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I and my wife are both Christian and we're married in September 2016.
My wife has a married sister, and they are not Christian.
I have recently discovered that 5 years ago, my now brother in law made sexual advances to my wife, which were rebuffed.
My sister in law oblivious to this is wanting to visit with the man in question. My wife being a devout Christian has taken the stance of not repaying evil for evil, and has forgiven him.
I on the other hand would find it difficult to be in the same room with him. I have forgiven him, and as scripture says, as far as is possible, or I am able, whichever the exact quote is. This to me though does not mean I have to be his buddy, and play happy families when he visits.
I deal with it by not seeing him at all. My wife quite rightly says that to avoid him completely is going to be impossible.
My tension is between forgiving him as she has tried to do, and telling the truth in love, which he is consealing. If it were another Christian couple this would be easier, not easy, but easier. He is however in the world, and has the morals and values of the world.
How do I see him, especially as he is denying anything happened.
Advice please
My wife has a married sister, and they are not Christian.
I have recently discovered that 5 years ago, my now brother in law made sexual advances to my wife, which were rebuffed.
My sister in law oblivious to this is wanting to visit with the man in question. My wife being a devout Christian has taken the stance of not repaying evil for evil, and has forgiven him.
I on the other hand would find it difficult to be in the same room with him. I have forgiven him, and as scripture says, as far as is possible, or I am able, whichever the exact quote is. This to me though does not mean I have to be his buddy, and play happy families when he visits.
I deal with it by not seeing him at all. My wife quite rightly says that to avoid him completely is going to be impossible.
My tension is between forgiving him as she has tried to do, and telling the truth in love, which he is consealing. If it were another Christian couple this would be easier, not easy, but easier. He is however in the world, and has the morals and values of the world.
How do I see him, especially as he is denying anything happened.
Advice please