And your faith saving you over God's grace doesn't? those answers are from a human prospective, by the time you would know that you will be in the presents of a Holy, righteous and just God and you won't even be thinking about that, quote the Scripture that says we will know are family or friend when we are with the Lord in the New Heaven and New Earth, worshiping Him in the New Jerusalem?
Don't take this wrong, because there is no other way to say it. It's like you guys don't know how Holy, Righteous, Just God is and He has all knowledge that is why His judgement are pure and righteous and just, because of who He is. At the time you realize if you can, that your family was not elect, it wouldn't matter and this if we even will know who they are, but they will be justly judged by God as will I. You guys (for leak of a better term, can't think of one) keep making up the scenarios to discredit God, why would you do that? Why would anyone that loves God come up with ideas to make God look like a monster in the eyes of the natural man, because whatever God does is pure and right!
If He were to elect people to hell He would be right to do it, because all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, there is none righteous no, not one, they have all turned aside and have gone astray like sheep, the thoughts of their hearts are always evil and in their thoughts they don't honor God as God, but their thoughts are there is no God, because they love their sin rather then God, because they love their wicked ways, their hearts are deceitfully wicked, who can know it, no one seeks the Lord or His ways, they do not meditate on His Word or His precepts, statutes or law, the do not see Hs law as pure or sweeter than honey, because His Law reveals their wicked hearts, because they no Him not, they say there is no God! If they only knew that your Law is sweeter than honey comb, they would delight in it and worship you, because your mercies are from everlasting to everlasting and the are new every morning, you are awesome and wonderful, the mountains tremble at your voice, yet the wicked have no fear of you, by your Word the world leapt into existence by which you hold all things together, you call those things that do not exist as though they did.