have him come stay with you.
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